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Since when do you start counting the length or period of time of a relationship?

Asked by Ranimi23 (1917points) April 5th, 2011

We first met almost a year ago but only after a few month we got connected and start dating. There was something in the air if you can describe it right. It took us a while longer to date. Today we officially recognized as a couple. Probably I am going to propose soon.

The problem is I can not define how long we’re a couple. One year? Six months? How many months? I know there are certain dates couples are celebrating but it is not clear. So how and when do you start to count? First date is the beginning of a relationship or even first kiss or first sex?

Yesterday a good friend asked me how long we’re together and this bothered me, that I can not to tell him exactly how long.

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augustlan's avatar

First date usually means the first time you went out (or hung out) together in a romantic way. Most people count from that time forward. Congrats, by the way!

ucme's avatar

From the first kiss onwards, it’s never the same again. Nineteen years & counting…....shit, if this was prison i’d have been out on good behaviour long ago :¬(

AmWiser's avatar

Go with the month you got connected and started dating. As you said there was something in the air, I would assume that was the time you both felt as one.

gorillapaws's avatar

I think the first BJ is a good benchmark (just don’t tell her that).

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

I’m with @augustlan on this one. The first date is when you first go out as a couple, so you have been ‘together’ since then.

bunnygrl's avatar

Yep, first date honey, until you marry and then folk usually count how long they are married. As in, “oh we’ve been married 26 years now….” and congratulations, I hope you’ll always be as happy as you are now, sending huggles xx

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I think a general timeline is given from the first date…

For my husband and I, we count it from the night we met, because we both fell pretty hard that first night.

klutzaroo's avatar

Since you started dating. That is the thing that everyone counts from. Not that hard.

Are you sure, @Ranimi23, that this is the right girl for you? Have you had her fertility checked to make sure that she can produce children for you? All the other things that have disqualified people in the past are absent?

cookieman's avatar

My wife and I dated (hung out) for a few months, but we didn’t start “counting” until we decided we were going steady (or whatever you call it).

Of course, these days “dating” may have been replaced with “hooking up” and “going steady” may have gone the way of the dodo.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Congrats on finding “the one” @Ranimi23!

We counted it from the first day we decided to date, which was about a month after we met. We picked an arbitrary day on the calendar for it.

We’ve been married for 7 yrs, have had only one wedding anniversary, but always remember our “years together” anniversary in summer…this year it’ll be 14yrs.

downtide's avatar

My partner and I count from the first date. 25 years, 5 months and 9 days.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Usually people will say, “We’ve known eachother for a year, but have been dating for three months.” That pretty much takes care of “how did you meet?” as well.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

My partner and I met online so we count our time together from the month we couldn’t stop talking to each other on gchat even if we didn’t think of ourselves as a couple then.

singerronnie's avatar

I prefer to count starting with the first date. I think pretty much everyone counts this way.

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