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What is something that you learned through experience?

Asked by jfos (7362points) April 30th, 2010

A lot of things that we learn are taught to us—either by ourselves or others. Some things, however, are instead learned through experience.

What is something (or what are some things) that you learned by doing? Was this intentional or did it just happen?

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Cartman's avatar

Not to trust people, and yet I do, again and again.

TILA_ABs_NoMore's avatar

That marrying a man in hopes that he will change doesnt work….and what @Cartman said

CMaz's avatar

@TILA_ABs_NoMore – Ditto, replacing the word “man” with woman. :-)

gailcalled's avatar

That no one is watching me and judging what I am wearing at a wedding, party, Bar Mitzvah or walking down Main St.

That if I smile a lot, people think either I’ve just gotten a good hair cut or lost some weight.

That if you want to start a conversation in my town, bring up pets.

That I ignore my pessimistic advice from my father; “Expect the worst from people.”

That I set the standard for my own life.

That I do enjoy having a cat.

That I like having friends where there is a balance between “me” and “him/her.”

That when I multitask, I screw up both tasks.

TILA_ABs_NoMore's avatar

@ChazMaz Marriage is over-rated ;-)

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Be careful what questions you throw out, because they might hangout forever.

wundayatta's avatar

Most things in life, it seems to me, are learned through experience. I’ve learned about emotional pain. I’ve learned how to sell. I’ve learned how to project confidence. I’ve learned how to understand what motivates people to do apparently perverse things. I’ve learned how to cook. I’ve learned how to handle my finances. I’ve learned how not to trade individual stocks. And oh so much more.

CMaz's avatar

@TILA_ABs_NoMore – I think ya just can’t be in a hurry and sacrifice comes after there is a connection. :-)

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I learned not to put a bobby pin into an electrical outlet ;)

Exhausted's avatar

I’m hard-headed. Most everything I’ve learned has been from experience in spite of exceptional insghts shared by those who had “been there and done that!” I think the most valuable thing I’ve learned is to accept other’s right to be who they choose to be regardless of how I feel about their choices.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille How many times did it take to figure that out?

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

I’ve learned who to trust and not to spend too much time worrying about the untrustworthy.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille I knew you Michiganers were fast learners.

susanc's avatar

I learned how to live in one place for a long time.

cazzie's avatar

You can’t run away from your problems…...

Cruiser's avatar

I learned that if it is too good to be true to make sure you save the receipt and to never lend anything that you can’t do without ever seeing again.

TILA_ABs_NoMore's avatar

Oh!!! And never…NEVER…LEND a friend money. If you have it, give it as a gift and don’t expect to get it back!

BoBo1946's avatar

when to listen rather than open my mouth!

Blackberry's avatar

Marrying someone after knowing them for 4 months turns out to not be a good idea lol!

lilikoi's avatar

I learn everything by experience.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Not to go back to the same syphillitic hooker.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Through experience I learned that I am better suited to be with someone that is my equal, that is inspiring and that wants an open relationship. Through experience I learned how to be a more effective parent and how to let go of negative people. Through experience I learned that I am highly effective at any job I choose to do and that no matter the task or goal, I will beat it by far. I have learned to take better care of my body and mind and to set time aside to care for myself. I have learned true love is more important than anything else, period and that people don’t really want to hear that you’ve got it.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I only have to experience that burning sensation for 10 or 12 times to learn.

ConfusedKid's avatar

Being utterly amazing in every way ;)

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir And she didn’t even give me a discount.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir On the plus side, with all the scar tissue, I can piss 10 feet.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe you’re just a charmer you are but I think we’re derailing the q a bit, pm if you want to chat

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

My apologies to jfos. Back to the question.

jfos's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe It’s cool. Just don’t let it happen again.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Another thing I learned the hard way was don’t try to do hurdles on wet grass. Your plant foot doesn’t plant.

CMaz's avatar

Dog biscuits are nothing special.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Little friskies aren’t much better. Yeah, served em at a party.

thriftymaid's avatar

To listen to my intuition; ignoring it may cause heartache.
To say how you feel; you may not have another opportunity.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

I have learned that we never learn enough about life and that even when we think we know something, we actually still have no idea what it is really all about. I am learning because I cannot yet say I have learned, not to judge others so harshly because everyone ticks in a different way and I have no right whatsoever to judge other people’s actions just as they have no right to judge mine.

YARNLADY's avatar

Wait long enough and the doctors will realize that the so-called “women’s problems – it’s all in your head” really is a treatable, medical condition.

Patience is a lot easier than worrying, since it really does get better with time.

charliecompany34's avatar

how to cook.

the experience has to be over two decades of being in the kitchen for two wives, three kids, (from the second wife only thank God), the bachelor life, the legally separated with a bachelor pad life, the college years working part-time in a trendy grocery store, cooking day in and day out for family, parties, BBQs, culinary wanna-be’s, banquets, wedding parties, super bowl parties, for people who don’t have at least one onion in the house, the non-cooks, you name it.

the experience is great. wish i’d gone to culinary school…

ftp901's avatar

Things never turn out to be as bad as you imagine they will

When you set expectations for other people, they will usually rise to them

All of your dreams will not come true…and that’s okay

gailcalled's avatar

@charliecompany34: It’s never too late. Did you see Julie and Julia? Do you remember Julia’s scenes at Le Cordon Bleu cooking school and her determination to mince an onion faster than any French poseur?

shego's avatar

Spending money to save a relationship doesn’t work.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I finally learned that an ideal mate is someone who is just right for you as they are, not someone you think you can fix or improve by doing enough for them and loving them enough.

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