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Anyone in a long distance relationship?

Asked by SoapChef (2968points) September 26th, 2008

Due to the current economic climate, my husband is going halfway across the country to take a job. We have decided to give it two years before we sell our home and I move too. I would be interested to know how others cope with the separation and how it works for them.

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PredatorGanazX's avatar

Communication,, keep a diary of what you do everyday and you can update him when ever you have the time.

Webcam will help as well so you can see while you talked to him on a nightly basis.

Both of you needs to put an effort it just wont work if only one party is commited just like in any other relationship ..

shockvalue's avatar

aah, I’m in New York, NY while my Girlfriend is in Oakland, CA. It’s killing me… but the phone helps. And lots of text messaging. We’re lucky to live in a time where there are so many means of instant communication.

SoapChef's avatar

Thanks guys. Yes, thank goodness for technology!

krose1223's avatar

ah man it sucks! Most definitely get one of those webcams! They’re great. I write in a notebook instead of writing on a bajillion different pieces of paper. Random texts are always nice… the sweet and sappy ones are best. ex. just wanted you to know I was thinking about you… I try not to think about how long it will be until I see him. It’s hard, but I just try to remember why I’m doing it.

jcs007's avatar

My girlfriend is in France, studying abroad for the semester while I’m here in Illinois. This is extremely difficult. But we usually use video chat, email, and Facebook to keep in touch. I just can’t grasp the idea of being away from my SO for 2 whole years. Good luck!

marinelife's avatar

Two years is a very long time even for a committed, happy, stable relationship.

You can;t rent the house and go?

My husband and I have done this. I know two other couples who have done it. Much past a year, you see real strains. Most decide then to recommit.

jeffnearlife's avatar

I’m in a relationship right now that’s 2 hours apart. Really too far to visit regularly, but we do get to see each other almost every weekend. It is KILLING me. Every issue is a monster one, and every little problem we have gets put on the shelf for a week. It’s exhausting.
I have no advice, I just really think it’s bad news.

acebamboo77's avatar

Hey, I’m in a long distance relationship, we are 6 hours away from each other. It’s a real challenge going from seeing each other every day to relying on other forms of communication in order to stay just as close.
The phone has become a trusted and relied on mediator. We talk nightly a couple times.
Msn or other chat technology really helps as well, i find that hearing his voice is never enough and being bale to see him makes me feel closer to him, in some pathetic attempt to stay connected. There’s days where I miss his smell, and I miss his touch, even just to know he’s beside me, but the situation does have its benefits.
The distance does have potential to put strain on the relationship, especially the physical aspect, but it opens so many opportunities to build you relationship into something stronger, because that is what it takes to remain together.

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