What is your ideal first date?

Doing something that’s a shared interest. :)

Meet at a park, eat food-truck food, then walk and talk. Not expensive, no pressure, no big attempt to impress with expensive restaurants, theatre, etc. End with a cup of coffee then drive home thinking about if you want a “next time.”

I like meeting at a good local coffee shop (not Starbucks).

local coffee shop or museum visit

Ice cream at my summertime ice cream parlor and then a walk and talk on the boardwalk.

For a first date I prefer a casual dinner at a modest bistro, not too fancy but decent food and good service.

On a second date, a visit to a museum or attend a performance of some sort.

Conversation doesn’t lack. And I like to go bowling.

A country walk, a nice meal then a movie we both enjoy.

Something unique that sparks interesting conversations. Trivia at a local bar or restaurant in the downtown area. And then an art gallery or two afterwards

Another perfect date would be mini golf. It’s fun, easy and a good way to showcase your personality. I think the absolute worst date is a dinner and a movie. Plus, it can be expensive for a first date.

Sex on the beach.
Sex in a good coffee shop.
Sex in a museum.
Sex while having a good conversation.

@rebbel You read my mind. Are you busy tonight?

^^ Threesome? Room for an old Bubby in there?

^^^Oh my! It’s getting steamy.

I like the mini golf idea. It’s fun and you can talk and laugh while doing it.

The first Not-a-Date my wife and I had started at the local bar after work. She showed up with a friend (in case she needed a quick out) and we had a drink. Then the friend left and we went and did our last minute Christmas shopping (it was 12/23). I bought her a CD I really thought she’d like. We went back to her house, ordered a pizza, watched a movie, and wrapped presents. After the presents we sat on the couch and I rubbed her feet (she worked as a housekeeper and was on her feet all day). I left after the movie, giving her a heartfelt kiss before leaving. She gave me a second one just for good measure.

We call it a Not-a-Date because she wasn’t ready to date and was sure to tell me several times it was Not a Date. I couldn’t have made it any better.

First date? With an unknown person? Coffee and conversation. Gotta find out the important stuff. If she uses a bunch of sugar and creamer or orders some fancy designer coffee thing… it’s not going to work out.

^Agreed. Anything that unveils things about the other person’s mind. I’d like a place where they feel comfortable. Maybe they would let down a couple, few walls.
And interesting conversation, leading to relaxation, and details about their life.
Where it goes, how long it lasts is up to us….

What if the date doesn’t drink coffee? I don’t.

@chyna The coffee shop I go to has a myriad of options. Italian soda available in about 25 different flavors, juices, etc.

Anything that has a focus other than just us – bowling, miniputt, dog park, beach, walking in the woods, etc. I can carry a conversation, but don’t want to have to because unless we really click right off, I’m somewhat uncomfortable.

No to coffee shops because the focus is either right on us or on other people in the shop.

Cofre, lunch, or dinner are all fine. Even something as simple as a walk or meet up outside on one of the verandahs where I live.

No first date kiss! I’ve never liked that.

What @Blackwater_Park said. Keep it simple for the first date. Food/drinks (I don’t care for coffee) and conversation. Doesn’t need to be much else; you just need to feel each other out. After that they can start trying to properly woo me by taking me to something intellectual like a museum visit or a lecture at the public library and maybe I’ll put out by the third date. :P

There’s always so much tension on a first date, so I like to have sex right away – Usually over the phone and in public. Because I think nothing says more about imagination, style, compassion, and empathy than filthy talk and disgusting fantasies.

Then we move on to the car wash where I ask them to decide if we get the Diamond Delux or Platinum Treatment, with or without air freshener (so revealing).

Finally we end the evening by putting on each other’s clothes and watching porn on computers at the county library. By the time security escorts us out I always know whether they’ll call me the next morning.

Just please don’t hate me because I’m popular.

K?

^That’s one approach…...

@JLoon I had a first date act like that once. For real. I could not run to the hills fast enough. If she had waited until the third or fourth I would have been all in. Both literally and figuratively.

@JLoon I’m interested. Do you visit the car wash in a car or just hand in hand?

@Blackwater_Park – You seem like the sweet, shy type.

@flutherother – No hand holding on the first date. What kind of girl do you think I am?!

@JLoon I’m honestly kind of an asshole, until you get to know me. Then you see that yes, I’m sweet but blunt, and honest. Not shy, careful.

@Blackwater_Park – Then here’s to more “careful” first dates.

@Blackwater_Park .
That’s similar self assessment of my personality. I call it “being genuine.”