Are your questions always about you?
There are times when I try to think up questions just for the entertainment of others. I think the topics are interesting, but not on a directly personal level. Other times, my questions are personal—reflective of things that are happening in my life at the time. If you wanted to, you could probably write a biography based on my questions.
I was wondering what approaches other people take to their questions. Are they mostly about issues of personal interest—i.e., problems you face right now; or are they more speculative or for the community—just matters of idle concern, or attempts to generate some warmth in the community?
Can you provide some examples of questions that you think are representative of your type of questions? Can you talk about the motives you have for asking questions?
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My wife likes to try to end an arguement with “it’s not ABOUT you!”
Out of the 13 questions I’ve asked, 8 of them were about solving problems I had.
Throughout the day, I think up a bunch of good questions to ask the Fluther. But by the time I get home, I forget them all. Whereas, personal problem questions, I (usually) don’t forget, because I need that problem to be solved.
Milo here; My questions are either about me or about Gail’s naiveté and limited intuition.
Hey, no talking cats allowed!
Our questions are always about us. No matter what the subject is.
Since it is our curiosity that has brought the question to light.
So far they are, but I’ve only asked 2…
@stratman37; Milo here; Put up your paws, find a second and prepare for sardines at 20 paces.
I tawt I taw a Puutty Tat. I DID, I DID, taw a Puutty Tat!!
I would say yes, mostly, they are about me.
I think for a lot of the other stuff (factual or otherwise) I can go to Google or if I need academic advice, I go to my counselor or parents. My questions here are usually of a personal nature for which I want unbiased feedback. Fluther is awesome for that.
I know far too much about myself to want to learn more.
Usually the questions are about issues I’m having in my life. Sometimes I’ll make it into a general question and once in awhile I’ll just have a random idea pop into my head that I think “Hey that’s a good one for Fluther!”
I often just want to know what other people think. And I’m afeared of asking a dumb question, which has happened with a little bit of wine!
No, sometimes they’re bits of conversations I overhear or posts sparked from other threads.
Yeah, mine are mostly about me. But usually my questions are to solve a problem- need a recipe, help with a friend, help with personal situations, how do I _______, etc.
Most of my questions are speculative, or they’re personal questions of a non-serious nature. In real conversations, I like asking and answering questions like that. Like, “Should I buy this?” or “If you were a president, which one would you want to be?” Stuff like that is probably a waste of time, but I just ask whatever happens to pop into my head.
I usually try not to ask questions pertaining my own issues, but lately that’s all that’s been on my mind. I usually think of questions that just puzzle me or I’m curious to see others input on the matter. I like to be speculative and just sit back and watch the comments fly which isn’t easy to do, lol. It’s only lately I’ve had a lot of issues and have been asking a lot of personal questions. 14 out of the 20 questions I asked were just things I was interested to know how others feel about the subject, but for some reason a lot of the answers I’ve gotten on probably half of them people have taken them to the extreme and thought it was on a personal level. I’ve tried to clarify that I was just inquiring, but maybe I’m just taken them personal. I also don’t give out lurve for the ones that assume “these” type of questions are about me personally. Since, I think they obviously missed the point.
OK, let me answer the original question.
No, they’re not always about me. Just today I asked about everyone’s best/worst Holiday memory. I love the shared experience.
A joy shared is twice the joy. A burden shared is half the burden.
When is a question not about the person asking it?
I see a question that is about you.
I admit to my vanity. Yes. All my questions have to do with me.
I would consider about 10% of my questions to be actually about me, personally. That would be about issues I’m having….I can recall asking a question about how to get the smell of spilled cologne out of a small, poorly ventilated room, a question about why my disc drive on my computer might be acting up, a question about whether or not to send a thank you note after a job interview….and a few more. But the other 90% of my questions don’t have anything to do with me, personally. Now, they are about things I am wondering about, I don’t ever just ask a question where I’m not personally interested in hearing the answers, but generally for me it’s about curiosity. I’ve asked people to share their opinions on music and concerts and movies and such, like your 5 most underrated and overrated bands or the best concert you’ve seen unexpectedly, things I’m interested in. I’ve asked a few sex related questions about things in which I have never had personal experience nor do I expect to ever have the opportunity to gain such experience, but where I’m nonetheless curious about the answer, such as my now infamous questions about preferred penis size or the pleasures of anal sex. I ask questions about political opinions, human nature, items in the news, like if the choices of VP candidates swayed your vote, or if you found it all all humorous that Cindy McCain sprained her wrist by shaking hands, or if you think it would be possible for someone as high profile as Michael Jackson to have faked his death. If I find something interesting, sometimes I want to know if it struck others the way it struck me, like the last question I asked what others thought about an SNL skit that caught me off guard. So, 100% of the questions I ask are based on my own self interest, things I want to know, but only about 10% involve me to any personal degree, other than the fact that I usually do have my own opinion about the topic I’m asking about. I ask questions simply out of curiosity, and because I trust this collection of people to provide me with fun, insightful, informative, useful answers 100% of the time.
My questions are not always about me, they really run the gamut from me, to a topic a friend might have brought up, to a simple curiosity. No rhyme or reason really.
I have to agree with @ChazMaz. The subject matter of my questions may range very widely, and I seldom ask a question that is explicitly about something that’s happening in my life, but I think questions are just as personal as dreams—and just as revealing.
Although I try to ask questions that are to do with me but with a broader applicability to others, they tend to be answered in a way that is relevant only to me, making the questions “about me”.
My questions are often inspired by problems I am having; I try to make them as open-ended as possible, so that others can benefit from the collective wisdom.
My questions are not always about me although if something is bothering me then I will often post a question about it to get advise. Usually my questions are based on subjects that interest me (for example I have a questions about the Holocaust which is a subject I find fascinating even though I have no personal connection, that I am aware of, with it). I also find that a lot of my questions are inspired by other questions on here and the answers they got (for example my most recent one about parenting came from a discussion about whether it was right or wrong to spank children. I don’t intend on having kids myself just yet but I was interested to find out how peoples opinions on certain things changed after they became parents).
So far mine are only about Xena. >_>
I have yet to post a question i’d be back to this thread soon. :)
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