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[NSFW] Are you uptight about being tight?

Asked by ETpro (34247 points ) November 9th, 2012

Finally, the TGIF version of the tightness question! Too loose? Too tight? Just right, but afraid that will lead you to being too loose or too tight with it? Feel free to explore the physical and/or metaphysical side of this question. Straight men; fell free to chime in on your moral up-tightness, or regarding your concerns about “her” physical tightness, or lack thereof. And yes, there is such a thing as too tight. The technical word for it is vaginismus. There are also some who literally are tight-assed, having a very tight rear opening. They honestly cannot comfortably accommodate an ordinary male back there, regardless of ample lubrication and relaxation.

Opinions presented here and in the original “Are you tight?” [SFW] version are not necessarily those of the author/s. I specifically disclaim any responsibility for opinions offered by others; or by myself, for that matter. Also, “Your mileage may vary.” (YMMV) and “Objects in mirror are closer than they appear.” (OIMACTTA). Possibly tighter too.

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27 Answers

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

TGIF I take it any way I can get it. However anyone wants to take that.

janbb's avatar

Must be a Friday. Have to say that sex is the farthest thing from my mind right now.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’ve got Foghat, Slowride live playing loud. Definately gets sex on the mind. (My entire hallway is deserted today)

majorrich's avatar

When I was in college there was a girl that ran around with us that had vaginismus. She was very much interested in having coitus, but had trouble finding any of us that would, uh, fit her specifications. She tried lubricants, relaxation, many beers, valiums, nothing seemed to work. When she finally found someone, those of us who knew him would privately call him “needle dick”

ucme's avatar

So long as there’s no echo whilst munching & the thing doesn’t resemble the top of a boot, then i’m good to go.

rojo's avatar

I have a friend who claims he used to be a tight end but now he’s a wide receiver.

blueiiznh's avatar

GQ.
What I have learned today on this topic is that there is a 10 Step Treatment Kit

Shippy's avatar

The size of the car determines the size of the garage.

Brenna_o's avatar

If your comfortable with his size why try to change how lose/tight you are.

Unbroken's avatar

Lately I was let in on a male secret the reason men in America are so titillated by anal is based on the theory that that tunnel is much tighter.

I see a flaw in logic, if the girl is open to anal with you she probably has been with others, since the tissue is the same material stretching and looseness occurs.

But women can control to a certain degree for traditional penetration by exercise eg kegel’s and hip flexor’s.

Ponderer983's avatar

As mentioned in the SFW question, I run on the tight side, but not to the point where I am hurting (maybe on the initial thrust, but all good once inside), and a good degree according to the men I have been with. Anally, that’s where I am tight. Though the one time I did it was with a guy who was way above average on penis size, so I am willing to try with someone smaller. My ex was oddly not interested in testing my theory. I am just happy that I’m not loose, for the guys sake.

Unbroken's avatar

@Ponderer It is odd that we women in nonlongterm relationships give thought and value to tightness. In essence we place our marketability~value on something we have very little control over. I am not implying I’m above it in fact I consider it myself. It just seems of slightly demeaning, but I suppose no more then judging a male by the size of his penis.

Ponderer983's avatar

@rosehips Honestly, I never thought of it like that, but it is a valid point now that I do. I always saw it as another positive trait I inherently had, like nice eyes or something lol. And your comparison to penis size is a good one. I have been with guys who have complained about loose women and that being a reason to not be with that person, so I was always glad when the “Oh you’re so nice and tight, WOW” comment came out :)

Unbroken's avatar

@Ponderer938 I have had the same experience talk about backassward compliments. Once you hear it it’s always in the back of your mind. I should or need to always be tight am I still, if you don’t hear them exclaim over it. Etc. Quite ridiculous, and you don’t even realize how ridiculous until you hear some one else talk about it. At least penises stay the same size mostly….and the guy can see for himself.

ETpro's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe I certainly can’t fault you for that great answer.

@janbb Having just gotten back home with power i can appreciate why your mind wouldn’t be in the gutter… yet!

@Adirondackwannabe I had to turn on Foghat to answer. You’re definitely in a TGIF mood, and the rhythm is right!

@majorrich Ouch. Poor guy. But hey, the good news is that for each of us, there is someone who fits. And like mama used to say, “Son, when all else fails, use your head.” I’m not sure she meant for use my head for head, but hey, whatever floats my lover’s boat.

@ucme I think I see where you’re *head*ing with this.

@rojo Ha! They do say practice makes perfect, but I’m not sure loose back there is perfect. :-)

@blueiiznh I’m so glad this question ended up providing useful intel. GA!

@Shippy And trying to park a huge lorry in a little garage is going to leave the vehicle and the building a wreck. :D

@Brenna_o I doubt anyone who finds a good fit tries to change it. I’m delighted to hear you found yours.

@rosehips I’m going to have to disagree with the theory that lots of anal leaves the recipient loose… well, not physically loose, at least. For most of us, the erect male member and the stuff that exits the rear opening daily is close enough to the same diameter that if the stretching theory held water, we’d all be flapping in each tailwind.

That said, I had hoped that taking a lighthearted look at size might let us all unwind about tightness or bigness. And the Kegel exercises are definitely worth looking into. They help to tighten both openings, because the same muscle group in the pelvic floor wraps around both.

@Ponderer983 An American guy that didn’t want anal? Hooray! I mean I like it, but for some strange reason, I feel suddenly compelled to defend American male proclivities, and certainly there are many men who do not here in the USA.

I would think any guy that puts responsibility for his philandering on your tightness or lack thereof is, himself, extremely loose.

Unbroken's avatar

@ETPro I will submit to your superior knowledge the theory was given to me by a male partner who was trying to feel me out on my views on anal. He was probably trying to dig himself out of a hole. He could have just left it at, it’s something I enjoyed in the past rather then fabricating something. Silly mind games.

ETpro's avatar

@rosehips Ha! I see. Well, let me tell you young lady, I know a thing or two about assholes—having been one for so long.

Unbroken's avatar

Aha. Well I reference you in all my future asshole related questions.
Feel free to query me on cunt related questions.

ETpro's avatar

@rosehips Fair enough. Till then…

trailsillustrated's avatar

short answer: martini + weed (moderation!!) this will not be a concern. ps what is a foghat

majorrich's avatar

^^Foghat was a rock group in the ‘70’s best known for “Slow Ride” but had other hits like “Fool for the City” and (appropriate to this discussion) “I just wanna make love to you”
Yup @ETpro we were much meaner in those days. Oh the things we did to passed out freshmen! LMAO!! (rarely sexual, but FUNNY STUFF)

ETpro's avatar

@trailsillustrated Definitely will work for me.

@majorrich Who told you what I did to passed out freshmen?

Haleth's avatar

The idea that women are “tighter” or “looser” based on number of sex partners is misogynistic b.s.! Just sayin’.

majorrich's avatar

@ETpro I started another thread for our freshman abuse tales. lol

trailsillustrated's avatar

agree with @Haleth . @ETpro oh before my times. @ETpro I found a book called ‘I hope they serve beer in Hell’ on the floor of the Goodwill- read through it cannot believe people behaved this way look at it the guys name is tucker max google him.

ETpro's avatar

@Haleth Perhaps. I propose we test. ~

@majorrich And the link to it is…?

@trailsillustrated That sure sounds like a book worth reading.

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