But as a rule, no, @nikipedia. I bring food or drink to party expecting it to be eaten, drank or left for the hosts. I think that is what you meant with the question. I think I misread the question the first time. sorry
Generally, no. But I do want to take my dishes, pots and pans, or tupperware home. So if there are leftovers it gets brought up in conversation as “where can I store the leftovers so you can enjoy them?” Most of the time I get asked to take it home.
If I bring food I expect the host to eat it. Usually anything I bring is eaten within minutes ;)
Also, unless impossible due to the type of item I’ve brought, I serve it up on something the host can keep. If I don’t have something in my collection I go to the nice thrift store down the street from my home to buy a platter or server ware to put the food/drinks in.
@SpatzieLover, very considerate. I use disposable thingies, but it never occurred to me to pick up thrift store dishes.
We had some people over for a barbecue on the 4th, and a friend of mine sent me a text mentioning he forgot to bring his leftovers home and asked me to bring them to him (we work together). I forgot and felt bad about it until I realized that it might have been an odd request in the first place.
Interesting. That’s the first time I have ever heard of someone asking for their dish’s leftovers after the party. Maybe at the end of the party, but a day later is a new one for the books. Even my uber frugal 95 year-old aunt doesn’t do this. She just wants her dish back before she leaves.
That is an odd request. I would have told him it was all gone. What you bring to a barbeque is for everyone to share, it doesn’t remain yours. It is for the host/hostess to decide what to do with any leftovers.
Not usually. Now, I do know that hosts/hostesses often offer little “goody boxes” for leftover sweets or something like that when people are leaving. But when I take a dish, I expect it to be eaten, or for the host of the party to keep it if they so choose.
I’m also one of the ones who usually takes the food in something that I don’t mind leaving behind. I have abandoned numerous cheap cake platters and casserole dishes.
Nope. If there is something left over, I see it as a gift to the host for going through the pain of hosting the party, what with the prep and clean up after, etc…
What did this person bring to the BBQ that he wanted back? The only time I would imagine this happened is if he cooked something he was proud of but it wasn’t very popular… maybe he was a bit insulted/sad but still wanted to make sure it was eaten and not wasted? I dunno, that’s all I can think of.
No. If by chance, the host insists I take the leftovers home, and it’s something I like, I may agree to take some home, but by no means is it something I expect. To me, it belongs to the host and I don’t anticipate getting any to take home.
I hate to sound like I’m bean-counting, but I found it particularly odd because this friend comes over each week for game night. We serve dinner (cooked by me) and provide drinks. Sometimes the attendees contribute a snack or drinks, but usually we provide everything. I am happy to do it and it doesn’t bother me at all, but the more I think about it, the weirder it seems that this guy wanted his bread and cheese back.
It seems a little sad to me, @nikipedia. Maybe he’s having some financial problems nobody is aware of or he’s trying to avoid financial problems. Who knows? It is a strange request. As an aside, I love that you guys host a game night.
Thanks, I also love our game night and am so glad we do it :)
I know the guy has “family money” as he puts it and isn’t having financial troubles…I figured maybe this was just an etiquette thing that changed from one person to another. But from this thread it doesn’t sound like it.
He would probably be horrified if he knew he had commited such a faux pas. Good that he is a nice man. Perhaps if he invites you over and you take food, you can lead by example. “No. We brought it for you! Keep the leftovers.”
I participate in 9 to 3 chorus rehearsal pot lucks for over 70 people. I always make something I’ll be happy to take home, should it not all be eaten. Some people leave their leftovers and hope someone else will take them Desserts go fastest. We have a lot of wonderful cooks; we work hard ;and everybody enjoys the gatherings. It’s different if it’s for a smaller group at a private home.
@Sunny2: Your last comment reminded me why I usually take desserts to people’s houses when I’m invited: because then, even if their food is awful, I know that there’s going to be a good dessert at the end!
I have not yet read anyone else’s answers so this is just what I do.
If it’s a family party, it’s assumed that each potluck guest will take their own un-eaten food home. And the host, will ususally ask if anyone wants any of their leftovers. Everyone knows my Dad cannot resist anything chocolate, so we often end up with more food going home than we brought. I usually bring entrees and salads, but bring home desserts : P
If it’s a work potluck, then I personally usually bring a bunch of disposable plates, take-out containers, foil, and other storage items (some that we keep at work for this purpose) and then load the leftovers into containers (with labels so people can distinguish between vegetarian stuff and everything else so they don’t have to open every single container). And then put them in the fridge. Sometimes I’ll just load up individual dishes, like spaghetti or salad. Other times I’ll make up vegetarian meals and meat meals, because there’s often other people that couldn’t come to the party, because they had to be at he front desk, or guards that come in later. Sometimes I’ll even write people’s names on them, if I know who will be coming in later. Then I’ll leave a big sign on the fridge, announcing which containers are up for grabs.
If the potluck is at someone’s home, who is merely an acquaintence, or if I’m invited by my friend to someone’s home who I don’t know, I’ll bring my dish in my own big tupperware, in my cooler, then I’ll bring along a big zip-lock bag and keep it in my cooler until the party is over. If there’s anything leftover, I’ll spoon my dish into the ziplock bag and put it in the hosts fridge (with their permission) and let them know that they can eat it, or dole it out to any of the guests who would like to take some home. Or if they don’t want it, then I’ll take it home.
It’s been a while since I’ve been at any party or get together, but my answer is firmly no here. I’m more worried about whether they’ll like what I made rather than worrying about taking the leftovers home, lol.
Update: The friend who, months ago, asked me to bring him his leftovers hosted his own potluck party yesterday. I brought homemade spinach artichoke dip. At the end of the party, I asked him for some saran wrap to cover the leftovers so I could take the dish home.
He asked if he could save the leftovers in a tupperware container for himself, or if he could just return the dish to me later, because he really wanted the leftover dip!