What do you make of an ex who acts like this?

*I warned you. LOL

*See other thread… Remember “Devil” Shhhhhh….

*Although for some strange reason I have the feeling that this can ONLY EVER happen to me.

Trust me, turn, walk away and chalk it up to experience that you should NEVER ever repeat!

It depends, but in my opinion, it would be more awkward to be silent the whole time. He could be being an adult and having a conversation, or he could have a motive. Doesn’t seem like a big deal from the details.

If you just want to get over it and be done with him, it doesn’t really matter why he is doing it. Just maintain a consistent distance, even when you are forced to interact with him.

Usually when someone has asked me that, what they really wanted to know is if I was involved with someone else yet.

Maybe he’s just being civil? I would be, in similar circumstances.

But I haven’t given him any kind of impression that I want to be civil or anything of the sort. I say things flatly and matte of fact.

Why are you determined to make things stay awkward? He’s probably just trying to have a normal, civil, professional relationship. Just because you have a messy history doesn’t mean you have to be rude or icy forever.

What’s with the tension? Relax! It’s all good.

I don’t get why this bothers you so.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Pssst… I think they still like each other.

Shhhh… Don’t tell.

@GabrielsLamb Well I know, that’s obvious.

Ya never know when mere pleasantries can morph into a booty call. ....just sayin’......

:D

I started my divorce almost a year ago!! and my ex always asks me how I am going. I am always civil. It’s ok to just distantly conversational.

Maybe because, despite all the grief and the change in your situation, he still cares for you as a person and is being civil about it all. That you can’t accept \that is too bad, but no biggie. Just maintain your cool, aloof attitude. Or stay on the other side of the room. He’ll get the idea.

I guess you may have to tell us the certain reason why you have to interact. Do you work together? Do you have kids? I can’t think of any other reason why you would have to interact.

@GabrielsLamb has hinted that you and this guy have an icky history and that you may have gotten back together with him at least once. I have no idea whether that’s the case or not. If you have in fact gotten back together with him, even if it’s just one time, then he probably assumes that you might be willing to get back together with him, even if it’s just for a booty call.

If you really don’t want to be with him (and others on this thread, who may have more knowledge about the situation have hinted that you still like him) then you need to figure out if you really do want to get back together with him.

I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that this guy is a real creep and that he either dumped you in an ugly and dramatic fashion, or that you dumped him because he did something awful (like cheating on you). If you guys broke up because he’s not a quality guy, then you have to come right out and tell him that you don’t want to talk to him or see him or have any other contact with him (unless you have to because of work or having a child together) In that case, simply be polite, but distant and don’t play into any of the potential crap. Don’t get angry at him, don’t engage him and don’t fall under his charms if that has been your problem in the past. Douches don’t turn into Princes. Just doesn’t happen.

But like Auggie said, if he’s over the whole ugly thing, and you have to interact occasionally for whatever your certain reason is, then he might just be trying to be polite. Even if he is up to no good, just don’t buy into it, don’t engage him and don’t think about “giving it another try.”

Is it possible that you could give us a few more details? Otherwise we’re all just speculating here.