I need help with asking my girlfriend's hand in marriage!

take her to where yall had yalls first date and propose to her there, it will be a memorial place and she will most likely find it very romantic. good luck!!!

What kind of girl is she? Would she appreciate the best restaurant she’s ever been to with all the bells and whistles? Is she the type who would like a scavenger hunt? Is she the type who would love it done over pizza and beer? It really depends on the type of girl she is, I think.

I’m not sure, but I don’t think her hand is the part you ought to be focusing on.

I don’t think it matters as much as you think it does. Everybody tries to be original, and then just end up making a fool of themselves. I know there’s all these original proposals in films, but unless your gf finds one of them specifically romantic (in which case you could just copy it), I don’t think it matters that much. She’ll just be happy to spend her rest of her life with you, or at least that’s how she ought to feel. And whatever that moment/place/situation is, you guys are the ones to make it a special memory.

Is she the type of girl who likes to be “noticed” in public or would she cringe in horror if 2000 people were looking at her at a sporting event, or if the entire staff of a restaurant came out and sang to her? (Or something public like that.)

What does she like and what do you two like to do together? Also, as Judi says, her personality makes a difference.

Do you play video games? Follow a particular sports team together? Go diving, bike riding?

Or are you two the type that love an intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant? Or perhaps a gourmet picnic?

What she will remember is you and your face as you ask. She will not be looking for mistakes. (If she will, perhaps you should rethink proposing.)

Be sincere. Be true to the two of you.

I agree with Judi and Marina, it really depends on her. If she’s the type that doesn’t like a lot of attention, it should be more private.

First of all, congratulations on finding the one you want to marry, and Welcome to Fluther! I think you will both be more comfortable and less self concious if you ask her in private. You’ll be nervous enough just asking, so having the pressure of strangers watching in a restaraunt or other public place will make it more difficult for you to find the words.

If you plan to ask her after a romantic dinner, you will probably be very nervous during the entire evening, and she might wonder what’s up with you. Keeping it simple can be just as romantic, and sometimes more so than doing something big like they do in the movies.

What about planning a romantic dinner or outing, but ask her before you go, so you can use the outing or meal to celebrate?

My SO asked me at home simply by handing me a rose with the ring tied to it with a piece of ribbon. We celebrated later, and I was much happier with that than a public display.

write down and rehearse what you are going to say but dont let her hear you!!

Don’t overthink it. If your girl is ready to marry you she will be happy with your proposition in almost whatever form it arrives.

@NaturalMineralWater im with you

Whatever you do, speak from the heart. Like _NaturalMineralWater said, don’t overthink it.

I’m married to a non-cying male – ok, very limited crying. When he proposed, he got choked up. What he said to me was the most honest and sincere words ever spoken to me. It was a beautiful moment.

Congratulations!

OMG! I have just the thing for you!! The Robbins Bros. Website. It is amazing! They have such great tips and ideas. After browsing through, “47 Perfect Ways to Propose”, “Frequently Asked Proposal Questions”, and “Most Romantic Places to Propose”, I had fallen so completely in love with love. Speaking as a woman, I would love, so just take a look, and it’s also really cool because they just have suggestions you can customize, it’s not all cookie-cutter, steop-by-step, like your following a recipe, you can totally make it your own.

*ah, misstyping: I meant to write, “Speaking as a woman, I would love for someone to propose to me with any of the ideas on the website”, not just “I would love” which sounds ridiculous.