Is it possible to love someone that you do not find sexually attractive?

YES.

Yeah. I also think that when you start to love someone they get more attractive to you.

Of course it is. Love doesn’t just involve sex.

Well most people love their mother and I certainly hope they aren’t sexually attracted to her.

If you are talking romantic love I say no. Sex is an integral part of a loving, close relationship and without it even very strong relationships will suffer, perhaps irrevocably. I am just getting out of a 25 year relationship with a man who wanted very little to do with me sexually, it felt like I was married to my brother. For years I begged him to give me more attention sexually and I tried to create some kind of spark in the bedroom. Finally I just gave up and closed down that part of myself. I figured I was in it for the long haul until a bad decision helped me open my eyes to what was really going on. In a romantic relationship, the lack of sexual attraction is a deal breaker for me.

I agree with Allie. It’s very possible because loving someone changes things. If you weren’t initially attracted to them sexually, it usually ends up that you are, at least somewhat, if you truly love who they are.

Yes. People sometimes even marry someone whom they truly love and yet whose chemistry just does not turn them on. I think it is unlikely for that mismatch to go both ways, however; one party may not be sexually attracted, but the other one will be. And the first party has some other reason for the marriage.

When I posted my first comment, I wasn’t talking about the person you’re married to. If I didn’t feel a sexual connection with him, we’d be history. I was just talking about loving people in general. But with a spouse, I think it’s very necessary. If those feelings aren’t there, what’s the purpose of being married?

Totally.

People can become attractive because you love them. Just because you don’t want to jump in the sack with a person the moment you meet them, doesn’t mean that the sex won’t be fabulous with a deeper, meaningful relationship.

Yes it is. That love would just not be eros. It would be mostly agape love.

I agree with the general consensus.

Great question, by the way.

:-)

YES, I have treated several couples who could not perform or just did not want to. The sexual attraction had nothing to do with their love for each other.

While I agree that it’s possible to love someone you don’t find sexually attractive, it is also possible to be unable to love someone because they are not sexually attractive.

If you have both love and sexual attraction, that’s the best.

Sometimes sexual attraction turns into love.