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Would you rather be able to lie without being caught or always be able to tell when someone is lying?

Asked by KeepYourEyesWideOpen (345 points ) January 15th, 2013

As far as I’m concerned, I think I’d rather be able to lie without getting caught. That would be pretty fun.

What line do you take on the question?

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syz's avatar

The latter – I very rarely have any inclination to lie.

marinelife's avatar

I don’t like lying or liars. I would rather be able to tell when someone is lying.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I can’t lie for anything. Everyone I know sees right through them. Most of the people close to me know me so well, they know I don’t play games.

codette's avatar

I think I used to be a good liar, but at some point I started feeling guilty about it and now I can’t pass off a good lie anymore at all. It’s written all over my face, I bet. And I’m pretty much OK with that, I guess. Being a good liar was a slippery slope, morally.

I’d rather be able to tell when someone else is.

Coloma's avatar

I despise liars and am already pretty damn good at spotting them most of the time, although it can take awhile. Definitely to be able to spot a liar. Yes, I parrot @Adirondackwannabe I have never been able to lie with conviction and it makes me feel bad about me, I don’t play games either and lying is a lose/lose proposition. I lose self respect and the victim of the lie loses their right to have all the information they deserve to make an informed choice.

Lying is for babies not healthy adults.

Akua's avatar

Based on the answers so far I’ll probably get some flack for this answer but : I can already lie without getting caught. I don’t lie that often but when I do, I feel it’s a necessity and I generally sound sincere.
Same answer for the second question. I can already detect when someone is lying to me. I’m very sensitive to body language and others’ speech, so when it’s not consistent I know something is wrong.

muppetish's avatar

When I was a kid, I was a compulsive liar. I usually ended up confessing after, but it was something incredibly hard to restrict. It was almost always a lie about something completely unimportant too, like, “yeah, that movie is awesome…” (except I hadn’t seen it or thought it was terrible.) I dislike lying now. I try to be as frank and honest as possible. So I would prefer to be able to identify when someone is lying than be able to get away with lies.

Ron_C's avatar

I would prefer not to lie or have anyone lie to me.

poisonedantidote's avatar

I spent 40 years working for the CIA and collaborating with MI5, because of this I am very good at telling lies, so I would prefer to be able to tell when someone is telling me a lie.

Pachy's avatar

I won’t lie—I’m not crazy about either option. But if pressed to pick one, I’d say the latter. Full disclosure here: I’ve lied before. I’m not very good at it. And I’ve hated myself when I did it.

wundayatta's avatar

I hate to lie, but there are situations where it seems necessary. I’ve been able to get away with it.

I feel that I also can tell when a person’s story doesn’t hang together. I tend to not accuse people of lying. Rather I offer them opportunities to “clarify” their story. Sometimes they do. Other times I will offer them excuses to justify changing their story. They sometimes take me up on it.

Calling someone a liar isn’t helpful. What is more helpful is trying to understand the reasons why they might lie. What are they protecting? Then, if you can find a way to get to a place where they can protect whatever it is they are protecting while telling the true story, we are both better off. I just don’t get hung up on catching people out, any more.

Shippy's avatar

I really hate lies. Lying is a complex topic, as even withholding is lying. I cannot judge though as I know sometimes, somewhere, someone has to lie. But basically for me, I find honesty much easier to deal with, no matter how hard it is.I am sure although I am known as an honest person I have lied.

You can tell if people are lying. There are certain movements, and things they do, they give them away.

YARNLADY's avatar

I do not believe in lying and I would love to be able to tell when other people are.

hearkat's avatar

I am honest “to a fault” some would say; and my spidey-senses are pretty good and detecting b.s. So I already live by choice #2.

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