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What portion of your internet relationships fade away?

Asked by wundayatta (58722points) August 11th, 2010

I’ve entered into a lot of fairly serious internet correspondences over the years. Very few of them last more than a few months. We seem to get very intense at first and then it slowly drops off, as if we’ve said all we had to say to each other. Then they stop altogether. I wonder how common this experience is.

What is your experience? Do you enter into these kinds of correspondences? How long do they tend to last? Is there a pattern in terms of the intensity of the correspondence? How do you account for this pattern?

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CMaz's avatar

99%
Funny thing, fantasy always fades away.

And that is all “internet relationships” are.

Buttonstc's avatar

Most of them.

After all, it is the Internet.

Expecting otherwise is unrealistic.

bob_'s avatar

Come to think of it, most of them. A few months ago I even tried to locate a former “pen pal” from Germany, to no avail. Ah well, c’est la vie.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

I’d say that your assessment of the life expectancy of an online relationship is realistic from my own experience. It also applies to real life relationships. People connect all the time through some common denominator. As they get to know each other, sometimes the initial magic wears off as they learn more about the person. I question whether it matters if it is an online or in-person relationship.

Jude's avatar

I agree with Chaz. There are a few internet friends from 5 years ago that I still talk to, but, for the most part, no. And, I agree about “internet relationships as being fantasy. Sadly, for some folks, internet friendships are all that they have.

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marinelife's avatar

The relationships are hard to keep up because there is no shared experiences to make them grow.

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gailcalled's avatar

Once the novelty wore off, I went back to my real friends and family.

Arisztid's avatar

Unless they become real life, all of them fade away.

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whatthefluther's avatar

I’ve established a large number of internet relationships that I’m fairly certain would stand “the test of time”, if I were to give them the proper attention and effort. I have the desire, but sadly lack the time and energy.
See ya…..Gary/wtf

YARNLADY's avatar

When I started blogging, I communicated with people I knew I had a lot in common with. Most of the exchanges lasted a couple of years, although the longest have lasted over 6 years and still going strong are with people I have actually met.

ducky_dnl's avatar

95% of them. I still have some online friends that I met nearly two years on yahoo answers. We don’t really fall out if I have them on my facebook or something.

le_inferno's avatar

Almost all of them. There’s 2 people I was close with who don’t really go online anymore. And then I had a handful of internet buddies who I just simply drifted from. I used to need them, and now I don’t have that dependence. I stay in touch with a couple of them and catch up every now and then. My most enduring Internet relationship would have to be the boy I fell in love with when I was 15. He still calls me fairly often, we’re good friends.

wundayatta's avatar

Trust @mattbrowne to always know things with precision.

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