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Have you ever known someone who didn't respond when you spoke to them, then get angry when you repeat the question or comment like you're being a nag?

Asked by Dutchess_III (42838points) 1 month ago

My ex used to do it all the time. Rick does it occasionally. We have a giant hole in the upstairs bathroom. Rick heard some meowing coming from the hole….Vanta went exploring, went through the original and ended up on the ceiling sheetrock above my head. It’s the second time.
As he went back up I said “You need to take a picture!”
No response, no acknowledgement, nothing.
So I said it again.
He yelled “I heard you the first time!!”
Why do some people do this?

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22 Answers

janbb's avatar

It’s called a husband, Dutch!

Jeruba's avatar

Yes. 43 years and counting.

cookieman's avatar

I have a teenaged daughter so…

Dutchess_III's avatar

Are you gals serious? It’s common? But it’s so RUDE!

Jeruba's avatar

…leading me to say, “I can always tell when you heard me because you don’t answer me.”

janbb's avatar

It’s also possible we are being nags sometimes. :-P

anniereborn's avatar

I dunno, this doesn’t happen to me.

janbb's avatar

@anniereborn Well, we all know your husband is a sweetheart!

Dutchess_III's avatar

@janbb….they think that if we remind them every 6 months to do the thing they were going to that one weekend 3 years ago they think we’re nags!

janbb's avatar

Well, actually my Ex wasn’t quite like that but he did not always respond to me.

Jeruba's avatar

(And then, “Well, why didn’t you remind me? You should have reminded me.”)

Dutchess_III's avatar

If he rear-ended somebody he’d blame because I didn’t say anything….

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Wife does that a lot. But if I do it her. to she’ll yell out my name 5 times until I respond. I tell her, yeah I know my name, and I heard ya the last 15 times you yelled me.

Dutchess_III's avatar

But if you don’t acknowledge her how is she supposed to know you heard her?

Nomore_lockout's avatar

I usually do, but if I’m on the throne down the hall or in the other bathroom it’s hard to hear her.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Well that’s rude on her part.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

I agree. We all have bodily functions, I respond as fast as I can.

KNOWITALL's avatar

Same with my husband. Annoying!

Dutchess_III's avatar

K so it’s adolescent girls and some grown ass men who do this?

JLeslie's avatar

Of course.

Smashley's avatar

Just a thought, but hearing problems are more common than you might think, and they can be a challenge for anyone to deal with. It might be that he hears you, but has trouble processing right away, but when you repeat, he gets it, and then gets annoyed at the situation.

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