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jahi's avatar

Anyone ever had sex with a shemale ?

Asked by jahi (37 points ) March 30th, 2009

are shemales really women but born with male genetals i’m curious to know this and there are really such people

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dynamicduo's avatar

Most times, shemales are people born as genetic males who go under treatment of various degree to look like or become females. Treatments include: removing the Adam’s apple, inserting breast implants, liposuction, vaginoplasty, amongst others. Wigs, corsets, dress/shoes and makeup are also used.

squirbel's avatar

So yeah – they are not real. Chimeara are those born with both genetalia. They are essentially twins who did not separate – two people in one person.

aprilsimnel's avatar

@dynamicduo – Don’t forget the hormones! Lots o’ estrogen hormones. That’ll take the hair off your chest and grow some bewbs on ya!

dynamicduo's avatar

Of course, lots of medical drugs and hormones too.

syz's avatar

I believe the rather crass “shemale” would be considered a derogatory term. What you are asking about are transgender or perhaps hermaphrodite individuals.

sandystrachan's avatar

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shemale

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermaphrodite

Instead of me goin over all whats been said and adding extra read these

tinyfaery's avatar

That term is extremely offensive. And no.

sandystrachan's avatar

I bet they would rather be called shemale than what they get called here Manny we a fanny.

Who says its offensive? I mean has any shemales came forth and said how offended they are on here at people using this term ?

tinyfaery's avatar

As a member of the LGBT community, and having minored in LGBT studies I can say w/ 100% assurance that shemale is offensive. Why don’t you try transgendered and stop being an offensive so and so.

Mr_M's avatar

I thought a shemale was something you get at Taco Bell. I couldn’t understand why anyone would want to have sex with that.

On the other hand, a chalupa…..

cwilbur's avatar

I know a shemale porn star, now a porn producer, who uses the term “shemale” to refer to herself, and she doesn’t seem to think it’s nearly as offensive as you do, @tinyfaery.

Of course, “shemale” seems to be the preferred term for porn stars who present as female but have male genitalia, so it may be a matter of context.

Jeruba's avatar

A person who is marketing herself is probably going to use the label that sells, even if it means swallowing her dignity. That does not make it a respectful term. I don’t think of a woman by the term that would attach to her if she were selling herself. Do you?

cwilbur's avatar

I think displays of respect are contextual, and I think it’s far more respectful to call a person by the name she chooses, no matter how or why she chose it, than to tell her that she’s wrong.

I call myself a software engineer to sell myself; does that mean it’s disrespectful to call me a software engineer, because the only reason I call myself that is because it’s an accurate description of the most profitable thing I can sell my body for?

tinyfaery's avatar

Fine. Let everyone refer to the transgendered by whatever offensive term one chooses. I’ll stop correcting others when they say fag or dyke in a derogatory fashion. Happy?

cwilbur's avatar

@tinyfaery: I really don’t give a flying @#$% what you do; I’m just offering a data point that shows that your “100% assurance” isn’t.

If you want to go on claiming to speak for everyone, everywhere, by all means carry on.

tinyfaery's avatar

Yes. And you can continue to pander to those who are prejudiced and offensive. What a pleasure it is to know that you don’t give a *&$%. What an asset you are to the community.

Jeruba's avatar

@tinyfaery, what’s with the slap at “everyone”?

tinyfaery's avatar

@jeruba I do not understand.

cwilbur's avatar

@tinyfaery: see above, where I point out that displays of respect are contextual.

And if you want to go around correcting people, do so. It does not affect me either way, and I really do not care what you do or what you get angry about. I don’t have the power or the inclination to stop you doing what you want to do, whether your reasons are misguided or not.

But if you post something that’s not right, I’m going to disagree with it. The angry political activist act doesn’t give you a free pass to spout any inaccurate things you want, and pretending that the only options are to be offended on other people’s behalf at everything you think they should be offended at and taking offense at nothing is just plain ludicrous.

In small words: being an angry lesbian does not make you correct. Being an angry lesbian does not mean you can speak authoritatively for all people everywhere. Disagreeing with you does not make one a bigot.

casheroo's avatar

@tinyfaery I did not know it was a deragatory word, I honestly didn’t know what a shemale was..I’ve only ever heard transsexual or transgender. Why is it offensive?

To answer the OP, no, I’ve never had sex with any transsexual. I do refer to them as their appropriate gender though, which is whatever they identify with.

Divalicious's avatar

At the jail we refer to them as J-4’s. Men are J-3’s, and women are J-5’s.

tinyfaery's avatar

I am not a lesbian. Just a correction because you are wrong.

tinyfaery's avatar

Transgendered Dictionary.

Scroll down to shemale.

But maybe I cannot take the transgendered community’s definition of the word.

cwilbur's avatar

@tinyfaery: You cannot assume that someone claiming to speak on behalf of a “community” speaks authoritatively for each of its members.

Otherwise, as you did above when you tried to speak for all LGBT people everywhere, you could say any damnfool asinine thing you wanted, and people could reasonably accept that it was my belief, because we’re both part of this amorphous and poorly-defined “LGBT community.”

There’s no doubt that some transgendered people find the word “shemale” offensive. I wouldn’t even be surprised if that extended to most or many. But your claim that it’s offensive to all is patently false, and your great show of taking offense on other people’s behalf is pathetic.

In other words: you speak for yourself. Other people speak for themselves. No matter how much you enjoy persecution complexes and playing the martyr, you don’t have the standing to be offended on other people’s behalf.

syz's avatar

All the bickering aside, it is a derogatory term.

tinyfaery's avatar

More corrections to your errors:

1. Martyr? ha ha ha I wouldn’t die for any cause or belief.

2. Persecution complex? hahahah I have never been personally persecuted for anything in my entire life. I’m just sympathetic and care about those who are intentionally persecuted and disparaged for being who they are.

3. Group, no group. Fuck that postmodern bullshit; semantics mean nothing.

4. You should take your own advice; speak only for yourself and never answer a question with anything but “in my opinion”.

Done.

MacBean's avatar

Hello. I’m a transgendered person. I have a few things to say.

- Thank you, @tinyfaery.
– “Shemale” is a porn term, and not one to be used outside of that medium.
– I am so deeply offended by the use of the term and the comments standing up for it that I’m now going to unfollow this question.

That’s all.

Jack79's avatar

I almost had sex with a Formerly Male But Hence Undergone A Gender Operation Which Made Him Look Like A Woman Person (is that politically correct enough? and am I allowed to say “prostitute”?). It was not out of choice and in the end nothing happened.

It was my 21st birthday and I was flying through Athens, going from one concert to another. My manager picked me up at the airport and since we had several hours to kill and it was my birthday, he insisted that we do two things I’d never done before: drink beer and have sex with a prostitute. Both were a disaster.

Even though I drank a lot of alcohol at the time, beer was never my thing (I still hate it). But I was forced to drink a whole bottle, which tasted like urine mixed with tonic water. It was supposed to be a good brand.

Then we went looking for prostitutes, except that we were too late and all the good ones were gone. The ones we did see were so old and ugly, that I said “I’m not paying for that! I wouldn’t have sex with her even if she had to pay me”. Eventually we see two gorgeous girls in a car (and yes, you know where this is going). We were not sure if they were prostitutes or just two girls waiting for their boyfriends. We didn’t want to offend anyone, so we just parked behind them and waited, and sure enough, men would come up to the car and talk business. To cut a long story short, a few minutes later we end up in the dirtiest hotel I’ve ever seen, one of those where you get charged by the hour, and I’m naked with a condom in my hands but erection. I don’t know whether it was because it was paid sex (I’ve always felt that you need the romanticism even for a one-night-stand) or whether I had felt that something was wrong with that woman with the perfect breasts (that would not take off the bottom yet). I just couldn’t do it, so I paid her and put my clothes back on. It was only then that I realised she was a he, through a comment (s)he made.

The funny bit is when my manager came out, more than half an hour later. As we left I whispered: “did you notice anything weird about yours?”
“no idea. It was great”
“is it possible that…”
“who cares? A hole is a hole”

which tells you all you need to know about his sexual preferences lol

2quincycurtis's avatar

how r shemale in bed

scamp's avatar

Wow, interesting way to start a fluther careeer….O-o

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