General Question

dopeguru's avatar

(NSFW) Would a guy get really turned off if a girl is bad at being on top?

Asked by dopeguru (1928points) March 28th, 2015

What is “bad sex”? Perhaps thats a better question. What is bad sex for men?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

30 Answers

Silence04's avatar

No such thing

ucme's avatar

When your vagina resembles a wizard’s sleeve & there’s no “torque”
When you moan like a porn star in all the wrong places
When you’re so thin, it’s like humping a sack full of tin cans.

dopeguru's avatar

@ucme What if it hurts so bad that you can’t help but moan?

ragingloli's avatar

Human males are simple animals. As long as it rubs them, it works.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

@dopeguru If it hurts so bad,then YOU or he is doing something very wrong.
For me bad sex if she started doing something like talking about having to clean the Kitchen while we are at it, or what colour do you think we should paint the spare bedroom type thing.

dopeguru's avatar

@SQUEEKY2 That cracked me up actually. I like to talk about how great I feel to have them inside of me.

I wonder if guys enjoy seeing girls hurt. If I were a guy, I might like that. Is that weird?

ragingloli's avatar

@SQUEEKY2
If she does that, then YOU are doing something wrong.

Pachy's avatar

“Bad” is strictly in the head of the be-doer.

chyna's avatar

If it hurts, you should stop. Sex that hurts is no fun.

LuckyGuy's avatar

^ Yep. Although… I’ve heard that in almost all Japanese porn the woman has a pained look and makes “Eee, eee eee”, noises like it hurts – even if she is doing it herself. Ridiculous.

I want the woman to enjoy it.

dabbler's avatar

Pain should be avoided and it’s important to establish boundaries like that.
There’s no reason you have to be “good” at all positions. Sometimes things just don’t fit right in that way, or one or the other of you is uncomfortable – just stop it and do something else!
If you can’t find any position where you’re both comfortable, you may have to face the fact you’re not ‘made for each other’.

ragingloli's avatar

@LuckyGuy
I suspect that is purely an act. Especially considering the tiny penises that I doubt they can even feel.

Coloma's avatar

If you are performing in bed rather than being fully present with your partner you are not truly engaging with your partner spontaneously. You are nothing more than an actor.
There is no such thing as “bad” sex, and there is a big difference between a staged performance, meant to wow and impress and truly letting things unfold naturally.

LuckyGuy's avatar

@ragingloli Of course it is an act. Have you ever been in the delivery ward of a Japanese hospital? There are women giving birth and, for the most part, they are totally silent. No screamers like in American hospitals. If they can give birth silently they can also silently enjoy the activity that initiates it. They chose to act like it’s their first time – even if they have kids – because they think men like it that way. Silly.

anniereborn's avatar

I’m not a guy, but I’m married to one. The answer would be “no”. Also if a guy enjoys seeing a woman hurt (and not in a consensual BDSM way), there is something very wrong with him.

kevbo's avatar

One of my old gf’s started crying out of frustration the first time she got on top. It was kind of annoying.

Pol_is_aware's avatar

Just pretend like youre trying to make a fire

ucme's avatar

@dopeguru Hurting should never come into it, that’s the job of the penis…to cum into it

ragingloli's avatar

That is a man’s only appreciable function.
They should just be genetically engineered to be reduced to an IV fed dildo.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’m beginning to think the problem is that neither of you know what you are doing and you’re both screwing this up. If it “hurts so bad you can’t help but moan” he’s probably not spending enough time on foreplay or pleasuring you. How long does it take you two from naked to sex?

livelaughlove21's avatar

“What if it hurts so bad that you can’t help but moan?”

Ew…what?!

ucme's avatar

^ Some idiot even liked the answer, haha.

ucme's avatar

contagious

trailsillustrated's avatar

Bad sex for men is if you’re not responsive. If you’re on top, go slow, lean into it. That is all.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

She won’t be bad being on top once she is taught how to be much better on top. Being on top is not like riding a bronco but more like trying to grind and twist your hips ion a way to get his dumbstick to make it to your lungs.

Bad sex is when there is so much blubber you don’t know if you are in it, or just a large fold of fat. She has a belly so large you can’t hold her close, and if you manage to get it in other than doggie style, you feel like you are hanging on rather than holding on. She uses too much teeth and not enough tongue and suction slobbing your knob. Loud high pitch moaning and whimpering at times you know it is not that intense. When she lies there like a blowup doll or she has just one single move and speed as if she is a robot, or knows no variation. When she keeps asking, ”Are you done yet?” When she keeps pulling back off your dumbstick because she is afraid you will shoot a wad in here mouth, so she never gets a rhythm going. When she is not intuitive as to what is working for you and has to keep asking if you want her to do this or that, and how to do this or that making you think more on the mechanics and not the pleasure.

ragingloli's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central
That is because she is afraid that she is sent to hell if she tries anything kinky.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

@ragingloli That is because she is afraid that she is sent to hell if she tries anything kinky.
OK, education time; that is not the reason. The marriage bed is holy and undefiled, so put her on top, have her ride your hips cowboy style, reverse cowboy, Asian crab, spooning, in a chair, doggie style, toss in some whips and leather and even some furry handcuffs, it is all good in the marriage bed. However, straight missionary sex in an unmarried bed is enough to sink you. It is not what you do it is in what manner you do it. OK, class dismissed.

trailsillustrated's avatar

^ if I could do a thousand ga’s I would.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther