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Is it better to say something stupid to a guy or nothing at all?

Asked by skateangel (321points) October 6th, 2010

There’s this guy I really like but I’m afraid I said something stupid to him cause I get shy and it’s hard to keep a conversation going. Are guys turned off by that? Would it have been better if I didn’t say anything at all? Thanks:)

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Gypsy116's avatar

In general guys like you to just be yourself. If this includes “stupid” responses, then so be it. You want him to like you for who you are. Plus, what if this is something he finds attractive?

BeanAc's avatar

No, but he probably won’t turn off the conversation if it’s within his intrests. You need to be his friend first before you step further, and if you say something stupid show him how fun you are by laughing it off or admitting it if he is the type. If he is shy, ask him a general question, like if he is wearing a band t shirt say “Hey I love that band!” just engage in what he likes, rather than what you like. Once you get to know him, he’ll start to like you. Don’t dump it all on him, make him want to know you more. If you don’t say anything at all, then how will you get to know him?

aprilsimnel's avatar

Girl, you know what? Just go ahead and say something stupid. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Anyway, you can’t make judgements on his behalf. You don’t know how his mind works. For all you know, he’ll think what you say is charming. If he doesn’t, at least you’ll know where you’ll stand. Confidence in yourself goes a long way, and besides, he’s just some guy. I mean that in all honesty, not to be mean. You’re no less than he is – both human beings. Don’t put him on a pedestal!

Ask him questions about himself, and that way, you simply respond to what he’s saying, and you’re showing interest in who he is.

marinelife's avatar

It would not have been better to say nothing. You need to just relax around him and be yourself.

mrentropy's avatar

As a guy who’s been on the receiving end of the “not saying anything,” I’d say it’s better to say something, anything, than nothing at all. Saying nothing says you’re not interested in any way, shape or form.

bob_'s avatar

I agree with @mrentropy. Say something. We tend to see “not sayng anything” as “I don’t want to talk to you”.

Theotherkira's avatar

Go ahead and say something! If he thinks it’s stupid, maybe he’s not worth your time. I write letters to people, and the guy I like and I always talk about PANCAKES. One day he asked me to write him a letter about it. See? Guys say stupid things too. You’re fine.

flutherother's avatar

If he likes you he won’t think it is stupid and if he doesn’t like you it won’t matter.

Vincent_Lloyd's avatar

Hahaha I have the same issue. And I’m a guy. No,no,no I don’t think it’s a turn off. I like it! It’s cute. And I think it’s better to say something rather than nothing since you never know what could happen or what could have happened. So don’t make a fuss outta that. I like it, I think it’s cute. So might the other guy. Good luck with him (I’m shy too so don’t worry you’re not alone in this.) =)

stratman37's avatar

It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.

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