{NSFW} Ladies, how important to you was / is your first lover?

I can’t remember his last name. Enough said.

My first used me. So no.

Do you mean first boyfriend, or first person you had sex with?

@Dibley I suppose the first person you had sex with.

I have just heard from my “first love” not too long ago. She was my 3rd grade girl friend.

It REALLY bums me out that she is not doing so well. I think more then I would feel for anyone else.

She was married to a real DICK.

@ChazMaz Your a proper, stand-up bloke!

The first person I had sex with was a holiday romance. I expected sex to be a lot more than it was but he was special, is still special. I think about him occasionally.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Silence speaks a thousand words….

@jonsblond That’s a real b*stard, I’m sorry. Still, fingers crossed he caught Herpes at some much later date eh?!

@Cloverfield What do you mean?

@Cloverfield haha…I heard he was one of the fat ones at the high school reunion. ;)

He is as important to me as air is.

He’s not even important enough to shoot.

He has no importance to me in my life right now. He is not the person I would have chosen today.

I love him very much :)

he contributed to the eagerness of my decision to come out of the closet… so I would NEVER have to do it again xD

@Simone_De_Beauvoir It was just how your answer felt…. so little detail or information or anything, I guess my thinking was, if silence says a thousand words, then your answer said 999 words.

@jonsblond Hahaha, oh revenge is sooooo sweet :)

@wtfrickinfrack Ah, well….. At least he served a purpose I suppose :) Hell, you could really destroy his self-esteem if you ever said that to him… “First time with you put me off men for life!” Awesome!

@Cloverfield nah, there was no big drama – I literally can’t remember enough things about him…he’s clearly no longer a part of my life, in any sense

She was the person who defined pure love is for me. The bar was set incredibly high because of her. We had not seen each other in more than 20 years, but we had lunch together just a few days ago.

I looked up my first crush about 6 years ago after I divorced…he was still amazingly sexy, and amazingly arrogant. Glad I purged that one for eternity! We dated for about a year until I couldn;t stand him any longer!
The sex was great though! hahahahaha

@Cloverfield good point! No worries though… he’s a prick ;) lol

Nah. Third time was the charm for me.

yes…a special place in the sense that I’d cut the bastard’s willy off if I had a chance…

Fairly important. He was a great guy who treated me well, and my first time was fan-freaking-tastic, so I use him occasionally as a bit of a yardstick for other lovers (although not so much in terms of orgasms so much as respectful of me and the like).

Mine was important enough to send me therapy for a while. Slimeball and scumbag come to mind. But then again, he wasn’t a lover he was a predator.

I know there are a lot of great guys out there (I married one), but holy hannah there are a ton of assholes out there too.

@tranquilsea I’m so sorry about that…. I do sometimes dispaire over us men, what the f**k goes through our heads at times.

I think that they do hold a special place in our hearts because from them we learn how to love and care for another person. And if you had sex with them im pretty sure that person would be somewhat special.

@Cloverfield Thank you for the kind words.

I don’t know what comes over guys sometimes, but the result can be pretty harsh.

Thankfully, my hubby has shown me what a good guy can be.

@tranquilsea I dealt with a lot of assholes before my husband too. I’m glad you found a nice guy that will treat you right. :)

@jonsblond Thank you. He is a really great guy. We are fast coming up to our 16th anniversary and he has shown again and again that there are good and kind guys if you can get beyond all the other types of guys.

Sorry to hear you dealt with jerks too, although jerks is probably a too tame word for them.

Yes he does. He was so gross I cried for a week over putting out to such an incredible pig.He was a good looking pig, but a pig all the same. I set my standards much higher after that, so for that life lesson I thank him.

Important to me during that part of my life, but he’s not in the picture anymore. I slept with him once, and then he didn’t speak to me for months.

Maybe the sex left him speechless! lolololol

Mine was a guy I dated for two years. We started having sex 6 months into the relationship, but we were both still pretty young and since it was the first time for both of us, it wasn’t very good. At the time, I thought it was pretty good, but now I realize it was nothing in comparison to…this. lol. Anyhow, he’s very important to me. He was my first relationship, first everything sexual, and we’re still friends. He actually just came out to Colorado with his girlfriend and stayed with me for a week. It was a lot of fun…it wasn’t awkward at all which made me happy, since we had a really bad breakup and for almost a year afterwards we could barely be in the same room together without being so annoyed one of us had to leave. It was so stupid. But now all is well, hurrah.

@deni Thank you Deni, thats just what I was hoping to hear :)

Eh, not extremely important. I’m glad he was my “first love” and it wasn’t a terrible experience, but other than that..he means nothing to me.

He’s still the most important thing in my world and I hope it remains that way.

He was my first lover and my first real love. I still think about him from time to time.

Ladies, how important to you was / is your first lover?
I am curious about whether your first lover holds a special place in a ladies heart?
Good Questions.
At the time, he was very important to me. We had sex on and off for 10 years.
I wouldn’t say he holds a special place in my heart, but I’ll never forget him.

Not important and there are no fond memories. We were two virgins who didn’t want to be any longer and the whole things was awkward and completely unenjoyable for us both.