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Mariah's avatar

Do you think this Facebook incident means anything whatsoever?

Asked by Mariah (25876points) December 4th, 2011

I’m not normally one to read into these details too much, but I guess I just feel kind of sensitive right now.

It was my friend from college’s birthday the other day, and I, along with a lot of other people, wished him a happy birthday on Facebook. I looked at his page today and he had gone through and written a short reply to every single person’s message…....except for mine.

He probably just missed mine or something, right? I just feel weird about it. I haven’t seen him in over a year but I thought he wanted to stay friends.

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Blackberry's avatar

Hmmm, I don’t know. Ask him in a joking manner so it doesn’t seem like a big deal to you lol.

bobbinhood's avatar

I’m guessing he just missed it. It’s easy enough to accidentally skip somebody when you’re trying to hit a whole page.

marinelife's avatar

That has happened to me in congratulations threads here on Fluther. I chalked it up to an oversight.

If you are worried, just message him about something else and see how he responds.

cockswain's avatar

I would make no assumptions about that at all. It’s possible he overlooked it, and you’d look petty asking him about. If he intentionally ignored it, you may learn a truth you’d rather not hear.

Unless you don’t care give a crap what he thinks and want to ask anyways.

JilltheTooth's avatar

Probably just missed you on the list.

gondwanalon's avatar

I have acquired 8o friends on facebook and I find it overwhelming and I take a cursory peek at it once or twice a week. If your friend is like me it is easy to see how comments can be overlooked. I miss a lot. I just don’t have time for it.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I’m guessing he missed it. I got something like 110 wall posts on my birthday this year, and I tried to reply to all of them… but the next day I noticed that I had missed a few. Especially when responding from my phone.
I’ve had this discussion with other people, believe it or not, but it happens all the time. Don’t take it personally.

jrpowell's avatar

I wouldn’t read much into it. Probably just a oversight. And life is easier when you don’t assume the worst.

dappled_leaves's avatar

I am sure he just missed you. Or perhaps he means to send you a separate note. Few people are that blatantly passive-aggressive. Or that passively aggressive, for that matter.

perspicacious's avatar

Oh brother. Find something to do that’s productive. This kind of thing screams that you have too much time on your hands. Also, you might do well to stay away from Facebook. It’s JUST Facebook.

judochop's avatar

It’s just Facebook. If you really want to keep in touch with him write him an email, something more heart felt. Perhaps a holiday wish or something but I would never mention a possible oversight on Facebook. You will appear needy.

Countrybumkin's avatar

Dont be offended. Its probably an oversight. Try to convince yourself that it doesn’t matter because it really doesn’t. facebook irritates me

zensky's avatar

I hardly ever write something unintentional. Or vice versa. If I don’t respond to someone here, it’s usually so I don’t get modded for telling them off – so I ignore them instead. Having said that, he may have just missed you – so why not just write him something like hey, how you doin’?

If he ignores you again, cut your “losses.”

Mariah's avatar

@perspicacious No shit I have too much time on my hands, I’ve been sitting around my house for the last 14 months healing up from surgery. I’m being as productive as I can under the circumstances, thanks. I log onto Facebook maybe once a week, excuse me for wanting to stay in contact with my friends who are scattered all over the country. If my question bothered you you could have just not answered it. It’s JUST Fluther after all.

@everyone else, no I would never confront him about something stupid like this, it just got me wondering. Thanks for reaffirming my belief that it’s probably nothing.

zensky's avatar

Oh, it’s something alrighty.

Countrybumkin's avatar

i want to delete fb

lillycoyote's avatar

I think it was probably just an oversight, though I’m the kind of person, depending on my relationship with my friend and my mood at the time, might post something like”: “Hey, what am I, invisible? Everyone gets a thank you but me?” With a little smiley emoticon at the end so my friend would know that I was being good natured about it. And then person is supposed fall all over himself apologizing and explaining that he didn’t mean to slight me. I’m not necessarily saying that’s you should do, it’s just something I that I might do.

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Ayesha's avatar

Don’t worry, it was probably just an oversight. You wished him and did your part :)

AnonymousWoman's avatar

He may have just skipped over your wall post by accident, as others have said.

LuckyGuy's avatar

I had a birthday and people sent me greetings. I know I saw one from someone but when I looked for it later I could not find it. Why? No idea.
I just replied to the ones I saw quickly. People have to realize a “no reply” is not necessarily a “negative reply”.

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