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Drunken confession, do you keep it, or expose it?

Asked by Hypocrisy_Central (22111 points ) August 28th, 2014

Let’s say for instance you know of a couple that has a strained marriage at best, during a function (party, mixer, BBQ, etc.) after the female half of the couple has had a few too many she drops a bomb on you that you did not care to know; she was having affairs. Not only that as much as you try to cleave yourself from the conversation by moseying off, even tacitly telling her it is none of your business, she insist on telling you how great the sex was and how the ”lovers” were so much better than her husband. If you know him but he is not a real close friend would you tell him, or stuff it in your mental round file? Would you share it with your partner after you left the event or got back home? If she did not remember she blabbed it to you, would you let her know all she said to you?

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rojo's avatar

Nope, drunk confessions are best let slide. Don’t get involved.

Jonesn4burgers's avatar

Round file. Like, who cares? To me, it would be like worrying over whether to tell anyone that somebody burped.

Darth_Algar's avatar

I’m thinking blackmail.

rojo's avatar

@Darth_Algar or maybe a quickie on the side?

Darth_Algar's avatar

Ugh. No, just money. I might be amoral, but I’m not a sleazebag.

whitenoise's avatar

I would probably tell my wife and then forget it.

Who am I to judge?

Buttonstc's avatar

Since the husband is described as an acquaintance but not a real close friend, I wouldn’t say anything to him.

If he were a close friend, that would change the parameters significantly. But in this case I would say nothing.

If there were children in the picture, I might have a conversation with her when she is sober.

flutherother's avatar

I’d keep quiet as if I had heard nothing.

KNOWITALL's avatar

I’d tell my husband, and talk to her sober privately to express my concern. We should help eachother thru life.

dabbler's avatar

Frankly it sounds to me like she was trying to pick up on you.
I’d say nothing about it to the husband. I wouldn’t go out of my way to talk to her about it either, unless you see her again casually – and not drunk – and she seems to need to talk to someone about it.

cazzie's avatar

Don’t get involved. Chances are, he knows already if she is blabbing to acquaintances while drunk at social functions, and he isn’t doing anything about it for his own reasons, perhaps. You won’t be the first or the last she tells. She wants him to know. She wants to end the marriage, but is too much of a bitch-ass coward to do it. They have their own reasons.

Blondesjon's avatar

Hello new blog post.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Same situation, slight difference. I was at a party with a lot of work people. One of them got roaring drunk – I had to drive him home. On the way home he was spewing all sorts of nasty stuff about lots of people at the company (including the CEO – he reports directly to the CEO) and said that if he didn’t get his way, he would just up and quit.

He was an ugly drunk, just slurring and repeating and the whole works.

I didn’t say anything to anyone, and he (the drunk) didn’t bring it up the next day. My guess is that he didn’t even realize what he was saying.

And I haven;t mentioned a word to anyone – CEO, or anyone else.

downtide's avatar

I agree with @cazzie – if she’s blabbing about it he’ll find out soon enough. None of my business. I wouldn’t tell anyone, not the husband, not even my own SO. It goes in the mental round file and I’ll probably forget about it myself after a couple of days.

Dutchess_III's avatar

He’ll figure it out on his own eventually. Crap. Everyone already said that.

LornaLove's avatar

It really wouldn’t worry me either way. I’d let them confess and move on. It would get more difficult if it were a close friend. I mean, a couple I knew. Then again, adults are in control of their own lives. Or are supposed to be.

SecondHandStoke's avatar

I would definitely keep it to myself that I had spent time with anyone that would make drunken confessions.

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