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Is it possible to have a romantic relationship without any attachment?

Asked by Safie (1223points) April 10th, 2015

I have my own views on this, but i’m interested in your views…some may say that non-attachment is a display of true love…what are your thoughts on this?

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rojo's avatar

I think so but from a personal perspective I classify it as lust.

Darth_Algar's avatar

No, it is not. Romantic feelings themselves are a form of attachment.

Safie's avatar

@rojo i would also agree with that too in fact, but also consider it a form of attachment of a sort as well.

marinelife's avatar

Romantic? Yes, I suppose it’s possible, but it would not be love.

David_Achilles's avatar

I wouldn’t consider non-attachment to be the same as non-possessiveness. If you mean can you have romance without being possessive then it depends on how you define romance. To me romance is not just moonlight and flowers and diamond rings. Those are only superficial props to enhance what real romance is.

Real romance is cherishing someone for their uniqueness and trying to see them from the inside as they see themselves. It’s all very emotional and a deeply resonant experience. When you do this you cannot help but feel bonded to them. I feel that it is human nature to not want to share your romantic partner with anyone. But your values and philosophy about human freedom may tell you that you need to let them be free whether you want to or not. This isn’t non-attachment in my book. It’s non-ownership and non-controlling but the attachment is essential to the bond you have that creates the romance. Otherwise you may have friendship, trust, and many other good things, but you do not have romance. It takes a strong person to trust and be open and to try not to confine the person you love.

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What do you mean by ‘attachment’ in this question?

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