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If you have ever been told by your partner that he/she wants a break how did you feel?

Asked by RyanS123 (54points) February 4th, 2018 from iPhone

I am considering telling my girlfriend that I want a break in a few weeks. We are both in high school and have been dating for 16 months. It’s not that she did anything wrong to me. Lately, I just haven’t felt attracted to her the same way I used to, and I feel like I’ve been feeling this way for a little too long. I’m not sure whether I want the break to end or not, it depends on what takes place during it. I’m just a bit nervous to do it because I’m very important to her and she’s even said to me that she hopes we get married in the future, while I really don’t want to marry a girl I met when I was in eighth grade and started dating as a freshman. I want to see other people and experience different feelings. One of our friends dumped her boyfriend of three years the other day in odd way, and my girlfriend told me she should’ve just told him that she wasn’t into him. That made me decide that my girlfriend thinks rationally and respects other people’s feelings and that maybe I should tell her I want a break. I just don’t want to make her feel hurt because she does mean a lot to me, just not in a way that I love her. Her sister also is very scary and definitely doesn’t like me, so I’m worried she’ll find a way to give me problems that really aren’t necessary. I was wondering if any of you have been in an experience where you’ve been in a relationship and told by your partner that they want to take a break, and how did you react to this?

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Darth_Algar's avatar

Don’t be wishy-washy and don’t expect her to just sit around waiting until you decide you’re done playing around. Man up and end it.

chyna's avatar

Agree with @Darth_Algar. End it now so she can move on and find someone to go to the prom with instead of you waiting a few weeks and putting her in a bind for proms, etc.

zenvelo's avatar

Don’t say “you want a break”. That is some odd kind of limbo; you are either dating each other or you are not. Don’t expect people to put their life on hold while you figure things out.

And don’t be an asshole and “dump” her. Have a nice break-off conversation with her that your relationship has reached its end. Treat her as you would wish to be treated.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Yes a nice gentle this isnt working and you deserve more break up. Dont get sucked into details or whys, trust me. Good luck.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Yep. Agree with @Darth_Algar . Telling someone “we need a break” is a wimpy way of breaking up. It’s basically a lie on your part and it’s hurtful to her.

End it nicely and keep her as a friend. Dumping her means that she’ll hate you for the next 65 years.

You’re in high school, for god’s sake. At that age, nothing is forever.

Sup_peeps's avatar

Kinda beaten down, mad, heartbroken.

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