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NSFW... Harmless Typo or Freudian Slip?

Asked by RealEyesRealizeRealLies (30951points) July 28th, 2011

Recently a client of mine, a model, has been calling and emailing me for services beyond what I normally do for them. She’s made some comments that I don’t know how to take. I’m pretty oblivious when someone is flirting with me, and even more oblivious to advances. It just doesn’t register, because I have a strict policy to NEVER get involved with people I work with or for.

I know many photogs that can’t get work because they have a rep for screwing with the models. Refusing to do so is one of the reasons I’m still around after thirty years.

I never get high on my own supply, so to speak.

Well, in working out portfolio prints a few months back, I made it clear that my cough was because I was sick with bronchitis. She asked if I was taking medicine. Yes, the Doc put me on some kind of steroid. She seemed extremely interested in my taking the steroid, and made it clear that I would be a sexual superman while taking it. I shrugged her comments off as friendly odd conversation, but the way she kept on about it was a bit uncomfortable.

Now she’s wanting additional services that are out of the norm. And the email she sent has a typo that stuck out to me like a sore thumb. Maybe I’m a bit sensitive and making this all up, but something tells me that she has other intentions on her mind. The last line of her email reads as follows:

“I will pay you. Contact me soon for disucss.”

Now… is it just me, or is the way she spelled “disucss” a Freudian Slip for Dick Sucks? I might add that she’s disrespected her husband on a couple of occasions, out of the blue, with no prompting by me. I always get off the phone wondering why she said some of the things she said.

Well I don’t want to turn away honest business. But I also don’t enjoy working in uncomfortable environments. My job is to tell women how beautiful they are, and to feed their egos. It helps them relax for my camera and produces better photos for fashion. There are times I feel that goes beyond what it is intended to do. I find that sometimes the more beautiful a woman is, the more insecure she is with herself. If she’s having troubles in her relationship, she may take my comments too much to heart, beyond their intentions for a smooth photo shoot, and use them as an excuse for further advancement.

Uhhggrrhhhaggg… I hate this side of my business. Is she coming on to me or am I just an old man reading more into things than he should?

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11 Answers

syz's avatar

My vote is typo. (And she doesn’t know her corticosteroids from her anabolic steroids.)

Aethelflaed's avatar

I actually didn’t see it as anything but a typo until you pointed out that it sorta sounds like “dick sucks”. So I’m thinking you might be reading into things. If it was me, I’d be more obvious about it – maybe a “dicksuck” instead of reversing two letters that don’t even properly sound like “dick sucks”. She might be flirting with you, although I don’t know that it’s necessarily more than just a playful banter kinda thing, but I don’t think that email line is anything.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Hmmm….I am not sure…either way,just ignore it and stick to business as usual.

marinelife's avatar

I think you are imagining that the typo was a Freudian slip.

That said, it does seem like she is trying something.

josie's avatar

Absolutely no way that is a typo!.
I cannot begin to tell you the number of times women have told me they want to “succs my dis”.

rebbel's avatar

“I will pay you. Contact me soon for disucss.”
I read something else in it.
“I will pay you. Contact me soon because this sucks.”
Or: “I will suck you. Contact me soon for pay.”

Cruiser's avatar

I think you are dreaming and mis reading her words to fit your fantasy. People at your age do not dabble in double entendras and come right out and say… Do me NOW!

Keep it professional no matter what or you will fall in line with all the othe sleaze photogs!

Sunny2's avatar

To me it’s just a typo. The c and the u are reversed. Relax and get back to wokr.

Haleth's avatar

Whatever her intentions were, you saw something sexual there, and it mattered enough that you asked about it here.

CunningLinguist's avatar

If it were a Freudian slip, she would have written “dicsucs” rather than “disucss.” There is nothing sexual about “dissing” an “ucss.” Seems to be more of a Freudian eye slip on your part.

linguaphile's avatar

I think you see the Freudian slip in the context of her other behaviors. If she had just written that without having all the other behaviors, you would see it as a typo, automatically, right?

Typo aside, if you feel her other behaviors are pushing your boundaries, then you can subtly (I know subtle isn’t you but you said you want to keep the business so that’s what I’d do) insert a comment about never dating your clients, never in 30 years… etc. It’s not straightforward, but it might do the job of getting some distance between the two of you. If she won’t back off, then maybe become too busy. (I don’t like to give “dodging” advice, but in business, sometimes that’s what it takes to keep calls coming in, right?)

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