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Plone3000's avatar

Do I have a chance with this girl?

Asked by Plone3000 (668points) April 28th, 2010

I know this girl who I really like at school. Im 18 and she is 15, I know it’s a little bit of a gap, but im a strong beliver that age should not be a boundry. I talk to her in school, but thats it. She jokes with me saying that she “stalks” me and she reacently “liked” on of my facebook pics, thats somethin rite?!

Should I ask her out?

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chels's avatar

Age is a boundary when one is not even at the age of concent.

However if you still want to pursue her, then just ask her how she feels.

gorillapaws's avatar

Go for it, just be careful about your local statutory rape laws. You could wind up registering as a sex offender for the rest of your life along with REAL rapists if you’re in the wrong state and her parent’s don’t like you.

Plone3000's avatar

@chels im not trying to “get in her pants” if thats what your asking, but thank you.

Plone3000's avatar

@gorillapaws you have a good point, but I don’t think that will happen.
Thank you.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Very few people THINK that the worst will happen to them… but that has no bearing on whether or not it actually happens. Age really shouldn’t be an issue between consenting adults… however, your friend is only 15. I think you’re much better off moving on. She may be flattered that an older boy is interested in her, but I suspect that her parents will be less than thrilled.

jrpowell's avatar

In Oregon this would get you in a lot of trouble. It isn’t statutory rape but it is sexual misconduct. If you are over eighteen and there is a three year age difference your life can be made hell.

While you don’t think anything will go wrong she might end up getting pissed when she thinks you are flirting with another girl at a party. She could call the cops and you would be fucked without even getting fucked.

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

15? Dude you need to go older by about 3 years.
Also, this is not going to be your wife.

I have to go with “no” on this one, not because you couldn’t get with but because you shouldn’t get with her.

15! Not ok!

Plone3000's avatar

@TheOnlyNeffie & @johnpowell this is all very good advice, but I am very short and no one that I can find is my height, im no big foot ball player, im just a scrany, nice kid. I have no intent on haveing sexual relations with this girl.

Plone3000's avatar

There is a huge gap between my parents, and I think you people are not ansering the qustion.

chels's avatar

@Plone3000 Yes. But I’m sure your parents weren’t 15 when they decided to get together. Also, we are answering the question. More importantly, we’re looking out for you.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Of course we are answering your question. In fact, I did exactly that. I think this girl would be flattered to have an older guy show an interest in her. That doesn’t make it right to do so. When you are BOTH adults, of course 3 years is a very small difference. But the truth of the matter is, at 15, she is still a child. And since you are 18, you have to make the adult decision to let her BE a child. If you still like her in 3 years, then make a move.
I also find it hard to believe that there aren’t plenty of petite girls in your own age group.

Plone3000's avatar

Wow, I think im gona cry…just keep in mind im no creaper
Thanks everyone.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

eeek, don’t cry! come on, no one said that you were a bad guy, or a pedophile, or a creeper, or anything like that. it’s just one of those situations where it’s probably best to walk away. most people find themselves in a situation like that at some point. adulthood can suck sometimes. ;)

evandad's avatar

The difference between 15 and 18 is a lot more than 3 years

SeventhSense's avatar

You’re in. She says she’s “stalking you”. Just be cool and let it happen. Most 15 year old girls are twice as mature as 18 year old guys anyway.

Likeradar's avatar

You probably do have a chance with her, but it might not go anywhere. I wouldn’t be allowed out of the house when I was a 15 year old and dating an 18 year old. If her parents have an issue, drop it immediately.

It’s not about a 3 year age difference. I’m currently living with someone 6 years older than me, and I dated a guy 16 years older than me. But I was an adult. The vast majority of 15 year olds are still very much children, whether or not you realize it. As someone else said, there is WAY more than 3 years between the average 15 year old and the average 18 year old.

BoBo1946's avatar

when you are 90, she will be 87 wow….go for it!

cornbird's avatar

She is too young for you boy….move on.

cornbird's avatar

I believe there is a reggage tune that describes this” Go home to your momma, your momma, youre too young to be my lova, oh yea”.

john65pennington's avatar

You are an adult and she is a minor. remember this above anything else. her parents may have a little something to say about this situation. i would look somewhere else.

Tink's avatar

I’m gonna go with no, too. Even though I am 15 as well. I’ve seen how girls try to/get with older guys just to prove a point to others that they can get with an adult. Not a good idea if she ends up pregnant and baby daddy decides to disappear.

Disc2021's avatar

Do you really think you two will be compatible on a mental level? Do you plan on going off to college soon? Do you really think a 15 year old girl (which to begin with, 15 is far too young for a mature, serious committed relationship) is a suitable partner for someone like yourself, who is ready for ready to venture into early adulthood?

In reality, you’re going to do what you want, but I think there’s a few things you should consider. Would it really “work out” even if it worked out initially?

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Someone wrote something about what might happen if the girl gets mad and you for some reason and then makes up false stories. I’ve seen it happen under my own nose, just like that! The guy and girl had been together since she was 15 and at 17 she got mad at him and told the sheffrif’s dept. he’d been trying to get on with that they’d been a couple which cost him any chance to ever get that job, something he said he’d wanted always. oops.

jeneatha's avatar

in a teenage girls point of view: i have been told i flirt with guys by doing the same thing, even though i dont mean to protray myself that way. it depends on how she interacts with other guys. if she doesnt seem to flirt with a lot of guys i say go for it, but if she does then you should take her aside and ask her whats up. and i know it sounds wack, but it will make her tell you what you need to hear.

sarahjane90's avatar

When I was 15, I had a boyfriend who was 17. He even ‘seemed’ a lot older to me, even at that time. Now that I look back, I guess it wasn’t that much of a difference… but the gap in experience between 15 and 18 is huge.

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