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When do you celebrate a dating anniversary?

Asked by TitsMcGhee (8281points) March 18th, 2009

Or do you? If you do, is it the anniversary of when you met? Your first date? Your first kiss? The first time you considered yourself in a relationship? When you made it official on facebook? The first time you had sex?

Wedding anniversaries are easy – that’s one specific moment. But if you’re going to commemorate it when you’re still just dating, which day(s) do you remember?

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aviona's avatar

Mine was different with every boyfriend.

My first boyfriend it was just this random day that we hung out after we had already kissed several times, but it just felt official.

My second boyfriend I remember it was the 14th…but I honestly cannot remember why. (And it’s funny because since dating him I have decided that I definitely loved him but was not in love with him. And I don’t remember a lot about our relationship. Possible correlation here?

My third boyfriend was the first day we kissed. We drove out to the ocean at night. Oh so romantic. We didn’t really even start dating until much after that.

And then my most recent boyfriend was the first night we kissed/hooked up which happen to be the night before 420. Again, it took us a while to actually start dating. It was a very memorable night for the both of us, though. :)

cheebdragon's avatar

I have no idea when my anniversary is, i’m not even sure how many years we have been together (at least 5 maybe).

People really announce their relationships on facebook???

FrankHebusSmith's avatar

It varies by relationship. In a few we celebrated when we first met or kissed or something along those lines. The typical one was when we “officially” started dating. Then pending the other person might do small celebrations for like a month, 3 months, 6 months, and then from there on out probably just the yearly ones.

SherlockPoems's avatar

A dating anniversary. Sounds like ‘playing’ at a relationship. From the other responses… boyfriends and girlfriends seem to come and go without much thought or memory so I think it might be best to reserve ‘anniversaries’ for more meaningful relationships. Don’t get me wrong – dating is fun and can lead to serious relationships but perhaps the ‘serious’ relationships should be the ones celebrating anniversaries?

dlm812's avatar

I’ve only ever celebrated an anniversary with my now fiance. I knew that my other boyfriends were only short term, so it didn’t seem important to remember when we got together. With him though, it is important. We consider our first date to be our anniversary, and we only celebrate yearly. We are also planning our wedding date to be the same so that he only has to remember one date :)

laureth's avatar

Our “dating anniversary” covers three of those: the first date, the first kiss, and the first time we thought of ourselves as a couple. It was all on the same day. :) (The sex came a few days later.) What can I say – we liked each other a lot!

We celebrate both the dating anniversary and the wedding anniversary. Seems to be working out!

For other relationships, though, it was the “first date” in general. You have to be dating a year to get to the anniversary (annum = “year” in Latin) so less-serious relationships by definition never made it that far. “Six month anniversary” is a phrase that shouldn’t exist, for example.

dynamicduo's avatar

Honestly, I pulled a date out of my butt that was around a blog entry I wrote, the subject of which was the first date. And even more honestly, I can’t remember that exact anniversary date anymore and I have to look it up if I care. Which I don’t, generally. The date doesn’t really mean anything to me anymore. I’m the only girl I know who has this opinion.

EmpressPixie's avatar

My boyfriend and I got together at one point and decided when it was. There were a few dates up for the option: the day we had that conversation, our first kiss, our first “date”. We went with our first kiss. It was a few days after our first “date” (I wasn’t, um, entirely sure it was a date at the time) and about a week before we sat down and had the chat to determine we were dating exclusively for sure. But I spent the week in the middle home for Christmas.

I kept up with how long we’d been dating on a monthly basis at first. And, um, still do when I think about it. Oh look, today is 1 year, 3 months. Because it’s exciting!

EmpressPixie's avatar

@dynamicduo: That’s another reason we chose our date (though he probably doesn’t realize it). I can’t keep track of dates for beans. So it’s exactly one week before Christmas. I can remember that kind of relative date. But when I’m doing the above mentioned girly calculations, I have to figure out the date each time.

blondie411's avatar

My boyfriend and I actually celebrate two anniversaries ( I guess one wasn’t enough). We celebrate 1 on the actual date that we met 8 years ago actually in high school where we dated for a year before he went off to school and I moved away. We stayed in touch but never got back together until 2 years ago when I moved back. On the date that I moved back and we got back together is our other anniversary but to pay almost homage to the date we met we always celebrate on the other date as well. I know the date we met better than the almost one we made up. We joke that two dates are better than one!

casheroo's avatar

The first time we kissed and had sex were five months before we even started dating, and I dated someone else during those five months lol.
We count it as the day he “asked me out”, basically when he asked me if I would be his girlfriend. Sounds more childish than it was.

girlofscience's avatar

This is a great question because it definitely can be a weird thing to determine!

For us, we celebrate the anniversary of when we became an official couple, which we both consider to be the day we said iloveyou. We were friends for several years before we ever got involved romantically. The first time we had sex occurred (strangely enough!) exactly six months, to the day, before we became an official couple. So, we celebrate November 12 as our dating anniversary. And, though we don’t consider it nearly as important, we make jokey comments on May 12 (happy sex anniversary!), since it is also the half-year mark of officially dating.

Until the twelfth of never… ;)

drClaw's avatar

All through school I dated girls that wanted to celebrate every anniversary possible, but then I met a girl who had no interest in anniversaries. We are married now. I’m not saying that we got married because of her her disdain of silly ceremonies, but it probably didn’t hurt. Now we celebrate our wedding anniversary and love it when it comes around, because it’s important to us.

SeventhSense's avatar

First date.

charliecompany34's avatar

i remember the first conversation i had with a beautiful woman who later turned out to be my wife. we met and talked on a curbside for about 20 minutes in front of church on 12 MAR 95. i will never forget that day. three kids and two houses later, the rest is history.

FrancisRude's avatar

I actually dont know what day my girl and I started going out. Its around August, so we just claimed AUGUST as our MONTH. We normally go out the first weekend of August.

blondie411's avatar

We don’t make a big deal about the date as in having to go out and get gifts or anything. Just a simple wishing of “happy anniversary” or breakfast in bed is good enough.

plethora's avatar

This should be left to the woman to determine. Any anniversary at all will never even occur to us guys, much less multiple anniversaries. Just tell us when to chirp, and we will dutifully go buy a card the night before.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I like to celebrate if the dating goes a year or more. I’ve always celebrated but then I’ve always been in an exclusive relationship. We usually picked the day of our first date out together rather than the day we met or the day we made out kind of thing.

Strauss's avatar

After 23½ years together, we’ve pretty much forgotten when we had our first date. We were friends first, so it would probably be that conversation. However, I do remember the date of our engagement. (I used it as a security code for years).

AshlynM's avatar

First date, for sure. If we’re still together after a year, then it would make sense to start celebrating dating anniversaries.

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