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Is there a real narcissist who could tell me why my boyfriend is doing the things he does like silent treatments and small insults?

Asked by stormyskyz (4points) September 30th, 2021

My boyfriend didn’t talk to me for two days because I reloaded the dishwasher after he had loaded it. I think that’s a bit much of a reaction. Also, he says things like, “Those pants make you look fat.” but when I tell him that hurts my feelings he says, “PHAT fat”, but that’s not a term for thighs, hips, and butt which my pants contain. The internet says he’s a narcissist. What kind of help would a narcissist recommend I get for him?

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kritiper's avatar

It kinda sounds like he wishes you were someone else.
Or he wants to fully live his life the way he wants without your input.

Caravanfan's avatar

He doesn’t sound like a narciscissist, but he does sound like an asshole.

Nomore_lockout's avatar

Ditto @Caravanfan Dump him while you can. You deserve better.

zenvelo's avatar

DTMFA. You are not shit, but he treats you like shit. Tell him to go fuck himself ‘cuz he ain’t going to fucking you any more.

chyna's avatar

He treats you badly because you let him. Don’t take his abuse. Leave his ass.

gorillapaws's avatar

This is emotional abuse. Don’t be surprised if he starts physical violence next. It’s like a serial killer who starts out burning ants with a magnifying glass, moves on to killing puppies and then ends up eating people. Get the fuck away from this guy.

robbie2499's avatar

I am not a narcissist. You guy is a bully.

KNOWITALL's avatar

People who aren’t open to constructive critcism are usually not open to growing. He just sounds immature and sulky to me.
Why stay with him if he acts like a mean little brat? Loading a dishwasher is easy, imagine him as a life partner or parent, sister. No bueno.

seawulf575's avatar

Not enough details to make a determination. We are hearing one side of this thing. We don’t know what led up to these reactions. We don’t know really anything except what you have told us which was presented in such a way to paint him in the worst light possible. It SOUNDS like he is immature. But then, it could be that you are the problem and don’t want to hear that. Based on what you gave us it is impossible to give a reasonable assessment.

Mimishu1995's avatar

Everyone has given good advice, and I don’t think I need to add anything.

But I just need to point out: why are you asking for a narcissist’s opinion? You really think a narcissist will tell you the truth and help you? And getting a narcissist to get back to your boyfriend, even when he is being abusive, is just disturbing.

snowberry's avatar

All the narcissists I know would not admit they are a narcissist. It sounds like your boy
”friend” is beyond help. The biggest question is, why are you still there?

Mimishu1995's avatar

@snowberry yeah. At first I was thinking the guy was horrible, but then I read the details a bit more and I started to wonder why she needs a narcissist…

cookieman's avatar

I believe he is categorized as a homo sapient assholian.

Dutchess_III's avatar

He’s a baby. Leave him.

jca2's avatar

You deserve better. Don’t waste another day of your life with him. He doesn’t deserve you.

omtatsat's avatar

Give him the boot!!! He’s bad news!!!

Forever_Free's avatar

You deserve so much better. Stonewalling is emotional abuse.

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