Have you ever just wanted to "go in" on an ex?

It’s not worth it. You will get satisfaction later, knowing you killed them with kindness.

Despite how ridiculous it sounds the best revenge is truly living well. It will show them that you don’t need them to move on. It will show them that you excel, succeed, and are much happier without them.

Trust me… The Devil walks amongst us… I don’t suggest it. You might just indavertently date him, and when the devil does what the devil do, and you get pissed off and God forbid defend yourself… everybody loves the devil and his mate so you end up on the total bad end of that.

Trust me, I knoOoOoOw *Smirk.

Live better without him, it’ll feel good.

@Blackberry yeah but guys are ddumb and don’t realize what’s happening
@Neizvestnaya I do feel better without him, but like I said, there are things that we need to keep in touch about, so for the near future we are still in contact sporadically. and everytime I have to talk to him, it just frustrates me that I wasted time on him, and he still is wasting my time :/

Yes I have wanted this very, very much. In the end I controlled myself by remembering that is just one more way to connect with him. Most of what he does seems to be in an attempt to connect with me. When I react to him, he is getting that connection.

@Ponderer983 Riiiiiight…..

@Ponderer983 You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to do. There is always a way out and a way around. It’s better than drama and hate so bad you can’t swallow food for weeks on end…

I understand the desire to smite him, I have even been there and done that on occasions with my ex, however the advice given my others to try to rise above it, is right. When I have lost it with my ex, I haven’t really felt better (or only for a little while) and in the long run it has just led to more animosity and an ever increasing level of stupidity from both of us. When I look back on the wins I had, they don’t make me feel better. I feel a bit stupid for letting him get to me. I am better than that.

Get whatever it is you need to do with him over and move on. Find ways to get all that anger out and at some point in the future, what he thinks and does will no longer matter to you. You will be the better person and will hopefully have a happier, healthier and altogether better life.

Eh. Meh. Not really.

Just don’t give him the satisfaction. Your happiness and closure shouldn’t depend on him.

man, women are bitter as shit

@tedd Not helpful

@Simone_De_Beauvoir lol.. I know, just an observation :).

I have never wanted to “go in” on an ex, or just unleash all hell on them. None of my exes have hurt me to that significant of a degree that I would feel the need to. I understand when my ex’s that I still communicate with, have some issues because of our past…. it happens… I deal with it, where appropriate I make clear to the X that we are done, and i move on.

No need to haul off on someone just because they’re going through a depressed moment or whatever.

Can you give us a hint as to why you need to talk to him at all? Do you work with him? Do you have kids together?

Don’t give in to your temptation to tell him off. I’m guessing that he did something awful to you, but since you have already broken up, stay broken up. If you have to speak to him about something other than your relationship (still don’t quite understand why you have to see him or talk to him at all) then just be very business-like about the whole conversation.

Never allow yourself to become emotionally involved with him, when you are talking to him. Even if he asks you why you are “acting strange” or “being cold” which are huge buttons that men push when they want to drag you back into a situation that you have already exited. Just tell him that you two are no longer together and that all conversation will be 100% business-like and repeat it as often as you need to. If you slip up and start telling him how you really feel (angry, lovey-lovey, confused, disgusted, lustful) you will open up a big hole of vulnerability that he will drive a truck through.

He may deserve to be screamed at and told what a disgusting so and so he is, but if YOU are the one that does that, you will put yourself right back into the middle of the situation that you pulled yourself out of. Don’t allow that to happen. Hold your head up high, be business like with him, and move forward.

@tedd Maybe you haven’t opened yourself up enough to get hurt that badly?
@Kardamom I’d rather not say why I still have to talk to him, but it is neither of the scenarios you mentioned. Up tp this point I have been to the point in our conversations and nothing emotional on my end has slipped in, but on his end it has. I’ve ignored it to this point. You do make a good point though. Thanks