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Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

Men, have you ever dated a woman who could beat you up?

Asked by Imadethisupwithnoforethought (14635points) October 26th, 2011

Does anyone have experience dating a woman who was highly trained in a martial art or boxing? Perhaps she lifted weights?

Have you ever asked such a woman out? Would you?

Did this have any surprising effects on the relationship? I am curious to hear if this adds unexpected emotional complexity to interactions.

This question is not about abusive relationships in any way. I am trying to get at the assumed power dynamics of male/female relationships.

Please feel free to answer if you have experience in a GLBT relationship within which a normal power balance was reversed for you

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YoBob's avatar

Heck, I married one…. ;)

I prefer strong, capable women. It’s the helpless shrinking violet types that I am totally turned off by.

rebbel's avatar

I am three years with her now.
No martial arts, boxing or karate though…., she is a tickling champion I lose every fight.
It doesn’t have a negative effect on our relationship.

TexasDude's avatar

All of them.

I like it that way.

Mantralantis's avatar

No. That’s on the wrong fetish side of town if you know what I mean, thank God. Haha. But I do have my fetishes. Let’s just say I would actually want to be a few feet away from that one.

Okay that may have been to much. Yep.

KidCurtis's avatar

Something I’d like to have a go at but I’ve never been with a woman who I couldn’t take down if it came to that.

Blackberry's avatar

I haven’t, but I would like to. This woman looks like a good start for a beginner like me. Lol.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Why does it have to be someone with training or someone who lifts weights? I don’t do either of those things, but I’m absolutely confident that if it came down to it, I could hold my own in a fight. Not because I’m a skilled fighter or especially buff, but just because I am ruthless in a fight.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@ANef_is_Enuf doesn’t have to be. Just trying to be clear it is a foregone conclusion. You do not suspect that the person could beat you up. You are pretty sure they could, and badly.

Brian1946's avatar

Only in my fantasies, unfortunately. ;-)

Aethelflaed's avatar

Can’t all women beat you up so long as they know how to use household weapons? And children who have achieved some level of fine motor control?

boxer3's avatar

um. this is hilarious.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

@Aethelflaed of course. I have always been physically stronger than my girlfriends, and I have never considered what it would be like to date someone physically stronger than me. Have you dated someone stronger than you? Please tell me about it

Blondesjon's avatar

Up and down.

repeatedly . . . to completion.

Aethelflaed's avatar

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Most of them have been stronger than me. A few weren’t physically stronger than me, but I haven’t dated anyone who couldn’t defend themselves physically through some means.

6rant6's avatar


But then I haven’t dated that many.

boxer3's avatar

Woah that’s crazy, @Blackberry , how did you find that video of me?

filmfann's avatar

When I was dating, I was 6’3, 185 to 225 lbs.
No, not that I remember.

Blackberry's avatar

@boxer3 You’re the second woman I’ve mistaken as a dude. :/ Ooops. But congratulations, the Spartan warriors called and said they need you in battle.

KateTheGreat's avatar

I’ve been able to beat up all of my ex-boyfriends.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar


How did they handle it? Was it ever weird?

even the stripper? :)

boxer3's avatar

@Blackberry, hahaha, no worries: and is that so, well damn- on my way.


Never. All the women I’ve dated have always been really nice, gentle, lady-like and feminine.

Coloma's avatar

My yin and yang is well balanced, and, I could squeeze the life out of you with these american thighs. lol

linguaphile's avatar

In college, this guy liked me and while flirting, he tried to wrestle with me. I accidentally threw him about 10 feet away onto a bed. He thought it was hysterical. I was sick—couldn’t date someone I could throw 10 feet.

bookish1's avatar

Yes, it was hot.

Dutchess_III's avatar

My ex husband once told me that if I ever got raped it would be my own fault because I was strong enough to fight a guy off (not including himself of course.) I laid in wait for about 6 months. We came across a huge, huge guy, about 6’6, probably 280 at a lumber yard. I said, “What would you do if that guy wanted to hurt you?”
His instant response was, “Nothin’! What could I do??!!”
At which point I reminded him of his idiotic comment months earlier.

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