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creepypastagirl's avatar

(NSFW?) Could she get pregnant this way?

Asked by creepypastagirl (229 points ) 2 months ago

My best friend desperately wants a baby. She’s 18 but she’s not out of High School yet, her boyfriend will be 20 in a month or so and he’s in college but they’re very serious and I can honestly picture them being together forever. They’ve talked about it and he doesn’t want kids right now (understandably) but she still wants to try. I’ve tried to explain to her that she IS NOT READY and he IS NOT READY but she won’t hear it. If she goes through with this plan, I’m going to have to tell him because it’s absolutely selfish and wrong and I can’t let her ruin his life because she can’t wait to start a family. She also thinks that if they were to get pregnant and have a kid that it would keep him around. I know for a fact that he wouldn’t leave her if she did get pregnant and that he would do everything in his power to provide for them but that’s beside the point. Anyway, so she’s planning on poking holes in his condoms with a sewing needle and I told her how wacked that is but again, she won’t listen. I was wondering if she could get pregnant this way or if the holes will be too small?

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syz's avatar

Yes, defective condoms can result in pregnancy. And this sort of behavior is proof positive that she should not be reproducing. Tell the boyfriend. He deserves not to have his life ruined by this chick.

gambitking's avatar

Of course this can result in pregnancy. It’s also the quintessential “psycho girl” move to accomplish the baby mission, whilst often fulfilling a secondary motive of ‘locking in’ the guy.

This girl needs some therapeutic interaction in her life and that the boyfriend should be alerted.

janbb's avatar

Bad, bad move.

XOIIO's avatar

Man, she’s fucking psycho. Tell the guy to run, you will be doing them both a favor.

AshLeigh's avatar

18 and in high school is too young to have a baby. If she did this, her boyfriend would probably have to drop out of college to work full time to provide for her and a child that he is smart enough to know he’s not ready for.
You should tell him. Not telling him would be wrong.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Condoms have a failure rate on their own, they break or rupture, so she can. I would just tell him to be sure, he better:

• Bring his own rubbers and double glove it.
• Make triple sure he don’t emit in her
• Go Greek and boink backdoor only.
:

XOIIO's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central Double gloving is actually bad, it causes extra friction and can cause both to rip.

Eggie's avatar

That is no girl for him. She can definitively get pregnant that way, but that kind of behavior shows that she does not love him. He needs to know the kind of girl that he has.

janbb's avatar

Of course, you will lose her as a friend if you tell him.

creepypastagirl's avatar

@janbb That’s a risk I’m willing to take, I’m not going to let her ruin his chances at having the life he wants because she doesn’t care about anyone other than herself. We’ve been through heavier fights as friends and if she can’t forgive me for saving their relationship then she’s not a friend I want to keep.

janbb's avatar

@creepypastagirl Good for you! I think your values are in the right place!

bolwerk's avatar

The risk is probably low if the condom is not noticeably damaged. Better condoms have spermicidal lubricant that also offers some protection against pregnancy. But, of course, it’s possible, as others say.

Forget just telling the boyfriend. Maybe you should tell her parents? I get that she’s 18, but that doesn’t mean parental guidance needs to stop.

creepypastagirl's avatar

@bolwerk Her mother knows and refuses to do anything. Because she’s 18, she believes her daughter can handle her own problems and refuses to get involved.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

^ Now we know why the young lady is the way she is.

SadieMartinPaul's avatar

Clearly, this young woman is ready to be a mother. She’s a responsible person, with high integrity, and she’ll be the sort of parent who instills honor and character in her child.

You need to find a new best friend. Her boyfriend needs to find a new partner. She needs to be prevented from tricking someone into inseminating her.

Tell the boyfriend. Eject this woman from your own life. Above all, protect the innocent child who’d be the true victim of this unspeakable situation.

josie's avatar

Just when I was thinking it would be fun to be 18 again. What a drag to be missing out on these squared away girls!

Be a hero and warn the guy.

Eggie's avatar

Evil triumphs when the good remains silent. Be a hero man….do the right thing because it is right. Your heart and values are definitely in the right place.

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SQUEEKY2's avatar

I would have to say warn the guy,and hope he believes you.

filmfann's avatar

Wow. I might consider warning the guy, but do it anonymously. You do not want to be in the middle of this.

JLeslie's avatar

I think I might be with @filmfann on this one. He can see if she gets all bent out of shape when he wants to use his own condoms. Her behavior will be telling and he can figure out whether he can trust her or not on the off chance you are wrong. What would be telling to me is if he doesn’t trust her, but still keeps her around for sex. Then they both suck. Any 18 year old trying to get pregnant, especially through deception, has to be showing other signs of not having all cylinders working.

Poking a few pin holes in a condom isn’t likely to result in a pregnancy if overall the condom stays intact, but there is a slim chance. It could weaken the condom and allow it to rupture more easily and then it would be like not using a condom at all.

XOIIO's avatar

Hmm, I thought of something, maybe I should invent kevlar condoms.

cheebdragon's avatar

^ Mormons may have beat you to it with their magic underwear.

College_girl's avatar

let her boyfriend know of her crazy plan to poke holes in condoms to make her pregnant so she can keep him around forever. That will scare him off. Or let her make her own choices. It sucks to standby and watch because it is her life and her mistakes to make. She definitely has a chance of getting pregnant from holes in a condom.

flo's avatar

He needs to be told, This is very very wrong. It is unfair to him and to the child if she is successful at getting pregnant, which is very likely.

arronflem's avatar

Oh, that is so complicated. Getting pregnant from poked condom – sure. But kids is the decision of both so this is so unfair towards the guy. Try to convince your friend that this is mutual responsibility and this step should be made when both are ready. Good luck with that.

creepypastagirl's avatar

Good news; after trying (and failing) to get through to her one last time I went to her boyfriend. He then told her that he would be providing his own protection and that if she didn’t agree with that he wouldn’t partake in sexual activities of any kind with her until she did. She’s not pregnant and hopefully she’s come to realize how ridiculous and unfair her plan was and that she’s obviously not mature enough for children.

XOIIO's avatar

@creepypastagirl Well, that’s good.

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