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Have you noticed more questions about dating and relationship woes?

Asked by RealEyesRealizeRealLies (30938points) March 4th, 2010

Is it just me, or have you noticed yourself playing Doctor Phil more often than usual?

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njnyjobs's avatar

Really, I didn’t notice that . . . maybe I need to pay more attention

dpworkin's avatar

They are far too tedious not to ignore.

noyesa's avatar

Yes, and I’ve also noticed more questions about questions about dating and relationship woes. =)

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

Actually, I’ve noticed way more NSFW questions than relationship questions lately.

erichw1504's avatar

Ever since I’ve been a Flutherite I’ve noticed a lot of those questions. I guess it’s just a part of life, this relationship stuff.

@jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities Me too!

Blackberry's avatar

It’s because it’s time for spring cleaning, get rid of your old mate and get ready to whore over the Summer…...ahhhhh….Summertime lol.

aprilsimnel's avatar

It’s either cabin fever or it’s too close to spring. Who knows?

janbb's avatar

I get impatient with both types of questions at times and it is easy to be disparaging of the relationship questions. However, they seem to be by people really in pain, so I answer them when I feel like it and ignore them when I don’t have anything to offer.

Aethelwine's avatar

@jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities I agree. I’m waiting for Dr J to start wearing one of these.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Why yes,I have….hits the “Dump him” key ;)

gemiwing's avatar

it’s The Thaw

Cruiser's avatar

It is these types of questions that I wish we had sound effects to choose from to add to our answers!

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

@jonsblond Ha! Nothing says sexy like Spongebob.

rebbel's avatar

We need a RelationShipProblems-Tab.

partyparty's avatar

@Blackberry Oh yes indeed… summer is on its way!!

aprilsimnel's avatar

Or just send everyone to this handy link: DTMFA

tinyfaery's avatar

Yes. And you just asked another one.

CMaz's avatar

I have also noticed the use of the letter “a”.

Buttonstc's avatar

Unfortunately, yes. And they are pretty much variants on “he/she treats me bad but I love them soooo much. What can I do ?”

As previously pointed out


Get your self respect back already.

ucme's avatar

It’s fucking amazing, every question ends with ? What the fuck is all that about. What exactly does? mean.Is it some fancy internet jargon.Confused, you will be.Join us next week for another edition of soap.

Jude's avatar

Yup. “Questions for Me”- ” Not Interested” – dump.

wundayatta's avatar

I suspect fluther must be getting a reputation for answering these. I wonder what happens if you google such questions.

thriftymaid's avatar

Just a consequence of people dating and having sex way too young as well as no parental role models.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Sex & relationships. yawn

janbb's avatar

@jbfletcherfan Aw – What side of the bed did you get out of today?

Val123's avatar

Yeah….and the answers are all the same, “Dump him/her.” Why do they even ask?

janbb's avatar

@Val123 Because it’s so much easier to tell someone else to do than to do yourself?

Val123's avatar

@janbb I’d be afraid to post those kinds of questions, because I’d feel like a fool.

CMaz's avatar

Awww @Val123… Who is making you feel like a fool? Tell us. :-)

Val123's avatar

@ChazMaz No one! Unless I posted a question about how horrible some guy was being to me, and what should I do. THEN I’d feel like a fool! It would be like posting a question, “When I hit my thumb with a hammer, it hurts. What should I do?”

Val123's avatar

AND has anyone noticed that, invariably, those questions are rife with bad grammar, typos and mis-spellings?

CMaz's avatar

Guilty! (hand raised)

Kokoro's avatar

@Val123 It’s not as easy as it seems when you’re the outside party. When you’re involved with someone you care about, you tend to make excuses for their behavior… and that’s natural. We want to think the best of who we love. Unfortunately there’s that cloudiness that prevents us from seeing what’s real and thus we ask advice. Sometimes people may listen, some don’t. Some need to figure it out for themselves, but at least they’ve been told so they can at least think about it. I know it took me a year and a half to finally realize that the advice everyone was giving me was correct. It really is hard, and it sucks.

Val123's avatar

@Kokoro Thank you. You are right.

Blackberry's avatar

Yes I sometimes wonder what makes some clingy, and people that will drop anyone after making one bad mistake. I prefer to be the latter, there’s too many people that need to be loved : )

Trillian's avatar

Relationship and sex questions. Yes. I answered a couple sex questions but then realized that I may have been more honest or revealed more intimate information than was appropriate. I try to stay away from the sex questions now, but I read the relationship ones out of curiosity. I’ll jump in sometimes too unless they’re so badly worded and spelled that I don’t dare say anything for fear I’ll shred the poor dope.

janbb's avatar

@Trillian Dope shredding being a specialty here at Fluther. :-)

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@Trillian I’m with you due to the fact that I don’t tell much, if anything, on a sex question. That’s MY private business! It amazes me as to what people tell on here. Unbelievable!

janbb's avatar

me too!

YARNLADY's avatar

Yes, I have noticed that. My theory is that when Fluther opened itself up to places like Facebook and Tumblr, they started pouring in.

Janka's avatar

Yes, I have noticed it; I’ve been wondering if it is just the Fluther recommender thinking I am Dr. Phil or if it is everyone.

Val123's avatar

@jbfletcherfan (All I know about you and your sex life is that you have about 30 babies a year! What does that make you? Oh. I know. A busy beaver. HA HA HA HAHAAHAAH!!!!)

(I’m with you on the privacy thing. I don’t get people who want to call me a prude or whatever, just because I don’t care to discuss the inner workings of my vagina with the world…..)

Violet's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies have you ever been on Answerbag? omg, if you think there’s a lot of relationship question here on fluther, it’s so much worse on Answerbag. And for some reason everyday, girls ask ‘Am I Pregnant?’ questions. (there’s nothing that I hate more than the ‘am i pregnant’ questions)
As for the sex questions (that I ask a lot of).. it’s a category here on fluther. I feel like I should be able to ask questions about sex, and talk about my sex life, without being judged. But after reading some comments on this thread, I feel like I am being judged

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar


I hereby judge it appropriate to ask and discuss anything you want to talk about.

We could use more discussion in this world.

Perhaps my intentions for this Q were misguided. It sounds like I’m complaining and I really don’t mean to. I’m more taken back with just how many people seem unhappy in their relationships. It’s humerous and sad at the same time. I often wonder if Relationship Management should be taught in grade school and more. Maybe some courses in Self Respect would be nice. Patience 101 followed up with Advanced Empathy. Seed these principles in our youth. Parents seem to be failing their children in this area.

Of course, if you taught a Sexual Experience course along with it, we’d have a huge hit! More talk of sensuality, sexuality and relationships only offers a chance to make the world a better place for everyone. I wish I’d learned more about it earlier in life.

Violet's avatar

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies oh hunny, you were not complaining at all, and it wasn’t your question or comments that sounded judgmental.

Val123's avatar

@Violet Discuss away…..if people jump in your question (rather than just ignoring it) shame on them. Personally, I can’t fathom why you’d want to discuss your sex life! But….that’s just me.

Violet's avatar

@Val123 why would anyone not want to discuss their sex life?

Val123's avatar

@Violet Um…for what reason?

thriftymaid's avatar

@Violet @Val123 Violet, I guess I’m not the only one who feels that it is personal and private. There seem to be many who are willing to discuss it with you. That’s the nice thing about a site like this, people may discuss what they feel comfortable discussing.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

We tend to find ourselves discussing the very things we’re most fond of.

Violet's avatar

@Val123 the same reason people talk about any subject; to learn, share knowledge, and talk about things we enjoy.
@RealEyesRealizeRealLies you are so right
@thriftymaid but is it fair to judge those who talk about sex? Did you read many of the comments in this thread?

Janka's avatar

@Violet While I am personally tired of the number of relationship and sex questions in my feed, I did not mean in any way to imply that I would want to forbid people from asking them.

Violet's avatar

@Janka I totally understand, and that was very nice of you to say. I didn’t think your other comment was talking about sex

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