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(NSFW) Pants not opaque ... Would you say something? What would you say?

Asked by dabbler (18896points) May 14th, 2013

I was walking toward a subway station and saw ahead a young woman walking a dog. She is maybe in her late 20’s, maybe not athletic but fit, and wearing black leggings and a white t-shirt for the occasion.
The dog stopped and made a poop. The woman responsibly spent a few moments to pick up the poop with a plastic bag, bending forward and down at the hips to do that.

When she did her forward bend, the opaque, black tights she was wearing went suddenly almost completely sheer, showing legs, butt, thong (white with navy blue trim and strings) in near unobstructed view.

That was fun, but I wasn’t sure she intended to share that much.
I’m a grayed, middle-aged, married guy (wearing a ring) and couldn’t come up with a way to constructively mention the phenomenon of the transparent pants – in case she was not aware of it – while causing her a minimum of upset.

Would you have said something to her? What would you say? Should I have said something? How to avoid seeming creepy about it ?

Were those some of the infamous Lulleman yoga pants that are got recalled ?

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jca's avatar

I wouldn’t say anything. I would figure it’s not my place.

chyna's avatar

I wouldn’t say anything. That is not going to be a position she will be in very many times, so I wouldn’t embarrass her by saying anything.
Or maybe she already knows what view she was showing and didn’t really care.

Unbroken's avatar

I am not sure there is a graceful or pleasant way to say something of that nature.

In that case if you feel compelled, and truly I would be grateful but might not exhibit it should that be me- Just be blunt and straightforward. Maybe she can even pull off a laugh at herself while mentally scrambling back to her apt.

livelaughlove21's avatar

I wouldn’t say anything. It would only serve to embarrass her. Ignorance is bliss; let her be.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’m guessing she didn’t intend to show that much. If you can tell the details on her thong that’s a bit much. I’d just go up and gently explain that things were not as well covered as she wished. Then play off what she gives me.

LornaLove's avatar

I wouldn’t say I reckon it’s more for a closer family member to point it out. She is fortunate to have been wearing a thong I guess. I often don’t wear anything under my yoga pants.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@LornaLove I might not say anything to you but I’d follow you around for a bit. :)
Please don’t slap me, I’m still coming off a concussion. :)

majorrich's avatar

After the Pic posted, then I might say something.

blueiiznh's avatar

seriously???????

She knows what she is wearing and the potential.

Yes it would have been creepy to say something.

glacial's avatar

If each of us was alone, I would probably say something. Pulling my “this is embarrassing, but I feel I must tell you” face.

Bellatrix's avatar

If I was a man, I wouldn’t say anything. I think it is way too open to causing you trouble. If I was there on my own and noticed, then yes I might quietly say ‘do you know your pants are quite see-through when you bend over?’

CWOTUS's avatar

I would just look at her and smile. And bring doggie treats for the next time.

augustlan's avatar

As a woman, I’d probably say something. Quietly. If I were a guy, probably not.

ucme's avatar

Seems you paid more attention than was necessary, i’m mildly surprised you didn’t take notes or recognise the brand of her thong.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Of course she knew!

ragingloli's avatar

I would be more concerned that I can see the pants in the first place. Put on a pair of trousers, man! Or a skirt, if you are a female or into that sort of thing.

CWOTUS's avatar

You could mention, of course, that her pants are reflective, and see where that leads.

dabbler's avatar

Thanks for entertaining the question, everyone. So the majority of you think there’s not much that can be said in that circumstance.

@ucme In my defense she was directly ahead of me in the direction I was going, about 15 meters away so couldn’t catch the make and model.
But to be honest I usually notice leggings in whatever direction they are.

poisonedantidote's avatar

I would have asked her where she purchased those lovely trousers, then I would ask my girlfriend if she wants to go shopping, maybe even do some spring cleaning of things on the floor when we get home. :)

Blackberry's avatar

It’s not a big deal. It’s not different than seeing someone’s bikini at the beach.

janbb's avatar

I don’t see as a strange guy how you could say anything and not have it be taken as an offense or possibly harassment. At the very least, it could cause great embarrassment to the woman.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Don’t say a thing.

Walk slowly and enjoy the view.

The way I see it, she was the one who bought the clothing (a choice) and she was the one who decided to wear it (another choice). In other words, she was alive and aware at all times.

Sometimes life gives you a little spice.

bob_'s avatar

I’d be all “yeah!”, but I wouldn’t say anything.

carob_tree's avatar

I once was shopping in a supermarket and a young woman in front of me had a large blood stain in her white sweatpants.

I didn’t tell her myself but I mentioned it to another patron who approached her. She was mortified and ran out of store holding her purse over her butt.

jca's avatar

On the news they just said that the CEO of LuluLemon just stepped down due to their yoga pants being “see thru in certain areas.” I wonder if this girl in the OP’s question had on LuluLemon’s pants?

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

I would be temped not to say anything because:
• I might be accused of obsessing over women’s bodies.
• I might be accused of obsessing over what she chose to wear.
• I might be mistaken for trying to hit on her.
If I were to mention anything to her I think I would keep it to “In the future stoop down or double glove it”. If she don’t get it and ask, I will give it to her with less sugar, if she don’t ask then I hope she figures it out before she comes out like that next time, but since so many women like to use leggings as pants, maybe one of her friends will tell her.

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