Am I a "cougar"?

Strictly speaking, no you aren’t, but you do qualify for the label as a bit of a joke.

If you habitually bedded 20-somethings, you’d be a cougar.

Um… you’re probably a fox. It’s him that we haven’t decided on yet. If after one evening he’s swearing that you’re “meant to be”, I’d be wondering exactly what the hell he is.

You are not a cougar, but apparently have it going on! You go girl!

@kevbo Has it right.

What @kevbo said.
What, other then pervert, is a guy (42) called when he has, like i do, a 15 year younger girlfriend.
Female = cougar
Male = .......?

@rebbel that would be a rapist.

Lol! I love fluther! If you all knew how hard it’s been to “rebuild” my self-esteem. @CyanoticWasp and @chyna, I’m pretty hot, if I say so myself! :-) I agree with @kevbo, but my interest is soo below the mason-dixon line.

Plus @rebbel; he’s 32!

Edit: reread @rebbel- oh, she’s 27 not 15, my apologies. I will add, I see us having nothing in common but my desire to have sex with him and his desire to oblige.

@CyanoticWasp
You are joking there, i guess?

Seriously, is there a word for it?

@rebbel no, worse than that: I misread your Q. I thought you were talking about a “15-year-old” girlfriend.

So… your guy is just ‘normal’ (and pretty damn proud of himself).

Go get him, tigress!

Unless you make it a habit, no. Not that there is anything wrong with being a cougar, if you are attracted to someone then that’s all that matters.

If you sleep with him… COUGAR!

Cougar starts at a 10 year spread. My rule.

@ChazMaz- that is my intent.

@CyanoticWasp
Hahaha, in that case i would agree, that would be illegal and criminal (in some countries).
/Proud.

43 and 32 aren’t that bad. 10yrs apart isn’t quite “cougar” in my book. He’d have to be in his 20’s, and like they all said, it would have to be habitual.
At least at his age he can be mature enough to handle a serious relationship. If you said 23 I’d be worried!

I’m not sure what you all are talking about. As far as I know, cougars and humans are two different species and all that stuff about werewolves and werecougars and such is just a pile on nonsense.

@TLRobinson Don’t worry about what to call yourself – just go out and have fun!

Thanks @janbb! I plan to.

You go girl. I’d suggest that you give it the six month window we discussed another time however. These whirlwind romances are great for about that long, then they tend to disintegrate. If you truly are meant to be, it will last this trial period. Good luck sugar.

There’s more than one way to skin a cat,cougar or not i’d say, foxy lady on the prowl have fun.

@wundayatta- I’m not trying to be a smart ass, but this will come off as though I am; if you don’t get it, ask for clarification otherwise why make a statement not relevant to answering the question? Bitter much?

Fair play to you. I also think it would be fun for a while to be screwing a forty-something.

My experience of late with the 40 somethings is quite “flat”; pun intended.

The way I understand it, a Cougar is a woman who preys on unsuspecting younger men by flirting, dating, taking advantage of, and then dumping. The female equivalent of a scoundrel.

A woman who dates a young man for companionship and a real relationship is nothing like that. I am married to a man 8 years younger than I, who was 24 when we met, 36 years ago.

Give him a chance, age dose not matter. Try new things, see what you like. Have fun.

My understanding is that cougars are always “on the prowl” for younger guys. That doesn’t sound like you.
Age ain’t nothin’ but a thang.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. You are no more a cougar that if you were a guy after a younger woman being a perv. You are BOTH over the legal age and if someone doesn’t feel comfortable about seeing you it is on them not YOU. And it has nothing to do with him feeling you are meant to be, that has happened with so many people since Jr. high if I had nickel for each one that felt they have met their soul mate over a BBQ or trip to the beach etc I would have a mansion. Right now I say if it works for you enjoyment go with it, if something more involved comes from it I am sure you will know it.

If you have any kids you might even qualify as a MILF!!!

I’ve always thought the term referred to women who specifically seek out younger men for strictly sexual trysts. In my life, I’ve had several long term serious/live in relationships with men 10–12 years younger than me and we never thought about it as being predatory or odd, it just happened that way. Those experiences taught me to not discount someone’s intent or comittment based on age, you never know who will step up.

Baby, have a good time. Enjoy yourself. Teach the kid some tricks. He’s already got some stamina. Give him a chance.

are you happy??? if so then why do you care? you’re hot you’re sexy, enjoy it! remeber HE is the lucky one

Cougar is old enough to be his mom.

Your not quite old enough to be his mom. (which for me would be about 13 years of age) Unless his mom was 11 when she delivered him. (Yuck) So I would say no because of that and because he is in his 30’s. He’s not exactly a spring chicken. He should have decent knowledge of what he wants. So you are not taking advantage of his innocence. Sounds like he’s the hunter and he got himself a cat. :D

you are a cougar.

Cougars are middle aged women who prey on 20 something men/women depending on preference. Not classy women you happen to catch the eye of a younger man who is very interested. If you still have it going on at 43, then by all means you go girl. I hope things work out.

Go get it and guard you heart a little!

@TLRobinson Cougar is a derogatory term. Kind of tongue-in-cheek. Why not have a little fun with it? You seem to have a kind of life and death seriousness about this question. Excuse me if I thought it was a half-serious question. I’ve never known anyone to take this idea seriously before. I thought it was just a bunch of teenage guys getting their ya-yas over naked older women. It that floats your boat, you won’t find me judging you. Taking it seriously—well, that’s another thing altogether.

@wundayatta I agree to a certain extent, but to dismiss the issue as semantics, as you seem to do, can be misleading, when there is exploitation involved. There is such a thing of predatory women, just as predatory men, and one name for that it Cougar.

@wundayatta- the question was “tongue in cheek”, your response wasn’t. It was judgemental and dismissive. All responses, including mine were lighthearted, yours was not. Again, bitter much?

@TLRobinson Honestly, I have no idea what you mean. How is it judgmental to pretend not to understand what the question is about just so I could act as if it was a serious question about magical creatures to which I am seriously responding that they don’t exist? What was your interpretation of my answer? I am not getting where you are coming from at all.

And bitter? Bitter about what? Why are you taking my response as if it’s serious? You must be seeing something in it that I had no intention of putting there.

Just a quick message to any cougars out there: you know how to get in touch with me. Discretion assured.

@beautifulbobby193 hmmm, how old are you? haha

29 and in great shape. Come and get me!

@beautifulbobby193
I think 25 is the juicy bait expiration. Welcome to “just another dude-dom”.

I will never be “just another dude”. I will always have something that women crave.

I don’t trust guys that call themselves “beautiful”

@Ludy
I think it’s probably a reference to one of those professional wrestling actors but, yeah.

wrestling actors, got that right :D