@Loried2008 The question was right on. It makes us look at the world and the people around us, think about our expectations and make an honest assessment of what we’re going to get. So it’s a great question. It’s just what we usually get from others is often less than great.
I really had to think about this. I guess I expect more from people. I realize I do tend to get disappointed in the human race as a whole because I expect people to be kinder to each other and not as cruel.
I expect little and am still surprised by lack of common courtesy and dishonesty sometimes. It has not do to with disappointment so much, as I don’t lose sleep over strangers. But People are capable of surprising me pleasantly as well, so…
I only can try to adhere to the standard that I set for myself, and allow others the option of setting their own. If they fall short of my standards I am no loger so quick to dismiss people as I used to be, and if I have to interact with them I still can learn something useful. People can be perfectly nice, well meaning people and fail to do something or act in a manner consistent with what I counsider proper. Sometimes they aren’t aware, or have something on their minds….
I’ve considerably lowered the bar for others. I still grumble about people, but I catch myself far more often and try to turn it around and not be so quick to categorize or think meanly of them.
I used to expect more, used to give people the benefit of a doubt more but after years of seeing how that doesn’t pan out well (at least for me) then I am one of those who has become more cynical, less trusting, less patient, less interested. I hate this feeling and hope it passes as I practice making better choices, I’m just a little late to the game.
I expect a lot from people. When people are lazy / unmotivated (etc…)—whether lovers or even friends—this makes me not want to associate with them. I’ve been called cold before, ‘unfeeling,’ ‘unsympathetic’ and ‘hard’ but all in all, I don’t give a flying fuck. My mother raised me knowing I’d have the world in my hands, and I’m very quickly getting it. I expect others to believe this about themselves, too.
‘I expect nothing from no one, but nor do I convince myself that they have nothing to give. All I really ask is for cunts to mind their own business and I’ll do the same.’
It’s all very well and good, but ‘cunts’ also bear your children, raise your family, take care of YOUR home, make YOUR dinner.. so you might want to be more respectful by not using such a derogatory term.