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I know I should send my dad birthday greetings, might the Collective help motivate me?

Asked by SuperMouse (30782points) October 2nd, 2010

So my birthday a couple of weeks ago came and went without a word from my father. His birthday is this weekend and I know I should call with greetings but I am somewhat bitter and don’t really want to do it. I know it is the right thing to do and I should make the call, but I could really use some help getting motivated to get it done. Any words of wisdom?

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tinyfaery's avatar

My dad never calls for my birthday so I don’t call for his. Sure, I feel a bit guilty, but I see no reason to go out of my way to do for him what he has never done for me. I do, however, send a card.

mrrich724's avatar

My stepdad never calls me for mine, but I call him for his. If you let yourself behave in a manner based on how everyone else behaves, you’d have the potential to be a horrible person, because there will always be people out there who let you down. If you add to it, it’s not gonna make life any better!

Who knows, if you call him, he may feel bad about not calling you and you can still get yours while being the better person ;)

Cupcake's avatar

What about email or a card in the mail? Sometimes sending a greeting without talking is a LOT easier.

jaytkay's avatar

I wish I could wish my dad a happy birthday. We didn’t have the best relationship but he died a few years ago and I still sometimes think, “Dad would enjoy this” or “Dad could answer this question”. Appreciate ‘em while you’ve got ‘em.

I don’t mean to be overly dramatic, I am not disturbed or wracked with guilt about this. I just miss him sometimes.

mjekstein's avatar

My Dad has been gone for 10 years and I should would love to call him and wish him Happy Birthday! Life is too short, get over it, forgive and forget if you do have a grudge of some sort. Change your attitude and show him heartful love, he will see the change in you and…well i think you get the message. It’s all about Love to him and others.

marinelife's avatar

Perhaps your dad’s memory is faltering. Are there things he did that you appreciated when you were growing up?

Take the time to call him on his birthday and tell him. You will feel glad you did afterward.

chyna's avatar

Be the better person and call him on his birthday. Some people just don’t think those kind of things matter, so maybe he is one of those people. When he is gone, you can feel good that you made the effort.

tranquilsea's avatar

My father has never acknowledged my birthday or any of my siblings birthdays. He’s never even called me to say hi.

That being said, when I have time I send him cards and presents. It’s not his fault he is so out to lunch.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Someone told me that your children will grow up to treat you as you treat your parents. Do it because you will feel better if you do, because for you it is the right thing to do.

YARNLADY's avatar

When somebody wrongs you, be sure to wrong him back to teach him a lesson. NOT
You need to remember how bad you felt, and go out of your way to see that you aren’t the cause of the same thing.

wilma's avatar

My dad died 10 months ago. I’m really, really glad that on his last birthday, I saw him and told him Happy Birthday.
If I hadn’t, I know that it would bother me forever.

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