Would you chose a partner with the same illness as you have?
Let’s say you have a physical or mental illness that you are half way to making good. You are now at a stage of relative health. I will use two examples, a recovering alcoholic and a bipolar well medicated and tended to. Would you choose a mate with the same disorder? If so why?
I personally would not. I asked myself why not and the answer is simple. I am handful enough for me, and I am getting a bit stale on the bipolar topic. Do I want another mate who is moody (yes even though on medication) hyper-sexual at times (does medication dull that?) and effervescent and wordy one moment and silent and dull the next. I certainly do not.
I am also an alcoholic in recovery; would I live with another alcoholic in recovery? Again no. that topic to me is also stale. We would be two stale boring people together. What happens when we are both manic? Who calms whom? To me there has to be a balance in relationships for them to feel comfortable in, how do you feel? (This can also relate to physical ailments as well).