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Is it possible to intentionally stop loving someone?

Asked by judyprays (1307points) July 8th, 2008

can reason ever really win over emotion?

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shrubbery's avatar

I’m sure if you try hard enough you can convince yourself that you don’t love them, probably by telling yourself that’s it’s better for them or thinking of it in ways that they will be better off, if that helps.

tinyfaery's avatar

If you can’t control who you fall in love with, I’d say you can’t control falling out of love. I love people I can’t stand. Wish I didn’t, but I do. However, this doesn’t mean the one you love must be in your life.

Knotmyday's avatar

Try, if you can, not to focus on not loving, but on letting go. Love is the good stuff.

That’s not my advice, by the way, it’s my grandma’s. She was far wiser than I.

marinelife's avatar

We can’t control how we feel. We can, however, transmute it: through time, through remembering the reasons why the love was not a good fit, through opening ourselves at some point to the possibility of new relationships and maybe, one day, new love.

One important aspect to this process is not to block the feelings, even if painful. It is in experiencing them and letting them flow through that change can begin.

Optimism101's avatar

I think the only way to do that is to constantly remind yourself of all the things that bother you about that person, but be careful cause then you end up disliking them. Which is cool unless you still want a friendship with that person. But thats from my own experience.

ljs22's avatar

Nope. But I find time and space do help. And meeting someone new, of course.

ninjaxmarc's avatar

Easily. Cold turkey, turn your back and never look back and just keep on walking forward.

flameboi's avatar

yes, just keep thinking of the bad things about the person :p

guesswho's avatar

emotion is a strong thing to wrestle. It is different for everyone and reasoning with an emotion can be challenging.
I believe that its not a matter or whether you can or can’t, but simply a matter of how emotionally tied on you are- or rather, how well you are able to talk yourself out of something… So to speak.

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