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Guys, what do you expect out of that drink?

Asked by A_Beaverhausen (2440points) March 19th, 2009

ok, recently one of my friends went to london for a study abroad program and she told me about the difference between accepting a drink in a bar or club from a guy here, and accepting one there. apparently its an invitation. a dirty one.

so guys, what do you think your going to get out of that 5 dollar drink, is it an investment to you too? or do you just want a conversation? random hook up? friendship? thanks?

and should i decline next time i accept a drink in a bar? im not trying to take you home.

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rancid's avatar

If you’re the right kind of woman, and you don’t want to come home with me, I’ll want to know the reason why.

MrItty's avatar

I’ve never bought a drink for any woman I didn’t already know. If I ever did, it would be because I’m in a good mood and would like to strike up a conversation. I’d never assume that a $5 drink = sex. While I’ve never done the research, I’m fairly certain prostitutes cost more than that. :)

(I live in the US, fwiw)

Lightlyseared's avatar

well with London prices it would probably be a $20 drink.

bezdomnaya's avatar

That’s amazing! I just moved to the UK for grad school in October, and I have had a similar experience.

I went out to a cocktail bar. There was a guy there who I kind of knew, and he bought me a couple of drinks. Then, at the end of the night, he asked if I wanted to go home with him. When I said no, he told me that I “owed him” because he had bought me drinks. Clearly, this made him ever so attractive to me, so I agreed to go back to his place… and instead walked out of the bar.

I’ve never had that sort of experience in the US, even though numerous people have bought me drinks there. Honestly, I don’t think it answers the question, but there does seem to be a difference in the ‘contractual’ entailment.

Lightlyseared's avatar

Not all English blokes are like that. I’ll happily buy a drink and not expect anything in return ( except perhaps dome interesting conversation while you drink).

casheroo's avatar

If someone told me I “owed” them sex because they bought me something, I’d laugh at them.
Being married, I wouldn’t accept a drink that a stranger bought me, but if it’s a friend, I might. In my single days, I’d probably make out with them, if they were cute enough.

Lupin's avatar

I, too have never bought a drink for someone I didn’t know. And for the life of me I can’t understand why a woman would accept. You’re in a bar. You don’t know the guy. He’s half in the bag. What do you think he expects? Conversation? Did you sit with him all night and milk him for drinks and snacks just to see how frustrated he gets?
I have had great conversations in a bar by the way. Paid nothing and left with nothing but good memories.

KatawaGrey's avatar

This isn’t related to the question but I think it’s an interesting fact. When one of my high school teachers went to China, he kept getting fruit trays in bars. Apparently, that’s how the Chinese show interest in someone when they see them out.

elijah's avatar

I’ve had hundreds of drinks bought for me. The person will get a thank you, possibly a drink sent over from me. He then has permission to approach. Basically I see a drink as “I find you attractive, can we talk?” if I’m not interested, I will say thank you for the drink, it was nice to meet you. The end.
I find it extremely rude to not accept the drink if the bartender has already made it, sets it in front of you, and points to the person who bought it.
If the man walks up first and asks if he can buy you a drink, and you know for sure you aren’t interested in having a conversation, then politely say no thanks, I’m not ready for another.

alive's avatar

@elijahsuicide excellent! very classy! i totally agree

buying a drink for someone doesn’t substitute for wit, a good conversation, politeness, good looks, or anything else that would be attractive enough to get me into bed… sorry

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