How do I cope with heartbreak from losing people?

Oh – that is a lot of loss in a short time! I am sorry that that has all happened to you and it is understandably a lot to cope with. I have had periods of multiple loss at times in my life and it is very difficult. All I would suggest is that you make yourself get up and get moving every day. Try to find some activities that nurture you whether it’s walking, seeing movies, reading, etc. It would even be better if you could find some activities to do with new people. Try looking at meetup.com for some groups that might interest you in your area. When my husband left right after my kids moved away, I joined a walking meet up and that made a huge difference in my life. I still get sad but the pain isn’t as sharp as it was.

Like so much pain, give it time, at least 6 months. Set your sights on then, not now.

@isabella778 My gooness! That’s a lot of losses in a short period of time. I have had many losses over the years. And at times it feels unbearable. You need to get up each day and “act as if’” you feel like doing whatever, like walking to keep moving forward. “Bring the body and the mind will follow.” God Bless!

Reach out to those you still have. Be grateful that you have a chance to tell your loved ones that you love them.

What happens when you gouge a tree with an axe? The wound will heal, but never fully. The mark remains as a flared protrusion for the remainder of its life. Likewise the mark doesn’t really change in height or location as the tree continues to grow. However, as the tree gets larger, the wound makes up a smaller total of the whole.

It is this way with us too. Some pain never really goes away. The invisible conscience is scarred, in the truest sense, just as the body. But as your experiences multiply, the pain that was becomes a increasingly diluted fraction of You. In that way, an efficient method to cope can be sought, however apathetically at first, in a burst of new experiences. Grow until the scar that may now dominate the landscape of your mind becomes an insignificant fray in the tapestry of your life.

When we’re faced with something unbearable—something you can’t stand but that just continues to happen anyway, the person who’s left afterwards isn’t you anymore. You’ve changed; become someone different. The one who could bear it afterall.

When you can’t bear something but it goes on anyway, the person who survives isn’t you anymore; you’ve changed and become someone else, a new person, the one who did bear it all.
– Austin Grossman
“Soon I Will Be Invincible”

Sorry, it was bugging me… I couldn’t remember it verbatim and the actual quote is better in my OCD’s opinion. =]