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(Potentially NSFW) Do you ever wonder why people tell you certain things?

Asked by AnonymousWoman (6528points) January 5th, 2012

One of my friends decided to tell me that his poop was green recently in a conversation. While I understand that he is sick, that was way too much information.

What have you wondered why a person would ever tell you?

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FutureMemory's avatar

My father sometimes will tell me about past sexual exploits…I really don’t want to hear that shit, especially the way he repeats it over and over as if it’s the first time he’s told me.

King_Pariah's avatar

I assume it’s for their own entertainment to see if they can get some sort of reaction out of you. It’s quite silly really.

Kardamom's avatar

If it’s medical info, there really isn’t much that I can’t listen to and have some sort of info or advice to give (mostly consulting a doctor or looking at Prevention Magazine or Mayo Clinic’s website for more info). With medical conditions I always want to help and do what is best for the patient.

With sexual exploits, I would feel mostly out of place with anyone other than close female friends revealing info and I would let the “offender” know so.

Some people may “inadvertently” offend others simply by divulging medical problems, but once you yourself, or family members have suffered cancer or bowel disease problems, you have no idea of how much awful problems people have to go through (some painful, some embarrassing, and all very frightening). If you feel uncomfortable or ignorant, please tell your friends/relatives that you really don’t have any info/authority to offer an opinion, but please don’t tell these folks that their conversations about their ailments are boring or gross to you. You never know when you, yourself might suffer from some horrrible ailment or disability.

Sexual exploits, on the other hand, are not really valid conversation, except between the sexual partners themselves.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Not really. I am comfortable talking about just about anything imaginable, I assume most of my friends/family already know that… so they speak freely about anything they wish. Doesn’t bother me, but I guess that is the point.

phoebusg's avatar

No, because I’m open to hearing absolutely anything and treat it in a similar way – as information. I do think earth would be a better, happier and more cooperative place if not only we got used to telling the truth of what concerns us/is going on up there – but also if we learned how to receive it, be ok with it and make good use of any type and kind of information comes our way.

augustlan's avatar

I’m an open book myself, and people frequently tell me the most amazing things. It doesn’t bother me a bit.

AnonymousWoman's avatar

Okay, you guys are right…. but I just didn’t want to picture my beloved friend pooping and then looking at his poop… it put a visual in my head I didn’t want to see. If the same thing was said by a member on this site who I have never met or seen in my life, it would have been different…

I also do think he likes my reactions to some things. I thanked him for the gross image it put in my head (sarcastically) and he said “You’re welcome!” It sounded like that was said in an amused tone.

Blackberry's avatar

If I’ve just met them, yes.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@AnonymousGirl I don’t think it is necessarily unusual to not want to hear those types of things.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@AnonymousGirl In my fraternity at college the cook’s meatloaf gave everyone the green poop thing. I can still recall one guy saying “Hey, look I just took a green shit”. It’s kind of ironic, because he didn’t take a green shit, he left a green shit. And did he need to share?

Mariah's avatar

How close are you? How sick is he? Being the friend with the digestive disease myself, I can understand the need to let it out to somebody. It’s hard to deal with all alone. But if it’s bothering you, it will put a strain on your friendship, and he needs to know so he will stop. It is honestly hard to tell sometimes if you’re going too far with the information sharing. I know you probably think it’s obvious that talking about his poop is going too far. Understand that if he’s really sick though, this is a huge part of his life and it’s hard to bottle it all up.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Mariah I apologize for my comment. It was way too flippant when I think about what you’ve been through. Would you like me to flag it.?

Mariah's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe Oh goodness, no! There’s nothing wrong with it at all. It’s a funny story.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@Mariah You’re a warrior. :)

Mariah's avatar

@Adirondackwannabe Why, thank you. :)

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