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How do you handle situation where people are going away from you?

Asked by imrainmaker (8380points) April 28th, 2017

You know they aren’t coming back in your life. How do you handle such situation?

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janbb's avatar

You grieve but you stay busy too until it starts to hurt less.

johnpowell's avatar

Not give a fuck. They have their reasons.

jonsblond's avatar

Focus on the important people in your life that aren’t leaving you.

flutherother's avatar

It depends on the person. With some I don’t care with others it is hurtful. You can take some comfort by remaining loyal yourself.

Darth_Algar's avatar

“How do you handle situation where people are going away from you?”

With pleasure.

Sneki95's avatar

I accept it. If I were any better they wouldn’t leave, so it was pretty much deserved.
If by leaving you mean dying, no one could do anything about it either. It’s something you just have to accept.

Seek's avatar

With much rejoicing.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Cry. A lot.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Throughout most of my childhood I lost people who died, moved away, whatever.
I started thinking of people, relationships, as temporary, like tv shows. Some stay for years, some get only one season.

Brian1946's avatar

I realize it as the paradox of personal magnetism: likes repel and opposites attract.

Unofficial_Member's avatar

I certainly wouldn’t miss them. Unless they’re nice people that I care about.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I had several people who “went away” from me. Not because of anything I did, but because that was life. It was devastating. Oh my God it hurt.

ucme's avatar

Hire suitable replacements & repeat…

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

It depends on who the person is and why they are ‘going away from me’. Perhaps it’s a relief to see them gone if they are a friend and the relationship has become toxic. If I’ve also reached the point where I know a relationship has run its course, I might feel glad to see the end of it.

If it’s a family member or a loved one, even if the relationship is toxic, I’ll undoubtedly have regrets and if I’m not ready to let the person go, the regrets could be quite extreme and I’ll hurt a lot. I have broken off contact with family members and I’ve had family members break off contact with me. It hurts. Even if I know it’s good for me, it still hurts and I wish things were different.

Coloma's avatar

I’m with @Seek and @Earthbound_Misfit
Seriously, you just have to mourn a bit and cut your losses, nothing lasts forever. Enjoy your memories of the good times and time will heal the wounds, always does.

katelyryan76's avatar

The best way is to move on and focus on your work.

imrainmaker's avatar

@Earthbound_Misfit – I’m with you on that having to cut contacts with close family members. It’s really painful if you don’t want to do it but has to be done eventually.

jca's avatar

It depends on who they are and whether I like them or not, and what they’re doing when you say “Going away from.” If they move away and we’re good friends, then we’ll probably be in touch through social media, text and/or email.

kritiper's avatar

Accept that it is a part of life, then move on.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Time doesn’t always heal the wounds. They may not cut as deep as they did at the moment, but the pain will never go away.

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