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Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Yes it's 3:00 time to go see the jogging mom. Do you think I should get a life?

Asked by Cooper_Saldana (599points) April 12th, 2017
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janbb's avatar

C’mon – what do you think? You know the answer.

anniereborn's avatar

Well it will be summer soon and you won’t be picking your son up from school. Are you gonna go park there at 3PM anyway?

Ltryptophan's avatar

Wait yall have spoken before…

If you’re attracted to her, and you already are on speaking terms ask her if you can go jog with her sometime….

I mean make some small talk first…

Ltryptophan's avatar

This is all being typed on my new keyboard. I think it’s pretty cool it’s bright red. It’s cool it makes loud clicks though which I like, but do you think it’s too much to bring to a coffee shop or a library and start typing away?

stanleybmanly's avatar

Is going to “see the jogging mom” an incentive for picking up your son?

chyna's avatar

He has said she is married. You need to get a life.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Ok, so the parking lot is full and I can’t park where I usually do so I won’t even see her today (sucks) and who shows up knocking on my window?
My ex wife of all people.
What a day, anyway I look forward to seeing that beautiful, very married lady jogging another day. : )

kritiper's avatar

Ooo! I like women but that really creeps me out!

dappled_leaves's avatar

Dude, this is creepy. Please do not stalk women who are not interested in you. Or, any women at all, really.

Patty_Melt's avatar

He isn’t stalking, he’s just enjoying the view during a normal daily routine. Now, if he was there but his son attended a different school…

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Let’s say you’re out there on your run @Cooper_Saldana, and some old dude who thinks you are so hot starts parking across the road from where you run so he can perve and drool at your arse in your tiny shorts. How would you feel? Would that feel okay to you?

Leave her alone. She has the right to run, wearing anything she fucking wants, without you or any other man thinking she’s there for them to lust over.

ucme's avatar

I think maybe you need to get a wife :D

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit take it easy.
I don’t stalk her and I never even tried to talk to her she talked to me I smiled and said very little.
Some days she stops and puts her leg up on the cement parking stop/divider and stretches right in front of where I’m parked.
I don’t follow her or call her or do anything but sit in my vehicle and would I care if some old guy looked at my ass?
No, I don’t give a shit because I’m not homophobic.
Thanks for trying to ruin my day though.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

You asked the question. I gave you my response. Your question suggests at 3 pm you are off to perve at that woman. I don’t care what she does or what she wears, she isn’t there for your entertainment. What if she was your 15-year-old daughter? Would it be okay for a man to be getting excited about being in a place where he’d see her run past? Just think about it man. Women are not objects put on earth to give you a thrill. So I say again, just leave her alone. If you happen to be there and she goes past and you look, fine. Otherwise, forget about her.

And if me challenging you on your pervy post really did ruin your day, yes, you do need to get a life.

Patty_Melt's avatar

So, didn’t you say you and she attended school together? I think I saw that on your other thread on this subject.
My thought is she is afraid of aging, and works hard to maintain her appearance. She probably thinks of you as a safe way to get appreciative looks, without any sort of follow up action. Sometimes a woman likes to have some reassurance other than her husband, even though she loves her husband, and has no intentions.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit I go to pick up my son from school everyday at 3:00.
This woman just jogs past my vehicle and I have no interest in pursuing her, she is married.
I’m just waiting for my son and I see a beautiful woman go by and I look at her.
Is that ok with you?

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

Read your own question. That’s not what it said. You can get defensive now, but your question says it all and I’m responding to your question. Over and out.

Patty_Melt's avatar

@Eartbound_Misfit, there is another Q by op on this subject, which should have been referenced, but he is new. Let’s cut a little slack on that part.

chyna's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit I think he is asking this question tongue in cheek. I don’t think he is trying to be pervy.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

I read the other question and I responded to it. What he suggests here is something other than happening to see an attractive woman on the street and enjoying the experience. Why should I cut him some slack because he didn’t like being called out on posting a pervy question? Really, if this upsets him so much – good. I hope he thinks about the message behind his post and my response. I’m not trying to be horrible to him. I’m hoping that he gets the message that such a post isn’t appropriate. The idea behind it is wrong.

While it’s a minor example, this is an example of the attitude that says women who wear these clothes are asking for such attention. Women who are attractive should just put up with men behaving like pigs. Men can’t help if they respond to a woman who is out on her own at night. No. Enough. It’s not funny.

And @chyna, I can see that he’s trying to be funny but I wonder if the woman who happens to be jogging to keep fit and is the object of his attention would think it was so funny or if it could perhaps make her feel uncomfortable? Maybe she is aware of him. Maybe she does like the attention, or maybe she’s just out jogging and he fancies her.

chyna's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit I’d go with the “Maybe she likes the attention” since she stops and stretches in front of his car in mid jog.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

He says that @chyna, but we don’t know what her motivation is. We don’t know if it’s happened once, or ten times. So unless she goes to his window and says ‘did you like the view?’ let’s give her the benefit of the doubt. I don’t hate @Cooper_Saldana and I get that he’s going through some stuff, but the inference of this question is disrespectful. Most of the problems women have with men start with disrespect. This is disrespectful to that woman. And I’m calling it out as disrespectful.

stanleybmanly's avatar

That’s rather severe. The poor man is just sighing out loud. I think he has the soul of a poet. After all he’s been pretty much dogged by his wife, yet hasn’t bitterly sworn off women. The guy sounds like just another target waiting for the next comely dame to come along and use his heart for soccer practice. Yearning is just the human condition. Let’s all gaze upon him with the sympathy he surely deserves. Poor chump.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Nothing wrong with enjoying scenery especially when it is during the course of your regular routine. Does not sound like he is going out of his way here. Perhaps men should just go through life staring at the ground…

canidmajor's avatar

I would bet that she doesn’t stretch for his benefit, probably doesn’t know he’s even there. It does bother me a little bit, @Cooper_Saldana, that you have already asked a question discussing this woman twice in short order. Whether you are just asking as a little joke or not, obviously you think about her a lot. You’re lonely and confused, this is atarting to smack a bit of fantasy obsession, which is a bit pervy. Especially because you are getting defensive with strangers here.
If you were 15, it would be different. Yes, get a life.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

OK guys you win.
I guess I’m horrible and should be ashamed of myself.
I’ll never look at another woman again.
So sorry about everything.

canidmajor's avatar

Oh, good grief, what an overblown reaction. You asked, we answered.

Coloma's avatar

@Cooper_Saldana Maybe try asking some questions that erect your intellect and not your penis. We really need new blood here, but that blood shouldn’t show up as a constant hard on for your ex wife and anonymous female joggers at your childs elementary school. Come on buddy, up the ante, show us you have a mind that goes beyond obsession and lust.

stanleybmanly's avatar

I guess it’s tough to figure out where the line is when it comes to gawking at women. I mean if you train a pair of binoculars on a bird or a whale no one gives it a second thought.

Darth_Algar's avatar

Confucius says: do not ask questions if you are not ready to receive answers you may not like.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Umm… I guess you guys hate me.
A few of you are nice and I thank you.
Yes, I looked at that woman, yes my wife cheated on me, yes I need to get a life.
I was mocking myself with this question and thought the members who enjoyed my last question about this might get a chuckle at being reminded of it.
Yes I am bored so I come here and talk about what interests ME.
If you don’t like it then why spend so much of your time on my questions?
Just move on and be happy.
I am, LoL!
Thanks. : )

stanleybmanly's avatar

Touche’ ...I guess?

Tropical_Willie's avatar

I guess. @Cooper_Saldana
Get a job
Get a new wife
Get something to do that won’t get you arrested.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

I have a job, I work nights doing maintenance.
I’m not going to get arrested for anything, but thanks.
I used to work at a jail actually, strange job.

Darth_Algar's avatar

“Umm… I guess you guys hate me.”

Not at all. Hate’s a limited and valuable resource, I don’t expend mine casually. I’m simply offering you two cents worth of advice that if you’re going to ask a question then you should be ready to hear an answer you don’t like.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Great thanks. : )

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Flutherites are being extra snarkey for whatever reason, don’t mind them. For the record people always check each other out. It’s the ones who are less discrete or admit to it who get called “creepy” not that they actually are. If you were driving to an area just for that then perhaps.

Kardamom's avatar

You should join a walking group in your area with men and women. Or join a parents without partners group. Then you might meet some nice people : )

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Thanks guys.
@Kardamom You know how alcoholics have sponsors?
I was gonna ask you if you could be like a sponsor for me in case I ever think of getting back together with my ex wife?
Like maybe just before I go to her place I could message you and you could kick my ass a little bit and remind me that she doesn’t respect me?
You’ve been very helpful in the past.
She texted me last night and when I was in the parking lot today she came up to my window and told me she could take our son for the night and she had a big smile for me and she just seemed excited to see me.
I know from our past that this is how she act’s right before she tries to get back together.
I need to be strong and if needed can I depend on you for help?

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

@ARE_you_kidding_me, I’m not being snarky thank you very much.

There is an enormous difference between seeing a good looking man or woman on the street and enjoying the experience (which I have no problem with), AND

Choosing to deliberately park in a particular spot so you can perve at a specific woman you’ve seen previously. That’s bordering on stalking. He even complained that he couldn’t get the park he wanted where he would have a view of her.

Surely people can see the difference! One is normal and acceptable. The other is creepy and crosses the line.

And @Cooper_Saldana, nobody hates you and such comments are infantile.

Kardamom's avatar

@Cooper_Saldana Ha ha ha. You might just need that. Take all the photos of your ex wife out of your phone and replace them with This Picture Every time you are about to even contemplate the absurdity of getting back together with your ex-wife, after you’ve thought about how foolish and destructive that would be to you, look at that picture.

I know you’re kind of stuck in a rut right now, we’re trying to push you out.

Now get out there and join a support group, or an activity group with both men and women with similar likes.

Please don’t become my old friends from way back (actually 2 males, and one female cousin) who went on and on and on for years pining over someone who was destructive in their lives.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Ok thanks.
@Earthbound_Misfit I’m sorry if I offended you in some way.
I’ve been told that you’re a very good member of fluther.
I just think maybe you and I got a bad start.
I bet if we met in person we would have a great time and be good friends
Sometimes communication through text is hard and my sense of humor doesn’t always translate well.
If you could see my face and hear my voice I think you’d know that I’m not a perv or someone that means anyone harm.
I’m truely sorry for irritating you with my question.
I’m just a single dad that get’s lonely.
I’m sorry and I hope we can put this behind us and be friends.

janbb's avatar

@Cooper_Saldana I think from some of your other questions – like about your son – you are a nice guy going through a rough time. As you say, the tone doesn’t always come through. But may be you do need to find some ways to make a new life.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

Thanks I’ve been on fluther many times.
Before I was Dane_Biggs and many other profiles.
I hope you guys understand that I mean well or I guess I’ll just come back in a month and change profiles and make you love me all over again.
I did it before, LoL.

Patty_Melt's avatar

@Kardamom, funny link! That should do it.

dappled_leaves's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit “While it’s a minor example, this is an example of the attitude that says women who wear these clothes are asking for such attention. Women who are attractive should just put up with men behaving like pigs. Men can’t help if they respond to a woman who is out on her own at night. No. Enough. It’s not funny.”

Precisely. Thank you.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

@dappled_leaves I apologize.
I was insensitive.
I really love women so much.
In the 15 years I was with my wife I treated her like she was my reason for living.
I took pleasure in treating her better than she had ever been treated.
I would lay awake at night and watch her sleep.
She told me that I was different and she felt safe with me.
I promise you I will never hurt anyone.
Thank you for your input. : )

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Cooper_Saldana's avatar

One of these days one of my you tube videos will work.
It just doesn’t work, I’m trying.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

http://youtu.be/dYKLmlMauOE
Ok, I think it worked this time.
This Is how I feel about my ex even though she cheated.
Putting in a you tube address when you are little wasted is difficult.
You,‘re welcome. : )

anniereborn's avatar

@Cooper_Saldana Yep, that’s “movie love” for ya.

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

I know I’m a mess, but if you know any ladies that want to be loved like Rose on “The Titanic”
send them my way please.
I’ve been practicing since I was 17.
I just need a partner as delusional as me to make it work,
Thanks. : )

anniereborn's avatar

@Cooper_Saldana So you can die in icy waters? :p

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

I guess? LoL.
I used to streak my hair and I worked at a school and I would watch- wait how’s it possible that the alarm clock just went off and it’s like 10:27 at night?
Sigh…I drink little when my son isn’t here. OK, so I used to kinda pretend that I was Leonardo DiCaprio at work and the young teachers kinda responded to it.
Anyway I was raised by movies and TV so I just wanna find my leading lady.
Thanks fluther, luv you. : )

Cooper_Saldana's avatar

This is answer 56 I think?
Just send my award in the mail please Fluther. ; )

ucme's avatar

I’d be happy for you if you approached her & ooh I dunno, within a week or so, fucked her brains out.
That would be grand rather than watching her, growing a boner & jacking off back home, be a man my son :D

Patty_Melt's avatar

@ucme, this one is not for the dark side.
Return to your lair.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Well, Cooper has left.
Coop, when you get your new persona, will you pm me?

janbb's avatar

(Apparently he’s the guy who was here wanted to have sex with his Ex among the divorce papers.)

ucme's avatar

@Patty_Melt This one is not for you to decide.
Return to your ivory tower.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Bwahahahahaha! En garde, @ucme.

ucme's avatar

Bonjour Monsieur pussy cat!

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