If your wife/husband ended up in coma for life, would you care for them, or would you leave them?

I would read to her every day. P.s
I’m not married right now.

^ Even if she doesn’t hear you?

I wouldn’t abandon them but I would also have a life away from them.

Reading to people in a coma can actually help stimulate the brain, so they say (though I don’t know how much is true and how much is comfort to the family).

I’d stick by Hubby through a coma (which usually lasts only a few weeks and only very rarely longer), but if he’s ever in a persistent vegetative state (think Terry Schaivo) I have specific instructions from him to ask a particular friend to smother him with a pillow.

@Sneki95 Yes. I would hear for the both of us. I would nor want to have locked in syndrome and left alone and abandoned. So I would extend to others.

No way would I leave him. I can’t even imagine anyone doing that :(
But like @janbb said, I would still have a life of my own.

@Sneki95 patients in coma can actually hear and feel. There have been reports from patients who could recall every sound they could hear and feel during their coma. I’m on my phone and can’t access those reports, but there was a girl who recalled the voice of the dictor saying she could never wake up.

That’s the scary thing coma patients have to suffer. Their mind may be active, but no one knows that. Worse still, they are considered beyong recovery and left alone by families.

@Mimishu1995 That scares the crap out of me.

Care for them? We have staff for that…err, yeah of course I would.
For life though, that’s tough, i’d like to think she would not want me to devote so much of my time to a lost cause.

Two important words for all of us “Living Will”

The important aspect would be is there any brain activity and can the person breathe for themselves. If there is no activity in the brain and they would die if a machine were not breathing for them, they are essentially dead; they would be before technology kept their flesh alive and the flesh counts for nothing. If those two things were evident, I would pull the plug and let her go, I will see her in Paradise, better she be there if she has not already gone before they doc merely is keeping her fleshly tent from decaying.

I would do the same as @janbb and @anniereborn.

What @Seek and @Mimishu1995 say is very likely correct.

Do Brain Scans of Comatose Patients Reveal a Conscious State?—Scientific American

Can Coma Patients Hear You?—Medical Daily

Brain scans reveal which vegetative patients are alert and trapped in bodies—NBC News

“A group of neuroscientists believes it can communicate with “locked-in coma patients—Independent

I don’t know that any of us can say what we would do long into the future, but I cannot imaging abandoning my husband. While there is life their is hope and if there isn’t any hope for recovery, I would hope he would pass quickly – for his sake. I know he would hate to be incapacitated in such a state. In the meantime, I would visit him regularly and yes, I don’t doubt I would read to him and play him music and just hope somehow, someway, it is bringing him some comfort.

Like @janbb I feel I’d also have to have a life away from him. He wouldn’t want me to sacrifice my life for him. I hope I never have to find out for real how this might feel.

@Hypocrisy_Central “I would pull the plug and let her go”. That’s basically murder, bruh…

I would be there till the end and then hopefully join him.

This is the kind of question I don’t want to even contemplate.

I would pull the plug.

@Sneki95 :: You could just stop paying the bills and let the system kill them.

If you’re in a coma, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re on life support, does it? There may not be a plug to pull.

@janbb One can be in a coma without respirator, but one must have a feeding tube and some way to keep from dehydrating.