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The "bully's" Mother is upset at the notereity her son is getting and want's an apology from Casey Heynes....should she get one?

Asked by Cruiser (40401points) March 17th, 2011

I think we all know the story now of how Casey Heynes was getting punched by this bully, finally had enough and then body slammed him into the ground. Well, the story now has the bully’s mother is now upset about how her son is being “victimized”....

The emotional mother of Ritchard Gale , Tina, told the Seven Network last night that she and her family have been victimised by the footage, which has spread worldwide. She also demanded an apology from the victim.

“We don’t need this posted everywhere,” she said. “I would like him to apologise.”

She said she was “shocked” at her son’s behaviour, but did not think he deserved to be bodyslammed by Year 10 student Casey Heynes at Chifley College’s Dunheved Campus, St Marys.

“I was actually shocked because I always brought my three children up to walk away from fights,” she said.

Is she right in demanding and expecting an apology??

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iamthemob's avatar

“I was actually shocked because I always brought my three children up to walk away from fights,” she said.

Oh no she di’int!

Yes, she is wrong. If she apologizes first, and so does her son, then she might be right to ask for one.

Besides, if she’s mad about the video, she should be demanding an apology from the poster, not those involved.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

My reply to her: Fuck you!

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

No.Are you kidding?
Her attitude is exactly why her kid is the way he is.

robdamel's avatar

Hey keep us updated on this story. I definitely would like to know if Casey and his family will do something about this non-sense.

ragingloli's avatar

Sounds like she is asking for a pile driver, too.

Summum's avatar

The news always seem to ignite more than it should be. These are kids that have trouble and it was video taped. If everyone would just let it be and learn from it then it should just go away. The Mother needs to appologize to Casey for her son attacking him first but again I’m not sure why the smaller boy was hitting the bigger one? But I think any appology should come from the person that actually posted the video. Reminds me of the woman that walks into a fountain in the mall and then tried to cause trouble for it being shown on the web.

marinelife's avatar

1. The friend who videotaped her little darling punching Casey is the problem with the spreading of and presence of the videotape (although I think her son had something to do with the videotaping—he certainly was not objecting to being taped).

2. She wants an apology? Like what about her son apologizing for punching Casey multiple times.

3. SHe’s upset? Should she be upset her son was a shitty little instigator? I think so.

wundayatta's avatar

I don’t understand how the little guy could bully the big one, but maybe he had boxing lessons or something. Of course the mother is upset it’s all over the internet. My question is whether this is a good thing or a bad thing.

Will the bully get famous for his notoriety? Will he make money by making endorsements for Tuff shoes or something? People seem to love assholes this day and age. Maybe he’ll get a contract for reality TV of some kind.

It is clear that school officials and teachers have no idea how to deal with bullying. They are afraid of bullies just as much as anyone else. Plus, if they do intervene, they will have raving parents to deal with. Easier to pretend you don’t see it.

Parents probably don’t even know. Who is going to tell them? There’s this code of silence, anyway. People are afraid, and few want to confront bullies, even adults. Then, there’s always the principle that no one ever sees the first punch, just the retaliation. So the victim is punished for being a victim. Why would you tell on anyone, then?

I teach my kids to “use their words.” Well, I did back when they were in kindergarten. I teach them to think their way out of trouble. I don’t know how I did it, but when I was a kid, I got the bully to like me, and so I was under his protection (even though I didn’t like him) just because I was smart or funny or something. I don’t remember.

I doubt if adults will do that much, even though it is their kids. Perhaps teaching kids coping strategies that do not involve ratting out their fellow students could help. Perhaps building teams of some kind, so people all can have gangs when they need them. I don’t know. The kids should figure out what will work.

As to the mother demanding an apology—that’s simply pathetic. She refuses to look at herself and tries to blame the victim. She has the moral fiber of a snail. Like I said, it’s only the retaliation that gets seen. She’s playing by that principle even though we see her son dancing like a decapitated chicken, a creature who he uses as a role model for intelligence.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

If I were the parent of the true victim, Casey, I’d demand an apology from the bully’s mom on national television. Then I’d politely tell her that her son is a miniature asshole and that their whole family can fuck off.

Cruiser's avatar

@wundayatta If you read the Casey Heynes story link, bullying and taping it is rampant at that school….pretty messed up!

“But some students at the school see things differently. According to the Telegraph, students at the school said violence was a daily occurrence with fights often filmed and posted online.”

Tropical_Willie's avatar

Bullies need an enabler ___ Read it that Mom is a bully too and the ENABLER at the same time.

wundayatta's avatar

@Cruiser If you read my answer, you’ll see my speculations about some reasons why there is rampant bullying at the school. I agree it’s messed up, but it is far from uncommon.

filmfann's avatar

In fairness, her son did try to walk away from the fight, but ended up kind of stumbling away.

I love how the mother is trying to turn the whole thing around. It’s the other boys fault! It’s the poster of the videos fault! It’s the fault of all of you watching her little precious trying to hammer the jaw of that big bully!
Fuck you, and fuck your addle brained offspring.

OpryLeigh's avatar

No. I hate this “victim culture” that seems to have taken over the world. This bully finally got his comeupance and his mother obviously can’t handle the fact that her son being a bully reflects badly on her. If it was my mother in this situation she would have given my brother and I a clip round the ear and tell us we deserved everything we got and, I think, in the eyes of the world, if this mother did the same she’d be more respected than she is by whining about how hard done by her little shit of a son is.

ragingloli's avatar

And then, following another feigned punch from Richard, Casey Heynes acted. But it is not right to call him Casey anymore, because he is much, much more. He is the Beast. Channeling the power of the Immortal Ones, the Beast threw himself at the Rat and subdued him.[FINISH HIM!] He then proceeded to hoist the Rat up in to the air, pausing briefly to savor the smell of fear, before slamming the Rat down.
[FATALITY!] Contemplating a kick to the head, the Beast, wise and merciful in victory, decided against it, knowing the Rat was already humiliated and broken. One of the Rat’s cronies came up with the intention of getting revenge, but when the Beast looked him square in the eyes he became paralyzed with fear. The Beast, satisfied with his work, turned and strode off to his lair.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

The wipe doesn’t fall far from the ass (“Psych” quote, if you’re interested). She’s deluded, as if the publicity was purposely fabricated by that other kid.

SuperMouse's avatar

The bully made a bad choice, a really, bad choice. But really is a mob mentality and bullying him in return helping anyone? Every parent who is positive they raised their little angel right and that their would child would never do anything like this should hope and pray they never make any bad choices or big mistakes. The fact is we all do the best we can to instill morals and values in our children but the best of us exercise poor judgment at make bad choices.

@wundayatta, I doubt very highly this young man is going to benefit in the slightest from the notoriety. Judging by the tone of these responses he is more likely to be vilified.

@marinelife do we even know whether or not this boy has apologized?

sinscriven's avatar

While we’re on the topic of unreasonable requests, if she wants an apology, i want Salma Hayek in a bikini riding a unicorn with a slab of bacon.

That kid has absolutely no reason to apologize for getting his self respect back.

filmfann's avatar

@sinscriven If I can underbid you, I will take Salma without the bacon, bikini, or unicorn.

sinscriven's avatar

@filmfann I see what you did there. Well played. >.>

TexasDude's avatar

How often do you hear “my baby din’t do nuffin” whenever shit like this happens?

Michael_Huntington's avatar

Apologize for what? If anyone should apologize, it should be the bully (for being pathetic) and the mother for being a dumbass.
Low life—that’s all you’ll ever be
Lies in effect—that’s what you like to see
Death-Low life

wundayatta's avatar

@SuperMouse I’m glad to see someone who is less cynical than I am. I hope you are right.

SuperMouse's avatar

@wundayatta I don’t think I have ever been told that I am less cynical than anyone! I am taking it as a compliment!

tranquilsea's avatar

What is this lady thinking? If anything she should have stood in front of those cameras and said, “What my son did was wrong and he has learned his lesson.” A mea culpa on behalf of her family.

@ragingloli I needed a laugh today and you have provided it…in spades. Thank you.

flutherother's avatar

The mother “demanded an apology from the victim” That says it all really.

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