I go insane when I am alone or don't have anyone to talk to. What do I do?

you could try to invest time in learning something new, exploring a subject,
immerse yourself into a topic.. Make it your own. This will make you stand out.

Other than that, if this is something that is going out of hand, I would advise you to seek out professional help

Thank you for your advice. I probably shouldn’t be just sitting here doing nothing…

Things I read most is, that when you feel this way, you should immediately try to do something different.

But, if this is something that is going on for a while now and the above doesn’t solve it, you should go to speak with someone that can help and guide you professionaly.

Good luck,

Getting a pet could help too

Internet.
I know that when I feel a need to talk to someone and there’s no one physically around, I talk to my e-friends online, or I go bother people on stranger chat sites, or whatever.
Do you use Facebook yet?

how bout chatroulette.com?

I do have and use facebook. but I am currently living in Japan so because of the time difference, when I need someone, say at night, no one’s up… sucks.
Never heard of chatroulette.com but maybe I will check it out.
This is something that’s been going on for a while and i have seeked professional help but hmm… nothing.
The fact that you guys are reading and responding to my question, just like right now, actually helps. So thank you guys.

We’re happy to help. :)

As for the time zone issue, can’t you just make some new local friends and talk to them?

Welcome to Fluther.

You have to face the fact that you may already be insane, and that being alone and not having anyone to speak to just makes it manifest to you. Not to burst your bubble, but it is a possibility.

I suppose the more likely, but far less interesting, scenario is that you’re perfectly sane, but lonely. Since you’re (apparently) away from friends who are out of daylight phase with you and (I’m guessing) in a foreign culture from what you’re used to, that’s not so unusual.

So I’d start with a reading list. Hopefully you have a reading list? My problem is not getting off the Interwebz long enough to put a dent in mine.

Call a friend, watch TV, or grab a beer and relax.

Fluther, for now.

I might already be insane… haha yea I won’t deny that.
Drinking is a good idea, for sure and do drink everyday… lol
I wish, though, I liked reading. I do have a book that I want to finish reading so maybe that’s an idea =)
Not gonna lie, I am glad I found this website.
Again, thanks to you all.

You may not know the story of the man who is called “the father of modern sociology”, Augustus Comte. He eventually resolved that any outside influences would ‘pollute’ the true nature of self, and who he was. So he exiled himself to a cabin in seclusion, and allowed no one else around him, and read only his own books he’d written. Sure, his mind wasn’t ‘polluted’ by pesky ideas from beyond his own brain, but he also went insane.

This is because when people spend a lot of time alone, and alone in their thoughts, they lose grips on reality, they have no objective points of balance around them. Often times an identity crisis can occur when you don’t have people helping you feel like you’re filling a role in society , or even in a circle of friends or family.

If you spend a lot of time alone, try to distract yourself, start a hobby, or interact with others online, like Fluther!! Being a ‘loner’ isn’t a bad thing, but too much time in your own head, without outside influences, will loosen that tether to society and reality. Just try to get some level of interaction when you feel anxious.

… and get some sleep. It’s half past midnight in Tokyo and here you are still online.

Good story and great advice. Thank you. It is that I had always been around people and never really had to be alone like this up until now. I think I can start spending more time on here, for sure.
Yea it is. Good morning to you? Well, I can’t sleep but will try… =)

Learning to be able to spend time alone is a challenge—but it can be a gift as well. Some people use their time so well, they have plans to accomplish for the day, they have reading lists to get through, projects to take on and complete, hobbies, languages to learn, houses to clean etc. It requires discipline. And it is so easy to fritter away the precious time you have. But having relationships, even through the internet, can help with loneliness as well.

Some people use their time so well, they have plans to accomplish for the day, they have reading lists to get through, projects to take on and complete, hobbies, languages to learn, houses to clean etc.

Yeah, we hate those people.

You should try to find some local clubs to join. Do you speak Japanese? If so, there are probably tons of social clubs from dancing to cooking to book clubs and game clubs and sports clubs. If you don’t speak Japanese, look specifically for clubs and organizations that are geared towards Americans and Brits.

Start reading lots of great books. Cook and invite new friends over to cook with you and to share a meal.

Look into taking some classes for fun (cooking, dancing, singing, an instrument).

Start writing your memoirs.

And yes, we’re usually up late here on Fluther! But if this problem is getting out of hand for you, find a GOOD therapist who can help you. Sometimes you have to try out several before you get a good match.

What brought you to Japan? Do you have friends, relatives or colleagues there?

You guys are so great.
I guess I am just not good at making friends or don’t really know where to go or how to do so.
Need to work on that.
But really, this helps. Fluther, and you guys.