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What does this mean?

Asked by MattxAmber (110points) August 31st, 2008

My question sounds so corny, and stupid, but its just something that has been bothering me lately.

I had this dream that my boyfriend told me he didn’t love me anymore, and that he loved this girl named Brooke (She’s in his AP Algebra 2 class) so I start thinking that this is going to happen, and I hate the thought, because I love him so much.

Another dream I’ve been having a lot more lately, is that I’m sitting at a park, and someone kidnaps me and just basically, kills me. I just think that its a fear that I still worry about which is why I dream about it. Someone did try to kidnap me, which is why I have that fear.

Why do you think I’m having these dreams? I know it sounds dumb, but I want to hear your ideas.

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wildflower's avatar

Sounds to me like this is still very much on your mind and you symbolically feel it would “kill” you to do this against your will.

RandomMrdan's avatar

all I know is this…if I ever had a girlfriend that kept thinking and letting people know how she thought “I was into some girl in my algebra class” it would drive me crazy….I think you should not think about it as much as you do.

If you’re relationship is strong, and he feels the same you do, you’ll be fine regardless of who he meets and might share a class with.

On a lighter note, I must say anyone with the name Brooke for some reason already seems pretty hot =) I mean come on, there are a ton of celebrities with the name brooke that are smoking hot.

JackAdams's avatar

I’m calling on my college psychology classes to partially answer your Q, but I’m not a professional psychologist. Hopefully, one of them might be a Fluther and will respond.

Dreams are sometimes the fulfillment of a subconscious wish. And I don’t mean that you have some kind of “secret wish” to be kidnapped & killed, but that you might feel that your life, as it is right now, lacks excitement & adventure, so your subconscious mind (while you are sleeping) creates some excitement and adventure for you, in the form of a troubling dream, which may be called a nightmare.

Amber, you’re 16 years old, and I am assuming that Matt is the same age as you, or older. Your age might also be a factor in why you have the dreams that you have, and should these dreams persist (and seriously bother you), then you might ask your school nurse for a referral to someone outside of the school system, for some private and professional counseling.

That’s what I would do, if I was in your situation.

August 31, 2008, 10:35 AM EDT

poofandmook's avatar

Amber: What I’m getting, from all of your questions, is that you may be infatuated with him, and not in love… but anyway, all that aside, I’m getting that you really probably aren’t ready to be this serious about a guy, and whether you were or not, this one is not a good “trial run” so to speak. You seem to have to ask too many questions that place a lot of other questions about his character in our heads. At 16, you shouldn’t have to ask those questions about your first (or one of your first) boyfriends. Find someone a little more on your wavelength. It’ll hurt, sure… but trust me… WAY better in the long run. Who needs a lifetime of poor relationship skills from some 16 year old twerp you dated in high school?

JackAdams's avatar

poofandmook gives some excellent advice, IMHO.

Part of the fun of being 16 and in high school, is the adventure of dating a variety of fun people, and filling your head with memories that will last the rest of your life.

August 31, 2008, 10:57 AM EDT

gailcalled's avatar

#1) I am not alone in observing that you are too obsessed with this boy. Find some other things to do and people to have fun with.

#) That is a classic anxiety dream. The details don’t matter; the emotions you feel when you wake up do.

Vivid dreams are common at your age.

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