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Is it normal to have crushes while in a relationship??

Asked by kendra08 (21points) March 8th, 2008
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nicoleanna69's avatar

of course its normal were human! Just make sure it disent go further than a crush , then u won’t be considered human , you be something else LOL

squirbel's avatar

I dunno, when I’m in a relationship I’m blind (emotionally & physically) to other guys. That makes it extremely easy to flirt though, and I do it often and without worry.

I guess some people crush while in a relationship, but I’d have to ask the crusher if they would leave their current for the crushee… If so, time to go.

DJM's avatar

if u got a crush on somebody else, ur current relationship is over. Sorry. Its not an issue of good or bad, just reality

iSteve's avatar

It’s normal when something is lacking in your current relationship.

delirium's avatar

As long as you don’t act on it, its normal.
I am a total flirt. Always have been, and always will be. I am very up front about being in a relationship with the man I love, though.

Valhalla30's avatar

I think it’s totally normal but “crushes” can sometimes lead to someone being cheated on and hurt. What is more important is not acting on it and if you intend to act on it, have the courage to end it with the person you are currently in a relationship with, first.

scamp's avatar

Why sure it’s normal honey! just because you’re on a diet, doesn’t mean you can’t check out the menu!! ha ha!!
Seriously tho.. there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you know where to draw the line.

djbuu's avatar

its also normal to act on it….

Emilyy's avatar

I think you know when you have a relationship that you really want to stay in when you don’t get other crushes, or at least they become few and far between. In my least successful relationships, I seemed to have much more of a wandering eye than I do in a better relationship. I mean, it makes sense: If you’re happy with what you’ve got, there’s no reason to look elsewhere.

deepseas72's avatar

I don’t get crushes, but I definately notice most hot guys that i see. Thats something that I have wondered about…I love my partner with all my heart and don’t have any desire to ever stray. He’s the person I want to spend my life with, and the only person I want to have sexual relations with, yet I LOVE looking at hot guys and sometimes play out sexual fantasies in my head when we are intimate. Is that ok??? Sorry to throw my own problems into your question, kendra, but while you have a captive audience….

Bri_L's avatar

I think it depends on your definition of “crush”. I had a girlfriend who had a “crush” on a guy. It wasn’t serious she said. A year later they were married. Worked out for me I guess but still.

I agree with Scamp (big surprise there :-).

missbabyboo's avatar

no its not really normal..if your gf/bf crushes while in the beginning of the relationship, id say its sorta normal because girls sometimes tend to like more than one guy when theyre not dating…and sometimes same with guys but rare..

but if it occurs while in the realtionship for a while, then its probably because youre other half is sorta losing interest in you and is attracted to someone else

MissAnthrope's avatar

It’s kind of funny that the majority on this question says it’s a bad thing, while the majority here says it’s no biggie.

Zaku's avatar

Baa! ;-)

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