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Sexuality (NSFW) : We've all heard about how straight guys like to see 2 women making out (or having sex) BUT, what about women liking to see basically the same thing, only its 2 men?

Asked by gottamakeart (1318 points ) September 30th, 2009

I’d like to know, is there a double standard, or do women enjoy a similar “show”?

Your opinions on this matter (all sides of the issue,if you like)
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sandystrachan's avatar

Females like to see gay men fuck ?
For the record i do not like or want to see 2 females do anything sexual to each other

DarkScribe's avatar

I have a feeling that you think that a woman is a just guy with a different chromosome mix. The differences are more subtle than that. Although there will certainly be exceptions, I have never met a woman who is turned on by watching gay guys. None of the many sexuality reports from Kinsey onward mention this as a feminine response. I have known a number of women who are far from lesbian or Bi who like watching other attractive women.

SundayKittens's avatar

Men’s bodies are utilitarian and…women are soft and sensual. Therefore watching dude on dude is not as sexy. Grope Grope Poke Poke.
Also, men are visual and complete pervs which is why the girl on girl thing appeals to them. Case closed!

CMaz's avatar

Women are beautiful.
We name ships after them.
We refer to things as SHE.
Wars were fought over them.

Men are men, we are tools.

tinyfaery's avatar

Umm. There was whole thread about how women love it a while ago. It was 2 late to be who asked it.

mabl8tr's avatar

actually, it just may be a matter of personal preference!
...i happen to go with a girl who thinks it’s kinda hot!!
all the while, i’m knowing to myself that it’s completely Unreasonable for me to expect her to enjoy some 3 way girl on girl, 2 girls on a guy or even straight porn if i’m not willing to expose myself to a little something she might find arousing! NO DOUBLE STANDARDS!

aprilsimnel's avatar

Sure some women do, that’s why there’s yaoi.

gottamakeart's avatar

I have a friend (straight male) who says he doesn’t like lesbian porn or women just having “special alone time” he prefers to see a man and a woman go at it. I may be wrong, but that sounds a little bit bi-curious to me, (remember the Kinsey scale on sexuality? we all fit on it somewhere)

peedub's avatar

Based on my experiences with various girls dated, they are not into it. A rare handful of them were into the idea of two dudes kissing, and maybe even doing the helicopter, but not really sex. Particularly commented upon, in a negative light, is the perceived aggression inherent in gay male intercourse.
The most recent story I heard related to this is from a girl who lived under a young, gay male couple. She told me how incredibly loud it was and that she was ‘traumatized’ from the experience.

Here’s the thing, two males sharing two dogs and four dice = two less-masculine males (to the female mind).
Two females + a roll in the hay = two girls that are no less feminine, or are perhaps extra-feminine. Viewing males in this light detracts from the very essence of their attraction to males.

On a different note, most or all of the girls I mention are fond of gay men and or have them as close friends. They just don’t seem to have a desire to watch it all go down. But who knows, I am certainly no authority.

Personally, I don’t like watching any other people have sex, at least nothing too hardcore. Some happy ending and Charmin squeezing is ok, I suppose.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

My wife likes to watch two men pleasure themselves/each other. So in this context, there is no double standard.

Facade's avatar

I don’t. I’d rather see two women going at it.

casheroo's avatar

I think we’re making sexual generalizations about people.

But, I do think two men going at it is extremely hot. Male gay porn always does it for me. I don’t know why.

poofandmook's avatar

@casheroo: same here. There was a thread, as stated above, where lots of female Flutherers felt the same.

So yes, some of us find extreme pleasure in two men together.

peedub's avatar

I’m only basing what I know on my own experience, which is admittedly not a complete a picture. I honestly had no idea, so I guess this thread was productive, for me at least.
And, I am once again reminded the dangers of generalizing.

fireinthepriory's avatar

Wow, I thought that was a total given, I know TONS of straight/bi girls who are into gay guy porn.

Even I think it’s kind of hot, and I’m basically a lesbian. I like it way more than straight porn, anyway, which I find rather gross… :)

Noel_S_Leitmotiv's avatar

I’ve had more than one GF that was into man on man porn.

@ChazMaz: Men are tools? Speak for yourself ; )

CMaz's avatar

I did speak for myself. :-)

sjmc1989's avatar

The only time I wanna see two men together is if I was in bed with them. And they were only giving Lovin’ to me not to each other. Good Times! So I don’t know if that even counts

CMaz's avatar

“And they were only giving Lovin’ to me not to each other.”

Oh you would be getting lovin’. Two alpha males and one woman.
The problem is that two men are going to use you like a hole. Unless you like that sort of thing.
The guys after getting off will leave you to yourself.

Two women want lovin’ so it becomes intimate. Which makes for some good times. Usually with some good after care. And a man happy to have had the opportunity.

sjmc1989's avatar

OK @ChazMaz Of course I don’t want them to use me like a hole. Thats why this is a fantasy. I know that it would be close to impossible for me to be with two men and them both treat me with care and respect. This is why it is a fantasy and why I choose to keep it a fantasy

trailsillustrated's avatar

ewww. I’d rather watch the two women.

alive's avatar

i have never considered, or been interested in watching people have sex in real life, but when i watch porn, i generally prefer Male/Male porn to Female/Female of Female/Male.

girl on girl porn is usually the most fake of the 3 and tends to simulate straight sex, and male/female porn is often degrading to women, and it is just a guy fucking a girl and blowing his load on her face… nothing interesting. so of the 3 genres gay male porn is the only one that can keep my attention.

Leanne1986's avatar

Personally I have never been turned on by two men going at it but by the same token I am not in anyway disgusted or turned off by it. It just does nothing for me. Seeing two females going at it doesn’t turn me on much either although I find it a little more sensual to watch than two men. If I watch porn I tend to opt for the boring male with female option.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

I know a few women who are into male/male porn. It doesn’t bother me, but it doesn’t do anything for me, either. Female/female porn does nothing for me, either. Male/female porn can, but not usually, because it’s generally pretty degrading to women.

MacBean's avatar

The largest ‘shipping community on LiveJournal for the House M.D. fandom is the House/Wilson community. There are almost no male members, and I think all of the major content contributors are female. The vast majority of them are not there simply for the friendship aspect of the relationship; the art, fiction, discussions, etc. that they produce is almost always full of unresolved sexual tension if there isn’t actual erotica (and there usually is).

So. There are women who like gay male porn. Lots and lots of them.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I am what others would identify as a woman (though I don’t like gender) and I love men on men and women on women or people on people, no matter their sex…I think in our society it is acceptable for all to objectify women and therefore female on female action…there are so many assumptions in the answers above but they’re very illustrative as to these norms we’re all inundated with…

MerMaidBlu's avatar

I’m bi-curious but I would NEVER want to watch two guys making out OR having sex but I enjoy watching girls, something about taking it in the but just makes me feel sick

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I’m a woman and I admit to being aroused by man-on-man action. I don’t go looking for it though, I don’t need it in order to get aroused enough to be able to have sex with a partner and I wouldn’t be interested in watching it with my partner either. For me it’s a titillation if I come across it or check it for solo time.

tiffyandthewall's avatar

just puttin’ this out there, i love it.

especially band slash fiction. but only when it’s really well written. i’ve read fan fiction that is interesting and well enough written to be a well acclaimed book.

prude's avatar

I love watching man on man porn
that is just toooo hot!
I actually like to watch men on man, but you get what I mean.
Seeing 2+ guys going at it is incredible!

CMaz's avatar

“Seeing 2+ guys going at it is incredible!”

Quite incredible… Them scraping the poo off their penises.

poofandmook's avatar

@ChazMaz: You really don’t know much about it, if that’s all you have to say.

CMaz's avatar

Ya ever shoot porn or been on the set? The real deal? The professional stuff?
It is a whole other thing behind the scenes.

Like a slaughter factory. You love the steak, but you probably would not eat it if you had to see how it got to your plate.

Noel_S_Leitmotiv's avatar

Hello?.. Theres a huge difference between porn and the meat industry, porn actors willingly signed a contract..

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ChazMaz well next time you get fucked up the ass, poop prior to it

augustlan's avatar

Mmmm… yes, please.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@MerMaidBlu there is plenty of male on male sex that doesn’t involve anal penetration. And if two guys going at it is good, then three or more is AWESOME!

Yeah, I have the Bel Ami Boys DVDs.

augustlan's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Oh. My. God. <melts>

alive's avatar

@ChazMaz…why are you talking “shit” about anal (yes, pun intended). there is anal in “straight” porn too…

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