Which option will you choose?
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March 11th, 2014
Ok, so you are at a club and you are well dressed and you see a really, gorgeous woman there. She of course is well dressed and she has a couple of her girlfriends there. You scope her out for a little while and you find that she looks like she does not have a boyfriend. In your mind your brain analyzes these options:
a)Walk up to her, say hello, compliment her on her beauty and offer to buy her a drink in the hopes of getting to know her better.
b) Stand up in a place where she can see you and try to exchange glances at her with the hope she gives you a facial expression or body language that says she is into you.
c) Wait till she starts dancing to hip hop or dancehall and just go and “bump and grind” with her.
d) Stand up next to her, wait a little while until you think she knows that you are there and then stick out your hand and say hello, and ask her what is her name and try to strike up a conversation.
e) Just leave her alone. She does not know you so she will never accept a drink from you or talk to you. She will probably not be your type anyway. Admire from a distance only.
Which option will you choose or is there a different answer. This question is open to the ladies too.
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Get within her field of vision and, when she looks at you, smile slightly and nod. If she isn’t interested, she’ll ignore you. If she isn’t a nice person, she’ll glare at you in a haughty way. If she’s nice and worthy of your attention, she’ll smile warmly and acknowledge you. Then, you can approach her and talk.
As for your suggestions:
a) will get you an eye-roll
b) is my #1 choice, and pretty much what I just said
c) is just plain creepy
d) isn’t too bad, but the “hovering” thing oozes desperation and can make you seem awkward
e) is a terrible idea! Who says that she won’t accept a drink from you or talk with you?!?! With that self-deprecating attitude, you’ll never meet anyone
@SadieMartinPaul a) will get me an eye-roll? Why? Even if she meets me and talks to me wont I have to buy her a drink anyway? And what if she doesn’t nod at me because she is not paying attention to me because she is distracted. She could like me, but she is just not focusing on me at the moment..shouldn’t I be a little more forward and not so passive?
“Hello, I love you. Won’t you tell me your name?”
@Eggie I would be impressed if someone said that to me (or if he played the song).
Um… I think saying hello and asking to know her name without the “I love you” part would be alright.
f) Do nothing because the wife will hack my penis off with a big knife otherwise.
B is number one. Once the glances are exchanged you can move to A sans the compliment of her beauty.
f) pulling a Doctor and tell her to “RUN!”
@Eggie You worry too much, m’dear. You seem like a lovely and sincere guy, and nice ladies are attracted to that.
My “eye-roll” reference was in response to “compliment her on her beauty,” not to the part about buying her a drink. Telling a stranger that she’s beautiful can be too rash and hasty. If she’s gorgeous and knows it, she might be dismissive. If she isn’t a “Perfect 10” to many men, but is nonetheless beautiful in your eyes, she might be uncomfortable.
@SadieMartinPaul ahh….but subtlety tell her about her beauty….thats what I mean.
May I offer another option:
f) Quit hoping to find someone in bars and nightclubs and, instead, pursue enriching hobbies and interests.
Take a night class. If you enjoy exercise, join a hiking club. If you’re charitably inclined, do some real, hands-on volunteer work. If you’re religious, (I’m not, so this isn’t a personal recommendation), get involved in some church groups.
You’ll meet some fabulous ladies who are worthy of you.
I am not looking solely for girls in bars and clubs. I was going to include that in option e) but I decided to leave it out…I should have put it in. No, I go to clubs sometimes and those options come into my mind so I just thought what would be the best option at the time. Of course a better place would be classes, church groups and stuff but I would like advice on that particular scenario. If that is your answer then you like option e) then..even though you said that was the worst one
f) When she walks up to me to bum a smoke…I tell her to go buy her own cigarettes. Seeing that she is as hot as she is…I strike a deal and tell her I will give her the smoke if I also give her the money to buy us both beers as it is Ladies night who get drinks ½ off. We shake on the deal and get married 2 years later.
f) Stay home. Read. Eat ice cream. Listen to music. Watch tv. Go to bed.
None of the above. Walk over and introduce yourself and ask her if it is alright if you to sit and get to know each other over a drink. Let her know that you hate drinking alone and that there is no hard feelings if she says no. If she asks you why her, then tell her that no one else seems as interesting and that you are willing to block anyone who may be rude to her. Tell her you won’t even ask for her number or ask to dance, that you leave it all up to her. If you both part ways at the end of the evening to never meet again, you will just be grateful for the company.
There is a better line that stuck with me for years later but since I don’t know if you are a creeper, than, I am keeping it to myself. LOL
F) Keep on walking. I’m not into women.
Seriously, though, if I were into women, I’d do a combination of B and then A, but only if she expresses interest (making eyes at you, flirty glances, etc.). If she doesn’t, I probably wouldn’t approach her. And no creepy or cliche comments about how gorgeous she is. Just introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink.
Edit: I just realized I said the same thing as @JLeslie. :)
I would break the ice by asking her if she knows how to install hardwood flooring.
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