How much younger & older of a person would you date?

Your questions creep me out.

Eight either way. I’m 41.

2 or 3 years older; 15 years younger.

I’m pretty much with @Sunny2 although I would go up to about 5 years older if the guy was still in good shape.

As long as we both can give each other 100 percent and take care of each other I don’t think I really factor in physical age at all. It’s more about emotional and mental age. Some twenty somethings are very mature, some forty somethings can be terribly immature.

Let me check with my wife and see what my limits are… I’ll get back to you.

@Mama_Cakes Hahaha. They creep ME out! I am a weird woman with weird areas of interest. What can I say? Accept me for who I am.

@lovelessness You’ve found the true use of the internet: Diversity rules! Go with whatever rocks your boat.

I’m 34. If I were not married, I would be willing to date men that were up to twenty years older. I wouldn’t go younger than my own age.

@WillWorkForChocolate A young stud might just go all night long if you encourage him a little. :)

I am 20, and I’d date men below 40, and above 16. Am I sick? Maybe, a little. But mind is almost all that matters when the age sounds too out-of-it!

@Adirondackwannabe Meh. I’d be more interested in someone that likes comfortable evenings at home, reading together or watching a favorite TV show together, and stuffing our faces with pizza and chocolates, before passing out together and enjoying a full night of restful sleep.

Fuck, I’m old.

@WillWorkForChocolate Nah, you’re not old. Maybe just a little used to family life. You and hubby should have a little time alone together to get the blood flowing a bit. (I have a chocolate question for you. I’ll post it now)

@WillWorkForChocolate I am 20 and I don’t like going out with friends, I don’t like malls and I don’t like to gossip. All I want to do is relax all day and do nothing, or watch films/documentaries read books and meditate.

So I often fall for men in authority. It might sound sick to most people here, but when I was in high school, I would have intellectual conversations with most of my teachers, and we would be ‘friends’ (sort of). I would talk with my teachers more than I used to with the students in an every day basis.

I get along with my parent’s friends very well and we write to each other and meet up often. Gosh, why am I like this? I wonder how I am going to be when I am around 40. Probably dead by then?

I am 58. On on-line dating sites I search down ten years and up to a year older; 48 – 59.

I’d go out with a woman in her forties if we were getting on and I didn’t know her age to begin with.

And I believe the ½+7 rule as a bright line- So for me, 36 is the absolute lowest I would even consider.

@lovelessness I’m the same way. I don’t like going out very often, unless we’re just taking the kids out to dinner. One of my best friends is the same age as my mom. Aside from my husband, I always dated much older men. Maybe it’s a combination of being an “old-soul” and a homebody.

@Adirondackwannabe Nope, I’m just an old 34 year old. :D

I wouldnt date younger, or possibly the same age. Always older, preferably 10 years or more, after that, I don’t care.

Whatever the legal age of that nation was* up to 32–35 (she can still have a couple of kids before the well went dry). However, all of that is moot if she was divorced or had children already. Near my age or above, that is a non-starter.

*There is so far down I would consider a viable union happening no matter what the law said.

I guess I don’t really have any hard and fast rules. But I have had nothing but frustration dating guys my age or younger, and prefer 10+ years older. Our society lets many people remain children for so long, even celebrates it. Little capacity for reflection or emotional self-awareness, intellectual dilettantism, just want to party all the time, etc. Ever since I was a kid, I’ve been better at engaging with people older than me, and I have had life experiences that have caused me to grow up very quickly. Honestly, I’m not that interested in dating guys much under 28 or so, but I could make an exception. The guy I’m seeing right now has a couple decades on me and it’s totally cool. We have similar values and perspectives, and kind of feel like old friends that just met.

Totally depends on the person as far as older. Younger. My absolute cutt-off is 18.

2 years younger, 7 years older. So, 21–30. I find guys in their 40’s to be most attractive, but I probably wouldn’t date a man that could be my father.

I also have a tendency to go for the older male. If they are courteous, intelligent, and know what is up and down.

Most don’t waste their time on video games or practice swilling beer for hours. They can be excellent conversationalists and usually have developed a wider area of interest then you. They also let me lead a lot or if I signal I am interested but hesitant they will step up but not bound over steps. They can take their time.

Though I haven’t gotten to any long term situations other then friendships with these blokes. A twenty year age difference will matter in long term.

I have dated two people one to two years below my age. They say age is not a factor in maturity but it is a factor in experience. I want someone to be my equal and forget the males now adays that want to be a submissive in a relationship. Call me old school but while I have no problem teaching and being taught or mixing it up every now and again but a relationship built on inequality goes against every instinct in my body.

I’m 42—If I didn’t have a SO, I’d say I’d date someone about from 35–50, but my SO is 54.

Not any older and 12 years younger is fine.

I’m a 45 year old heterosexual woman. My range would probably be 38–52, although it wouldn’t be a hard fast rule. My husband is my age and I wish he was a few years older. He looks so young, he could easily get a 25 year old I think. Ugh. Definitely 30.

Intelligent, thoughtful, curious and funny men are rare. If I found one any where from 5 years younger to 15 years older I’d bite….if I wasn’t already married to said intelligent, thoughtful, curious and funny man who happens to be 2 years older than me.

I just turned 60 and have been dating women in their mid thirties to late forties for the past ten years. I don’t put a limit on it. I live a very active life and find that most women my age are very sedentary. Although I enjoy being with people who grew up in my era, I will not trade my lifestyle for sitting and watching TV, or obsessively socializing on the net. I’ll save the habitual TV watching and cyberaddiction for my dotage. And not very many women, young or old, will live on a sailboat. So, that leaves me with a small, curious, active, adventurous cohort of females to choose from, but at my age, that is more than enough.

Answer is hypothetical, since my current GF is the greatest woman ( 5 years younger) I have ever met and I am not going anywhere.
But since you asked. Never older. Legal limit younger.

Well, I’m 18 so I wouldn’t date anyone younger than me at this time. I wouldn’t feel very comfortable going a lot older either. Maybe two or three years.

My partner is 17 years younger than I am. I didn’t choose this and suspect he didn’t either. But I just love him for him, it is just one of those things. I don’t really care about age that much either way, if I am going older or younger. It is the person to me. I have never been one to follow rules I suppose. I do understand such an age difference has its own inherent issues.

When I was 20 I dated a 40 year old. My sons father is 15 years older than me.
A few years ago I dated a guy that was 7 years younger than me.
I’m 42 now, my fiancé is 45.
There is a guy at work that is forever trying to get me to go out with him. He’s 25.
If I weren’t engaged I would most likely go out with him.
So I guess I really don’t have any limits on how much older or younger I will go.

Well seeing I’m 40 googolplex+ years old I might have to go younger, but I would like to meet someone my own age.

I’m 40, so my age preferences have changed from when I was younger. Generally this is an iffy topic for me anymore. I’ve usually prefered older women throughout much of my life, but my negative experiences with some of these older women lately expanded my age gap consideration. I came close to dating a girl who is 20 currently, for she really liked me. I had pressure from others to date her as well, despite my protests. The 50 year old I’d decided to date ended up ditching me, and the 20 year old just gotten out of a relationship where she was physically beaten.

Sometimes I wonder about some of the decisions I’ve made, and whether my age pre-requisites were justified. I felt guilty about the younger girl’s negative experience with the guy she ended up going out with, a guy she would not had been with if I would had asked her out.

Generally these days I’d prefer a woman 25 to 45, but I look like I’m closer to 22 than 40, and I’m in very good shape. Yes my age requirements have gotten more liberal over the past few years, but this guy is taking a long break from dating for a while.

My boyfriend is 20 years older than me. I can’t imagine going any younger than myself (27) but that is only because, so far I have never been attracted to men my age or younger.

OK @Leanne1986, now I don’t feel so alone, haha. Some of my friends think it’s weird that my gentleman friend is twice my age.

@bookish1 I’m sure a lot of my friends do as well but we have been together for a long time so the “it will never last” comments have pretty much stopped now.

@Leanne1986: Good for you. I kind of feel like I’ve finally found something that might last, because the connection was between minds and hearts, rather than beginning with a hormonal attraction…which is how most of my friends pursue their dating lives.

@bookish1 Same here. It’s a great feeling :)

I’m married but I had a few very uncomfortable experiences when I was dating again at 41 . The guys asking me out were in their thirties and they thought I was too. One looked for gray hairs when I told him my age. Another was 36 and , when a drop dead gorgeous waitress in her thirties flirted with him, pouring his beer into his glass I was filled with dread. Right then I decided no more younger guys. That experience made me feel very insecure, silly or not. So I married a man three years older. My first husband was five years older. Now, if circumstances were such that I’d be dating I would stick with mature men my age or maybe five years younger. My ex ran off with a twenty year old when our daughter was twenty and it destroyed my brain! lol I am , at this point, not interested in skiing, bungee jumping, sky diving or speeding in anything. I am who I’ve become: very domesticated, sedentary and crave Nature and quiet. I do miss dancing , though. lol

@Aster Take zumba class. I always say half the women there take that class because their husband’s don’t take them dancing anymore.

Thank you. We’re pretty isolated out here, though and with 99 degree temperatures all summer I think I’ll pass. lol ps he never has taken me dancing anyway.

Where I lived in Memphis they did zumba classes in local chirches. People just donated whatever they wanted for a class.