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babygalll's avatar

Does anyone ever feel like they are alone?

Asked by babygalll (2748points) March 30th, 2008
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Randy's avatar

73.4% of the time, yes. The other 26.6% of the time I don’t thanks to fluther.com though.

lovelyy's avatar

okay this is very cliché but literally in a room full of people i still feel alone.
i think everyone sometime in their life feels the exact same way, that is
the reason why that phrase is so over used. it’s not even that i don’t have friends
or the family that would accompany myself, it’s more like…wow i have no idea actually.

hurleygrlblink's avatar

that is a really deep question when you think about it, but I believe everyone feels alone at some point in their life, whether it be physically or emotionally, but yes I think its quite a common feeling among everyone!

fluther does help though!

2late2be's avatar

no i dont, my baby make my life and time worth every day, every second..

Poser's avatar

We are all, ultimately, alone.

Spargett's avatar

It’s a totally natural and normal feeling to have. We’re social creatures. Live in packs, I mean tribes, I mean families.

So any prolonged detachment from that and you’ll feel “lonely”. Just like a fish out of water.

DeezerQueue's avatar

There is an insightful article on the site for Psychology Today about this. I relish my solitude and rarely feel lonely, I am quite comfortable being by myself.

There was a time when I experienced loneliness and that was when my father died, with whom I was good friends, because he always had been in my existence, I feel completely uprooted and displaced, as though the sense of certainty had vanished.

Bsilver's avatar

More often than not, yeah, I feel alone, and as lovelyy pointed out, sometimes that feeling occurs in even a crowded room.

Personally for me, I think it’s because up until recently I didn’t have anyone to share life with, until I went out with the guy I’ve been seeing, I had never been on a date, never had a relationship (and I know, I’m still young, but it makes you kind of lonely to hear people talk about their experiences when you haven’t had them)

I guess what I’m trying to say/ask is that a lot of people feel alone, and if you’re asking this question because you yourself feel alone, why do you feel that way? Maybe one of us can offer some insight or share experiences. I know sometimes that feeling can trigger some scary thoughts, and we wouldn’t want anything bad to happen. (just saying in general, not necessarily saying it’s happening to you)

crackerjack's avatar

I am taking a quote from the movie Donnie Darko “every living creature on earth dies alone”.
If you truly believe that you will die alone, then yes you will always feel alone. Many times I have felt alone whether if I actually was by myself or like others have stated, around many people.

If i feel alone around many people, usually it’s due to one of a few major reasons
1. The others have hung out more and so have more interests and know eachother better.
2. I can’t find anything to talk about that the people relate to
3. I am have a down day because something very wrong has happened
4. Myself and the others in the room are not on the same intellectual level, so if I try to talk, they do not understand what I mean and so they just stare at me and then leave me alone

The way that I have found comfort is that I found a wonderful girlfriend who listens no matter what, or I have realized that although the people do not share the same interests, I can still discuss what their saying and try to see it from their view

iSteve's avatar

I do. The worst is feeling alone while surrounded by people, which happened a lot when I was really depressed. Are you feeling depressed at all?

babygalll's avatar

No, not depressed. I feel like that at times too. I could be around family and friends, yet I feel alone. The majority are married/engaged with kids, so I don’t know if it has something to do with that. I tend to avoid family/friend events where the majority will be couples.

Spargett's avatar

Is it that you are having a hard time identifying or relating to those close to you?

DeezerQueue's avatar

When I first moved out on my own, I felt alone. A person gets used to another person being in the house or knowing that someone will be there at some point, the noise, knowing that someone is available to say something to, no matter how trivial it may sometimes be. When you’re on your own for the first time it almost feels like someone muzzles you, there are thoughts you have that you’d ordinarily share, but no one to share them with.

I realized fairly quickly that I should learn to enjoy being alone, going places by myself, without a date, because you don’t take dates home with you to live, just because you need to have someone hear your thoughts.

While some may find it peculiar, I simply learned how to converse with myself (not necessarily out loud), to hold my own conversations and even enjoy them. It didn’t mean that I wanted to be alone, it meant that I was not only all right with it, but that I learned to like it.

Forcing myself to go out on my own was my way of dealing with it quickly, an admission that I was alone and that I could eventually function and live happily in that state.

blippio's avatar

This makes me think of “Oh, the places you’ll go” by Dr. Seuss (it may be a bit corny, but it really does have a way of summing life up nicely) An excerpt:


I’m afraid that some times
you’ll play lonely games too.
Games you can’t win
‘cause you’ll play against you.

Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you’ll be quite a lot.

And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance
you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike
and I know you’ll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You’ll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3 / 4 percent guaranteed.)
...

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