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NSFW - What is good sex?

Asked by rebbel (29388points) 1 week ago

What constitutes good sex?
For me (now) it’s the sensation of (blissful) unity.

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

That varies and doesn’t always have to involve a chicken suit.
Actually, I’d say creativity and the ability to get inside their mind. That comes with closeness.

MrGrimm888's avatar

IMO. It’s when the girl wants/desires, to please a man. It’s obvious, when they are “phoning it in.”

I apparently, have a high sex drive. So. When I am with a girl, that I care about, I need sex, at least three times a day. At least….
That has been a blessing, in some relationships, and a curse, in others…

I desire my women, often. But, that can lead to them feeling as if theyare just a fulfilment of my needs. But in reality, I just want to be with a woman I like, as often as possible.

If they take it, as me using them, that doesn’t work. And it’s often hypocritical, because if I can’t perform, they feel rejection. And that doesn’t work either.

I, personally, need a girl who is willing to do it whenever, she, or I, need it.

I just have a high sex drive. And I don’t apologize for wanting be with a girl I love . To me, it’s instinctive. Maybe I’m wrong…

mazingerz88's avatar

Free or with a good discount. Lol

ucme's avatar

Good sex is standard & should be the minimum requirement.
Great sex is where it’s at & ends with both coming together.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Feeling released, an endorphin and oxytocin rush and a greater sense of connection to your partner. If you’re lucky enough to have one who will share that experience with you anyway.
Otherwise it’s just like sneezing.

MrGrimm888's avatar

^You’re taking the fun out of it . ..

I once read an article about kissing . It explained that the male’s testosterone, was exchanged in the saliva, making the female more acceptable to sex. And the female’s estrogen hormones, were also exchanged, making males more “compassionate.”

I love science, but sometimes, it takes away from the “magical” things in life…......

Dutchess_III's avatar

It’s good if I actually have an orgasm.

LadyMarissa's avatar

Blissful unity is a GREAT description!!! That’s one reason that my husband & I got along so well…he had been cursed with Erectile Disfunction & I with menopause about the same time. Physical sex was very painful for me & he couldn’t provide it anyway, so we found other ways of finding our blissful unity!!! Sometimes it was something as simple as a cuddle or as warming as a passionate kiss. I had always been a sexually oriented person until I hit the pause & I found it very freeing that I no longer was tied to the physical act of sex in order to feel fully satisfied!!!

For those who have never found that closeness, I found it an amazing feeling!!! It seems that @ARE_you_kidding_me has experienced it & enjoyed it as much as I did!!! Since my husband passed, I’m NOT looking for a new partner as I find it difficult to think that I’ll ever be that close to anyone else!!!

chyna's avatar

Sigh, I can’t remember.

Dutchess_III's avatar

(((hugs, darling.)))

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

@LadyMarissa Probably been 20 years ago now.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Skin on skin, full body immersion in the scents, texture and contours of the other person.
Mental connection, the feels, the trust, mutual admiration.
Humor, sex with cheekiness and side eye, some chuckles, makes it really great. Easier to try different things, too, if you can laugh.

LadyMarissa's avatar

@ARE_you_kidding_me It’s been 12 years for me, but one that I’ll NEVER forget!!! It was sooo special & intimate that I’m not sure it can ever be duplicated…it still provides me with EVERYTHING I need to feel the connection that we shared!!!

Patty_Melt's avatar

In comparing it to food preferences, some like cheeseburgers, some are into steak. I stay away from the mutton lovers, and vegans…
well, no meat? Hmm, nah.

When it’s good, you feel like you could ask the waiter for the check. You just know.
Me, I never understood the orgasm mystery. I never failed to experience multiples.
I chalk it up to soaps and perfumes. Inability to smell the
pheromones from a partner is a crucial block to examine. Without the chemistry, it is just a sweaty activity.
I’m not saying don’t bathe, but all things are bad if done to excess.

When the word exquisite enters you, and sprouts vines of joy from your pores, circling and filling the room with vibrant blossoms, you are having good sex. When you aren’t bothered in the slightest that salty droplets are sprinkling your face and neck, it is going good.
When you are experiencing your partner in Technicolor and surround sound, it is good.
When you are thinking you want a cigarette, but your partner isn’t done, there might be a problem.

I remember a joke from my Navy days.
How do you tell the difference between your girlfriend, your hooker, and your wife? Your girlfriend says, “Is it in yet?” Your hooker says, “Are you done yet?” Your wife says, “I think we should paint the ceiling beige.”

Any of those would indicate a problem. ;-D

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